Asking out a friend

I feel kind of pathetic posting this thread, but it's a sticky situation

Alright, there's this girl that I go to school with that I'm friends with and I have a really big crush on her. I'm thinking she probably knows I have some feelings for her (some of my other friends figured it out and they aren't even around half the time). I would ask her out, but I'm afraid that it will ruin what we have and I will lose her. What should I do?

it is a sticky situation and iv been there many many times

theres not real easy way around it, either you go for it or you dont

they're the only two options your have im afraid

 

if you do go for it, your putting everything on the line

iv said this before, one of the best ways of becoming a better person is to take chances, coz at the end of the day, no matter which way your diction goes, your always glad that your took it

 

if things dont go your way, sometimes you get lucky and they think nothing of it, and you resume your friendship

but it is rare =S

so i'm totally going to sound cliche here; but it's the best i can do.

 

if you really do have feelings for her, ask her out. don't pussy out and be like "yeah; so will you go out with me?... to a movie i mean" nonon; just ask her out.

 

here comes the cliche part.

 

if you mean anything to her as a friend, but not a boyfriend, she'll say no but still be friends with you, without altering things.

You should definatly ask her out. Girls hate waiting for guys to ask them out, and chances are she knows you like her. The only time a girl didn't know her friend had feelings for her is because she thought he was gay...yea...which is doubtfully your situation. If she hasn't been ignoring you or acting differently in a I'm-just-being-nice-so-I-don't-hurt-your-feelings sort of way, then she is totally digging you too.

 

So yea...go for it. Even if she turns you down...it'll make her feel flattered just having a guy ask her out.

I don't know, it's up to you really..i went out with my best friend and when we broke up we are still best friends.

This works for some, but sometimes it gets a little bit awkward.

 

It's up to you how you really feel, if you want this to work then you may as well try.

You won't be able to stay friends with that girl in the end anyway, because I think you loving her will drive you two apart, if you don't tell her.

 

I'd take the chance.

You won't be able to stay friends with that girl in the end anyway, because I think you loving her will drive you two apart, if you don't tell her.

 

I'd take the chance.

 

Yup me too, I've had a crush on my best friend for nearly two years now, but he's giving me the silent treatment >_<

 

You should ask her, I think she'll definatley give you a chance, I mean, I always wonder what would've happened if I told him -.-

I was dating my friend and it was not that smart idea for us...btw, I asked him out...he knew before what's going on...everyone saw it...

He dumped me after 4 months...but we're still friends...

I'm gonna say that you should try...you never know...maybe she's the one...if you believe in that...

It will ruin it. I've been best friends with my friend for 7 years, same street, same school, same class. 3 months we started fooling around, big mistake. we stopped it and now we barely talk. small things can upset it, really bad.

U should ask her out dude, believe me, that SHOULDNT ruin anything.

i tried asking one of my friends out once we went to the show a couple times then we just became friends again. Now I hardly ever talk to her.

Things happen.

i think you should give it a shot. and if she stops talking to you, ask her why. conversation clears up everything.. well.. most things. but yeah, if you really like, just go for it.

I got the same thing going on, but i think ive past the point of no return of being "just friends" go ahead and try just be like "do you ever see us being more than friends?" or "could you ever see us being more than just friends" cuz if she says no that doesnt nessisarily mean to her that you were asking her out.

Sometimes u just have to take that risk n go for it. If she says no n things turns out weird, then ur just gonna have to settle things between each other yourself (don't be scared).

i suppose it dpends, if its just a small crush then its prolly not worth it unless he/she feels the same way.

 

if its something bigger and beyond ur control, i think it is best to giv it a shot coz either way things can go wrong, so why not take a chance and maybe do somthing right

yeah its best not to date friends cause it ruins the whole friendship if you break-up with them, that's why my friend steven wouldn't go out with me cause he didn't want to ruin our friendship.