I need help =(

My bestie is going out with a guy that I've really liked for ages. She knows this, but when they first started going out I was literally the last person to know. I had a fight with her over that and then I haven't forgotten about it. And when they are together, my other friend and I get so pissed off because she blocks all of her friends out and just wants to be alone with the guy I still like.

 

I don't know what to do. She's my bestie and he's a good friend. I did ask him out last term, but he said no and I was really down about that for a while.

 

What should I do? I still want to be friends with her, and same goes with my other friend.

there are a few rules in female friendship and they are as follows....

 

1. never date a guy your friend used to date.

2. never date a guy you know your friend likes.

3. never steal a friends bf.

 

 

your friend ahs obviously broke one of there rules wich i think is wrong!!! she knew you liked this guy and how hard it would be for you to see them together. i'd sit down and talk to her about how you feel. she also didn't tell you they were together wich shows she knew she was doing wrong.

there are a few rules in female friendship and they are as follows....

 

1. never date a guy your friend used to date.

2. never date a guy you know your friend likes.

3. never steal a friends bf.

 

 

your friend ahs obviously broke one of there rules wich i think is wrong!!! she knew you liked this guy and how hard it would be for you to see them together. i'd sit down and talk to her about how you feel. she also didn't tell you they were together wich shows she knew she was doing wrong.

 

 

You should listen to Allie...

I personally think that was a wrong move on your friends part, just because she knows you still like him. If you were over him, then I don't really see a problem. But since you're not.. well, that was kind of a 'dick move' on your friends part.

ur friend is in the wrong...dont do anything bc theres really nothing u can do without seeming petty, bitter and jealous

CAUTION: What I'm about to say may offend you in some way or another!

 

as you said she's your best friend and I know that its not my place to say, but you did ask for help. . .soooo

 

Your friends a bitch. That was fucked up of her to do and if I were you... I'd fuckin knock her to the ground. I know if my best friend dated someone that I was crazy about... I'd kick her ass. I love her, but I'd definetaly knock her on her ass for being a bitch to me like that. I wouldn't fight her over the guy or try to get her to break up with him, but I'd defintely hit her for that shit. Thats a bitch thing to do. I know she would do the same to me.

 

Your friend needs to check her boundries. Thats fucked up to date someone that you like and knowing that you like him. that is like saying "You weren't good enough, but I guess I am" . . . thats what that says. I can see an enemy doing that, but its your best friend. This girl doesn't seem like your bestfriend. Bestfriends dont do that to each other. Best friends know their boundries. . . & thats crossing lines right there.

 

You could talk to her, but dont try to talk her out of dating the guy. Thats done and over with. & you cant do shit about it. Just make it clear that what she did was pretty low and fucked up!

 

If you guys are best friends like you say you are then dont fight over the guy. There is NO point in that. let her date him. . . . but try to stay friends with her.

 

OR!! you could just drop her as a friend. if she's really your BEST friend then after they break up she'll come back to you. I hope you know what to do, sweetie. But honestly if she sees you as a BEST FRIEND then she'll know that she crossed the line and she'll do the right thing.

 

Good luck with this one.

 

All I have to say is if she were a bestfriend... she wouldn't have began dating a guy that she KNOWS you like. Thats just fucked up.

And I know that he is friends with me, and when she is around him, she completely shuts me and my other female friend out.

 

He's afraid that he'll say somethinng wrong, but lately his gf (my bestie) has been having mood swings. And my other friend, him and I are sick of it. I want him to say something because she doesn't listen to us, but to him. I'm also afraid that she's getting too much control over him.

 

I'm still afraid that I still like him, even though his gf turns out to be my best friend. And I don't want to steal him away from her, because she's my besty. But I can't help to feel that I do want to, because she's going with the guy that I originally liked.

Look man, you saw what happened to our friend ship over my bestfriend (which happened to be the guy you were fighting over)

 

If you want more friends to become your enemies you know what path to choose.

It's hard to look at this from a guy's point of view, I've gone out with a girl for 6 months knowing a friend really liked her. We stayed friends, yeah he took a couple of cheap shots now and then, I won in the end because... yeah.. lol.. anyway i think you should put your friends happyness first for now, if the girl haddent rejected my friend i wouldnt have gone with her, if this guy knows you like him, but doesn't feel the same way don't interupt their relationship, just let them be happy together.

I'm still fighting with her and now she's dragging my ex bfs into this. Saying that:

"Nick and I have trust. Something that Taffy and your other exs didn't have".

And im like "You can't say shit about my exs."

 

And my other friend and I have just stopped talking to her overall

What's there to do? There will be many other guys (trust me I'm boy-crazy and should know). Plus this happen to me except I was the first one to know. But if a friend is worth it then get the two friends to get along and find another guy to crush on (u will get over him). Many girls are like that they just want to spend time with their boyfriend but she probally means well (i hope).

I believe ur freind isnt in the wrong, unclaimed property is unclaimed property after all I believe with the other 2 rules but that rule just seems stupid. Us guys dont seem to have a problem with dating people we know other people like lol. Mayybe its a lady thing of which iI never will understand but dont loose a freind over a guy its just stupid n u will regrert it in the long run.

yea, matty matt, but it is a girl thing. A girl DOES NOT date a guy that her bestfriend likes. Its just wrong & it's crossing the line. now, male bestfriends do it, but the other person doesn't not care. you know what I mean? so yea it is a girl thing. It's crossing the line & it was very F'd up

my question is, did she love him also?

 

if not,

 

i would suggest ditch her, if all she wants is the guy, fukn blok her out of everything else. Ignore everything she says in conversations, ya know, all that crap, show her what shes doing.

And about the guy, i can't help you at all, im not good with romance in most cases... don't tease me either

my question is, did she love him also?

 

if not,

 

i would suggest ditch her, if all she wants is the guy, fukn blok her out of everything else. Ignore everything she says in conversations, ya know, all that crap, show her what shes doing.

And about the guy, i can't help you at all, im not good with romance in most cases... don't tease me either

 

thats a bit harsh & I know I wrote something like that in my first post, but just make sure that you make it clear to her that what she did was F'd up & thats crossing lines. Or do what Pererdea said.

thats a bit harsh & I know I wrote something like that in my first post' date=' but just make sure that you make it clear to her that what she did was F'd up & thats crossing lines. Or do what Pererdea said.[/quote']

lol i say take LPpinkfreak821's advice over mine. If you do what i said, be prepared for a possible war