When two folks are married and have different sex drive levels, it creates a problem, but you do not ruin a wonderful marriage over it. Mine high, hers low. Probably why I gained so much weight over the years. Then, I woke up one morning, eating a snickers bar and coke for breakfast, and decided I was going to DIE if I did not change something now. I just work out allot, after losing 160 pounds to better my life (now weigh 175..used to weigh 335). I dress well, eat right, alwasy make sure I look my best in public, and be the best damn husband and father I can be. I feel better about myself, and let the frustration of very infrequent sex, go. I do get allot of married women in my town now stopping me to talk to me and tell me how freat I look etc..that part is fun, and I can fantisize about that, and smile. Most guys in town now hate me. I have no apologies. I worked my A#$ # off to lose the weight...if I can do it, anyone can. Ok, how did this reply get into weight loss...sorry folks.