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Well what happens in most marriages. Secrets and lies, jealousy, anger - everyone suffers, especially if kids are involved. That's alot of shit! I know a couple who have an open relationship - no questions are asked, no details given. Every Friday night is their night to be separate and do whatever they wish - no questions asked. For 2 weeks in the summertime they also separate and go their own ways. This couple has been together for 17 years and have 2 children. They made the rules about 10 years into their marriage when they were considering separating. It saved their marriage! The funny thing is that they she more often than not just goes out with her girlfriends. You know the old rule - if you can't have it you want it. If you can have it - it's not so great. Especially when you have someone to come home to. What's one night a week, 2 weeks in the summer if you can have happiness, confort, a lifetime friend? Problem with all of us today is we want to be like our parents (us babyboomers) - well again I say were they as happy as you thought - think back. The way marriage is today - it just isn't working for most - time to look at other ways. It worked for the couple I know - and I would love to have the love and life as they have. OR - what if we got married and it had an expiry date? At that date you sit down and decide to re-marry for another period of time or separate. Perhaps that would take the stress off many that think they are trapped for the rest of their lifes! Uhmmmm - interesting.

Everyone has baggage, the older we get the more baggage we carry. It's life experiences. Hopefully your friend has learned from the experiences. If not and the talk is always going backwards - probably not a good sign. If the talk was a way of opening up to where that person has been and its not constant - that's good. It means you will have a better understanding. Don't be too quick to turn it off - give it a chance. Good luck!

Face it, for anyone over 40 or whatever, our parents married and put up with hell to stay married. Is it really the right thing to do? How happy are/were your parents? We are now in a selfish society. We want - we get! So lets face it - we can't change the world, perhaps we need to change the way we look at relationships. God knows the stat's are bad, divorce is common place, kids living with both biological parents is more and more rare. So what should we do? See the poll - let's find out....

QUOTE: Why look? When you got the best shit at home.....but ya never know the best might not be what your looking for....sorry had to vent. END QUOTE. Don't put yourself through hell! For goodness sake all your concern, your worries, nagging etc. are just going to drive him to do what you 'think' he is doing. Leave him alone - he comes home to YOU! There are too many beatuiful women in this world - face it women ARE sexy. Nothing you can do will change that. You're making YOURSELF miserable. How can you blame him for looking - you are with him because of who he is. Now you want him to change? You can't have it all. Let him be - as hard as that is. Don't give him the silent treatment, don't ruin the dinner party, don't deprive him of sex. If you really want and love him - leave him look. Looking does not cause harm and as a matter of fact if a pretty girl looks back and flirts with him - then he will feel good and sexy and YOU will benefit. Come on - you cann't change everybody around you - so change the way you deal with things. Not easy - but you can do it, you'll both be happier as a result. Good luck!

Well because they are 'suppose' to be the chosen ones. I don't really agree with that though - seems they are so desperate to recruit they take anybody! But at least they have to consult with each other and put on one common front. They would only take the good and which applys to today's world. Don't forget there are TOO many uneducated, desperate, poor, nothing to loose people out there reading this stuff. They take it too literally, that's why I believe it's dangerous for them to read it. As far as being lead blindly - doesn't it all come down to having faith, being the best person you can be, and being kind to all you meet (regardless of their beliefs, race, statue). It is not working today - so why not try something else? God wants his word spread - and as far as I can see our only change for peace is to make a directive to allow ONLY the preachers to spread the good word.

Reading the Qu'ran, the Bible etc... - leave it to the intelligent who will take the good out of it! That is why we have preachers! They are there to help decipher these words written so long ago! There are TOO many mis-guided idiots out there who are not intelligent enough, or who are desperate as they have nothing - and therefore nothing to loose. Do you agree that no one but the preachers should read these "books"!

How else can we stop terrorism?

WOW! I don't claim to know alot about all religions. I was brought up Catholic. All I have to say to all this is that you do not see people in developped countries blowing themselves up! There is always an international link! They came from there, they visited here, they studied there etc., etc., etc.. The idiots blowing themselves and others up are un-educated, brain-washed, pieces of shit that do not belong in the human race. It seems the only way to stop the escalation of terrorism is to stop immigration from countries where it is accepted. Yes ACCEPTED - you claim to denounce it. But your leaders do not wholeheartedly. Your religion obviously is too studied, too prayed, too analyzed that it leads to TOO much misinterpretation. Face it! This crazy worshipping is the problem. These words were written so many years ago - a different time and place. They do not all pertain to today. You MUST stop all this praying, memorizing the Qu'ran! It is primative. Only the intelligent should read it and preach the good from it that can relate to today's world. WAKE UP! Stop ALL contact with these countries. The cells that are already in hiding would eventually loose contact and smarten up (no contact - no brainwash) or they would eventually die! At least future generations would not have to deal with the assholes. Yes - it deprives so many the right to migrate and communicate with their families - but that would be the price of coming to a 'civilized' country! You don't agree - stay home! Go home! Stay home and denounce the stupidity. Perhaps if many suffer at the hands of "a few" as many say, then the pressure would be on to stiffle those "few". If you can't control you're own people - how the hell is anyone else suppose to? It would take many, many, many, years to open up immigration from these countries again. But that would be the incentive for "all you good folk" to fight your people who are ruining your life. It's your beliefs, its the terrible misinterpretation that these beliefs allow that are causing terrorism. Why the hell should we have to deal with it? It's not your fault you were born into such a religion - but your God has put you in this situation - or maybe I'm wrong - maybe it is your leaders that are pushing it all - just to damn hard! It's getting worse and worse - ENOUGH.

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Goodness, I get better advice here than from my friends! Good point. I know if the shoe were on the other foot, I'd want honesty too. It's just that some people like people around them ALL THE TIME, I one of those who likes to be alone sometimes. That is how I unwind. I guess it's a compromise like everything else!

10 years? I'm not an internet freak so no, never heard of you. I'm on vacation now, that is why I have the time to play around on the net. By the way, you know what they say about anybody belonging to the human race - we all like a challenge! As far as arousal - well hey the beaty of internet is that you can get high or whatever on words. Keep it up!

No, No, No - she is 4 years OLDER than I am.

She has been reading the bible! What do you suggest that I tell her to stop preaching to me? I was brought up a Catholic and will remain a Catholic - it's too scary to even think about changing. But since I don't agree with all their preachings - does that make me a bad Cathoic? Does it mean I can't or shouldn't call myself a Catholic. I wonder if it's the same for other religions - if you don't agree with it all - does it mean you forfeit your religion?

Doesn't give much. Guess that is your charm. Keep it up! Mystery is the ultimate aprodesiac (not sure if I spelled it right).

Girls - you like the guy, you enjoy his company - but HOW to you let him know when you need some alone time? What do you say? You don't want to be rude, you really do want him back - but at this peticular time, you just need some space. What do you say? Any good lines?