I don't see wat's so wrong about this!

[Cloud]

Well I have had quite a big debate about this one point, basically this is how it goes...

Well if a girl likes me, and I don't particularly like them. I tend to say she's ok and kinda give her hope that she has a chance. I'll be kind with her, treat her normally/cool, make her safe and make her feel loved. But I will not go out with her!

Now because many girls that I've brought this up with tend to hit me and say it's evil. Then I say so what should I do. The one and only answer is thats I should say no directly!

This will make her sad and upset, but my way makes them happy until they find another man (if it don't get to that I'll slowly break apart)! So how is this wrong? how is making them happy wrong?

One girl said well they can't get along in normal life and find another faster!

Well sorry that's so so so stupid, how she gonna find another man if she's upset about me!

What do you guys think?

 

[o0SugaxNxSpice0o]

That's very wrong lol! Lol, you must love the attention You're leading some poor girls on thinking that you're going to ask them out or whatever, and then BAM! You're just slowly building their hope bigger and bigger, until you're going to have to tell you truth sooner or later, and she's just gonna be way more upset than if you told her straight in the first place. You're playing games, and that's really tricky lol. You're not making them happy if it's all fake! FAKE I tell ya! The truth that hurts at first is always better than a lie to make them happy .

And how are they suppose to find another man if they've got this idea in their head that YOU like them? Perhaps they're waiting for YOU to ask them out, which you're not going to because you don't like them in that way lol ¬.¬. So really, you're not helping at all lol.

You should say "no" straight away. Say that you don't have feelings for them in "that" way, and hopefully, if you're nice enough, you can still be really good friends lol.

Your call though lol. I type too much ¬.¬ Good luck!

 

[Cloud]

no no its well appreciated!

I never tell em i dont like em. I never tell them its fake! Its just better than makin em feel unhappy altogther. I slowly break us apart, easily done... it works too!!!

I just hate ppl feelin sad over what i do (in this case sayin no) so i do w/e make them feel good!

 

[o0SugaxNxSpice0o]

Of course it's hard to "reject" someone lol, and it does make you feel sad and upset. But you shouldn't go on like that =P But I can see your point I guess.

 

[Cloud]

well, no it kinda makes me feel proud of maself!

making ppl happy, makin ppl doodle my name in ppls books! <--- Part of it that i like

But basically when they come up to ya and hug ya with a smile and you hug em back its great! I dont think ''egh get her off ma back'' I guess i must like the attention

This bad?

 

[allieking]

thats wrong!!!

letting the poor girl think she has a chance with you when she hasn't, just tell her straight. i'm sure she would get over you.

oh and by what you said you seem to think alot of yourself, a girl isn't gonna fall apart just because you said no.......your not some kind of *** you know. get over yourself is all i can say.

 

[Friðbjörn]

haha are you kidding? You don't think this is wrong? Ah well you're 14, you still have some time to learn...

Well I remember back in the days, when I was 14, people knew not to play with people's emotions like that. Unless of course intentionally

 

[Cloud]

eh dont worry. As long as there happy its ok!

Well i know how ya feel when you do get rejected in a sense, and i know its a lot harder for the girl. u just get less slack. it comes naturally... even if i try i couldnt help myself from doin this

caring nature... maybe caring in the short term.

 

[stupidsoul1]

Yes but think of it like a bandaid, the faster you do it the faster it comes off.

You shouldn't leave a memory of you in their heads, tell them how you feel as soon as you feel it.

there are not tooo many things that a worse to a girl then having her emotions screwed around.

i know your intentions are nice, but think of a more nicer way to say how you feel.

 

[Cloud]

are all replies by girls?

it seems at school its a boy vs girl case...

Ill consider greatly to tell them what i think of them straight away. although as stubborn as i am, i still dont find whats so rong with it

 

[Heart_LP]

ok I'm a girl and if some guy would treat me like that I wuold consider him to be a totall jerk!

now I'm not saying that you are one but your act is like one lol

I say reject the girl instead, after some time she'll fall for someone else

 

[stupidsoul1]

Because i guess it could be a normal situation for a guy, i'm not one so i wouldnt know.

i dont know, maybe all the girls that replied know what it is like to be screwed around or know people that have been.

personally i wouldnt let a guy effect me,especially if he played around like that but some people when they fall...they fall hard.

as for the slaps that you mentioned, i slap my boyfriend evertime i feel like it. so that is normal too

 

[Friðbjörn]

are all replies by girls?
it seems at school its a boy vs girl case...

Ill consider greatly to tell them what i think of them straight away. although as stubborn as i am, i still dont find whats so rong with it

I'm a guy.

Anyway how can you say they're happy, when you do this? I just can't get myself to believe that. No way.

 

[Cloud]

they dont know its fake... man its simple. they will never know. they all go back and say that brandons a cool guy LOL!

Its all good. but it makes ppl mad... so i wanna change

 

[LPGotLinkinPark]

You should straight up tell them that you don't want to go out with them. But you don't have to be mean about them. But misleading them is waaaay worse. Because then they think they have a chance and they find out you were just makign them think that. That really hurts to hear. Tell them no but tell them you still want to be friends or whatever.

 

[Clogz]

Telling girls straight up will not work. They will spread hate and rumors about you. I know this bit from experience, and I could fill half a page with the details.

And if you humor them even a little bit, you are evil. You are a player and a manipulator and then they spread more rumors and lies about you.

Cloud, what you are going to learn is that you won't win at this, you can't...so do whatever you think is right, because it won't change much. And thats the best awnser I can give.

 

[allieking]

i'm sorry but this is annoying, who do you think you are? some kinda superstar that girls fall all over.

i really hope some girl does this to you and then you will know just how it feels to have your emotions messed with by a hurtfull spitefull person.

oh and as they say....what goes around comes around, so be very carefull.

and i'm not a girl i'm a grown woman.

 

[Sygy]

ok...if you did that to me i would cut your ******* ***** off. seriously! your cruel. i didnt get that impression of you when i spoke to you i though you were nice. Never ever do that to some one. your mean!

 

[allieking]

ok...if you did that to me i would cut your ******* ***** off. seriously! your cruel. i didnt get that impression of you when i spoke to you i though you were nice. Never ever do that to some one. your mean!

well said *applaudes*

i say set sygy on him lol

go on girl do your best