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http://www.hss.caltech.edu/~mcafee/Bin/sb.html
So yo see so many doctor know to this kind of people like Illegal
Uliana!!!
Les aseguro I knows to this Uliana Abramova Illegal Stripper &
hooker!!!
She make exact fit of every thing this doctor is writing. She make
lies alla
time never to tell truth. She make surgry on face so many time so
change how she look. She doesnt care she brake family. She make
enslave of stupid married guy. She try & make sex with every guy for $
$
$. She make use every body have no feeling for any body. She think
every thing she want is come to her. She cant love any body only make
pretend for use man. She do thing for make exciting like to live on
the edge so make fraud for J1 when she could get F1 no problem!!!
Brake family & brake US law is so much fun for her!!! Do things
correctly make her bored to dead!!!
Finalmente she make use ever body to get what she want. Never she feel
for any body. This is bad person and no body can defend to what she is
& waht she does.
Now yo see doctrs know to this kind of people. They make profession of
know to this. Allso so many regular people cant believe any body is so
bad like psycho but doctors know to this is truth!!!
Every body need for make educate on these people. There are so many
psycho may be 3 to 5 in ever hundred people. We hve problem so many
people doesnt recognice to them so they knows how to make fool of
people.
So now yo understand alla what I write is not just opion of Louie.
Gracias a Dios I knows to this illegal stripper so can make warn to
every body.
> Even lovers get taken for a ride by psychopaths.
Stupid married guy need for to read specially this!!! Illegal Uliana
doesnt feel love for any body.
.................
EVERY BODY NEED TO READ THIS FOR PROTECT SELF & FAMILY & BUSINESS. No
need ever to go with psycho like this stripper. Read and make sure to
understand correctly.
Saludos,
Louie
...............
http://www.hss.caltech.edu/~mcafee/Bin/sb.html
Profile of the Sociopath
This website summarizes some of the common features of descriptions of
the behavior of sociopaths.
Glibness and Superficial Charm
Manipulative and Conning
They never recognize the rights of others and see their self-
serving behaviors as permissible. They appear to be charming, yet are
covertly hostile and domineering, seeing their victim as merely an
instrument to be used. They may dominate and humiliate their victims.
Grandiose Sense of Self
Feels entitled to certain things as "their right."
Pathological Lying
Has no problem lying coolly and easily and it is almost
impossible for them to be truthful on a consistent basis. Can create,
and get caught up in, a complex belief about their own powers and
abilities. Extremely convincing and even able to pass lie detector
tests.
Lack of Remorse, Shame or Guilt
A deep seated rage, which is split off and repressed, is at
their core. Does not see others around them as people, but only as
targets and opportunities. Instead of friends, they have victims and
accomplices who end up as victims. The end always justifies the means
and they let nothing stand in their way.
Shallow Emotions
When they show what seems to be warmth, joy, love and compassion
it is more feigned than experienced and serves an ulterior motive.
Outraged by insignificant matters, yet remaining unmoved and cold by
what would upset a normal person. Since they are not genuine, neither
are their promises.
Incapacity for Love
Need for Stimulation
Living on the edge. Verbal outbursts and physical punishments
are normal. Promiscuity and gambling are common.
Callousness/Lack of Empathy
Unable to empathize with the pain of their victims, having only
contempt for others' feelings of distress and readily taking advantage
of them.
Poor Behavioral Controls/Impulsive Nature
Rage and abuse, alternating with small expressions of love and
approval produce an addictive cycle for abuser and abused, as well as
creating hopelessness in the victim. Believe they are all-powerful,
all-knowing, entitled to every wish, no sense of personal boundaries,
no concern for their impact on others.
Early Behavior Problems/Juvenile Delinquency
Usually has a history of behavioral and academic difficulties,
yet "gets by" by conning others. Problems in making and keeping
friends; aberrant behaviors such as cruelty to people or animals,
stealing, etc.
Irresponsibility/Unreliability
Not concerned about wrecking others' lives and dreams. Oblivious
or indifferent to the devastation they cause. Does not accept blame
themselves, but blames others, even for acts they obviously committed.
Promiscuous Sexual Behavior/Infidelity
Promiscuity, child sexual abuse, rape and sexual acting out of
all sorts.
