Has anyone else noticed that over the past few years more and more parents are dropping the ball with their children? I sure have.
Now, I know this isn't something new to the world and there have always been parents like this, but I've been noticing this more and more.
For instance my cousin's wife and to an extent my cousin (he at least diciplins his son). They have a 3 year old son. A week ago I took their son over to my house and he was very good. No problems at all.
I bring him home and he is playing around, running around, just having a good time. He walks over to his mother, grabs her neck and says "I'm going to break your fucking neck"...
Holy crap.
A THREE year old told his mother he was going to break her fucking neck. Does he get told that you aren't suppose to say that? No, he doesn't. She picks him up, puts him on her lap and says "Say it again" through her fits of laughter.
So, he starts saying "I'm gonna break your neck. I'm gonna break your neck. I'M GONNA BREAK YOUR NECK!!" This went on for over 5 minutes.
There is NO where else he could have learned this than from his parents (he can't sit still long enouh to watch TV). I am sure that in passing his mother said to him "One of these days I'm going to break your fucking neck" or something to that affect. OR, his father has said that to his mother. Who really knows.
There is a whole list of shit this kid hears, which when he starts pre-school and I am sure is going to get him booted out of that school.
Another example, my neighbor. She is 25, has 2 sons, a 4 year old and a 6 year old. They are allowed to watch R rated movies, she talks about sex, drugs, you name it in front of these children.
She is having some personal problems and is always having money woes. I am always helping her out with babysitting when she works at night (she is a waitress). I do this because if she doesn't work, she doesn't make money and they get kicked out of their house, leaving her children homeless.
One night, the youngest physically attacked his brother. I took him and put him into his room. He then started kicking me and attacking me, also with a straw that had it got me a half an inch closer to my eye, I would've been taking a ride to the hospital.
He stayed in his room the whole night. Did she ground him, or give him any kind of punishment for his actions the next day? No. The next day, he started to do the same thing when I had to put him in his room yet again, but my boyfriend had walked in and he quickly stopped.
Later in the week, the youngest and I were joking around and he said "You're a sex", I looked at him and said "You don't even know what that means" he went on to say he did and in the same breath said "It's when you get naked and touch boobies and pee pees."
I told him he was never to repeat that and it was bad. A 4 year old, knows the basics of sex.
I told his mother what he had said, but nothing was done about it. I was told that anytime he calls someone, anyone a name or talks dirty, to put him in his room for a time out. She did that for a week or so and no longer does it. I still do it, though. Even though it's not my job, someone needs to teach these kids something.
One day, he walked into school and told his teacher that she was a "poopie-head".
I understand that children come up with names like that on their own, but it's up the parent to teach them that it's not okay to say these things. It's not like he's never said it before. From the day I met them he was always calling someone a name. She should have tried to put a stop to it long ago.
My boyfriend use to be a school teacher (he got out of it for a number of reasons) but the main reason was how direspectful the children were, and I am talking about kinds from kindergarden to 5th grade, and the parent's themselves.
When he told the parents what the children did or said, the parents would go off on him. Cussing him out and even going to the administration.
I also watched a few episodes of 'Super Nanny' and was shocked at how those children acted and treated their parents.
I would never ever even think about saying or doing some of the things I've seen when I was growing up. That would have been the end of me.
I have so many more examples of parents and their children that I have mentioned, but it would make this post a hell of a lot longer than it already is.
Thank the lord for the parents and kids who are not like the ones I have mentioned. If it weren't for them, I'd have no hope for the future. Or, very little.