He hates me

I debated on wether to post this or not, but I just needed to get it off my mind.

 

 

The one person I've always looked up to. The one person that I always see. The one person that I know will protect me. The one person that will defend me. The one person I know will be there at the end of the day. The one person that constantly has me laughing.

 

My big brother means a lot to me. He's all I've really had since I was five. He has always stuck up for me and always made time for me even when his friends were around. He'd let me hang with them even though I was just a little kid. He taught me how to put up with people & how to defend myself. He taught me how to fight. He's always been protective of me.

 

I doubt that you guys care, but I just needed to get this out. I've been crying for the last hour & I'm afraid that if I dont write it or say it then something else will happen [and I'm known to hurt myself] So... I figured I'd write out here.

 

He hates me. I guess he didn't realize I was listening when he was talking to our parents. He said things that made me feel horrible about myself. He made me feel so useless and hopeless. I keep repeating what he said in my mind and I can't help crying over it. I'm not usually like this. When people say stuff like that... I get over it very quickly. Like seconds after they say it. But to hear him say it... it really got to me.

 

He hates me so much. Maybe I'm blind, but I never realized it. He said things I couldn't believe. It felt horrible to hear it all. I can't stop crying at all. I dont know whats going on with me, but I've never cried like this before. I've never felt like this before. I mean yea if your someone who has known me... I've gone thru a lot of pain & whatever, but this really hurts.

 

I dont know what I'm goign to do. Eventually, I'll have to face him. I mean you can't exaclty live with someone without having to interact with them. I jsut dont know what to do. I feel like I have nothing left. My brother was basically my life & now I find out that he hates me. I dont have anything to live for anymore. I can't take this anymore.

Wierd! I was in the same situation as you. Except mine was alittle different becaus eit was my fault that my brother hates. I was doing shit like smoking weed and stuff. He got fed up fed up and threw all my stuff out of his room at me! I couldn't get over it for along time. I stayed with other family members for along time. I thought I would never ever recover. But you know what? I am fine. I see that I don't need him and it would be great to speak with him again. When the time is right I know I will. Have faith alright?

Thank you & I will.

 

I'm sorry for posting this. It was pointless & I know many of you have your own problems to worry about then listening to my bull&%^&. again... I'm sorry.

Thank you & I will.

 

I'm sorry for posting this. It was pointless & I know many of you have your own problems to worry about then listening to my bull&%^&. again... I'm sorry.

 

Nonsense. This forum is here for problems like this, and believe me dealing with the problem is alot better then the alternatives you hinted at.

 

I can't honestly say what you should do, except try and give your brother some space. If he asks about the change in the relationship, then its your call weather or not to tell him why...but just give him some time. Being a teenager is a confusing time for everyone. Maybe he is just going through a phase.

 

Don't get me wrong though, I don't mean to belittle your situation. It sucks, and its a shame your brother feels this way, but the best thing to do now is give him some space so he can think things through.

stop saying sorry for posting that!!! its what were here for, were your family

 

i can see why your hurt because i would be in your situation. you need to confront him and ask him why he hates you. ask him for an explanation and what you did to make him fel like that.

 

hate is a really srong word and i doubt he really "hates" you, ppl say horrile things that they don't mean all the time.

 

remeber were all here for you whenever you need us, just ask

stop saying sorry for posting that!!! its what were here for, were your family

 

hate is a really srong word and i doubt he really "hates" you, ppl say horrile things that they don't mean all the time.

 

remeber were all here for you whenever you need us, just ask

Exactly.

 

I don't believe he really hates you, I say I hate my bro all the time but when he needs me, I'll be there for him. There is a good chance that's the way he thinks.

He could also have been angry and throw out random brabble, but again, I don't believe he hates you.

Thank you guys....

 

I planned on talking to him, but my entire mind just shut down when I saw him this morning. I couldn't speak when he was around as much as I wanted to. It's almost getting pathetic. He's had my crying since last night & I can actually think about it now without breaking down, but I still can't talk to him.

Hey, don't worry sweetie, I know it seems awful but really I don't think your brother hates you! He's always been there for you so this means he loves you... he really does! You know what I think? You may have done something that pissed him off and you just witnessed his outburst. He was angry when he said those things to your parents and you know (take my word for it...) when we are angry we sometimes say the worst things that we definitely DON'T mean. I've faced a similar situation and I'm telling you this is how things work most of the time. Moreover, I think he is a teenager right? Well, one more reason to believe he said these things because he was going through a hard phase...Nothing more. Trust me, it's OK, give him some time and then talk to him. Ask him what the matter is and tell him that whatever you did you're sorry, show him your love and devotion and I'm sure this will bring you even closer... Good luck hon... :thumbsup:

You crying is perfectly normal and not pathetic at all..when my parents called me a junkie i started to cry as well.

 

Hopefully he will realise what he has done,and see how it has effected you.

Thank you & I will.

 

I'm sorry for posting this. It was pointless & I know many of you have your own problems to worry about then listening to my bull&%^&. again... I'm sorry.

dont worry thats what we're here for. and go talk to him about it. clear the air. just talk to him

i say the same things about my sis but we both know that if either of us have a problem we will go to each other and talk about it.

Hey....you know what???....Forget it...just be like...I am better than this....if he doesnt like me its his loss....You are an awesome person I am sure....and ppl can only get you down if you let them...famous words from Elanor Roosevelt....It will all work out..and you may even find yurselves closer than b4....that happened to me and both of my sisters...and now we are sooooo close...its pretty awesome...just let some time heal a little then confront him and find out what needs to be done to make it better...thats what I did...I am hoping for the best for you!!!! Keep us updated....