Lack of Realistic Life Plan/Parasitic Lifestyle
Tends to move around a lot or makes all encompassing promises
for the future, poor work ethic but exploits others effectively.
Criminal or Entrepreneurial Versatility
Changes their image as needed to avoid prosecution. Changes life
story readily.
Other Related Qualities:
1. Contemptuous of those who seek to understand them
2. Does not perceive that anything is wrong with them
3. Authoritarian
4. Secretive
5. Paranoid
6. Only rarely in difficulty with the law, but seeks out situations
where their tyrannical behavior will be tolerated, condoned, or
admired
7. Conventional appearance
8. Goal of enslavement of their victim(s)
9. Exercises despotic control over every aspect of the victim's
life
10. Has an emotional need to justify their crimes and therefore
needs their victim's affirmation (respect, gratitude and love)
11. Ultimate goal is the creation of a willing victim
12. Incapable of real human attachment to another
13. Unable to feel remorse or guilt
14. Extreme narcissism and grandiose
15. May state readily that their goal is to rule the world
(The above traits are based on the psychopathy checklists of H.
Cleckley and R. Hare.)
NOTE: In the 1830's this disorder was called "moral insanity." By 1900
it was changed to "psychopathic personality." More recently it has
been termed "antisocial personality disorder" in the DSM-III and DSM-
IV. Some critics have complained that, in the attempt to rely only on
'objective' criteria, the DSM has broadened the concept to include too
many individuals. The APD category includes people who commit illegal,
immoral or self-serving acts for a variety of reasons and are not
necessarily psychopaths.
DSM-IV Definition
Antisocial personality disorder is characterized by a lack of regard
for the moral or legal standards in the local culture. There is a
marked inability to get along with others or abide by societal rules.
Individuals with this disorder are sometimes called psychopaths or
sociopaths.
Diagnostic Criteria (DSM-IV)
1. Since the age of fifteen there has been a disregard for and
violation of the right's of others, those right's considered normal by
the local culture, as indicated by at least three of the following:
A. Repeated acts that could lead to arrest.
B. Conning for pleasure or profit, repeated lying, or the use of
aliases.
C. Failure to plan ahead or being impulsive.
D. Repeated assaults on others.
E. Reckless when it comes to their or others safety.
F. Poor work behavior or failure to honor financial obligations.
G. Rationalizing the pain they inflict on others.
2. At least eighteen years in age.
3. Evidence of a Conduct Disorder, with its onset before the age of
fifteen.
4. Symptoms not due to another mental disorder.
Antisocial Personality Disorder Overview (Written by Derek Wood, RN,
BSN, PhD Candidate)
Antisocial Personality Disorder results in what is commonly known as a
Sociopath. The criteria for this disorder require an ongoing disregard
for the rights of others, since the age of 15 years. Some examples of
this disregard are reckless disregard for the safety of themselves or
others, failure to conform to social norms with respect to lawful
behaviors, deceitfulness such as repeated lying or deceit for personal
profit or pleasure, and lack of remorse for actions that hurt other
people in any way. Additionally, they must have evidenced a Conduct
Disorder before the age of 15 years, and must be at least 18 years old
to receive this diagnosis.
People with this disorder appear to be charming at times, and make
relationships, but to them, these are relationships in name only. They
are ended whenever necessary or when it suits them, and the
relationships are without depth or meaning, including marriages. They
seem to have an innate ability to find the weakness in people, and are
ready to use these weaknesses to their own ends through deceit,
manipulation, or intimidation, and gain pleasure from doing so.
They appear to be incapable of any true emotions, from love to shame
to guilt. They are quick to anger, but just as quick to let it go,
without holding grudges. No matter what emotion they state they have,
it has no bearing on their future actions or attitudes.
They rarely are able to have jobs that last for any length of time, as
they become easily bored, instead needing constant change. They live
for the moment, forgetting the past, and not planning the future, not
thinking ahead what consequences their actions will have. They want
immediate rewards and gratification. There currently is no form of
psychotherapy that works with those with antisocial personality
disorder, as those with this disorder have no desire to change
themselves, which is a prerequisite. No medication is available
either. The only treatment is the prevention of the disorder in the
early stages, when a child first begins to show the symptoms of
conduct disorder.
THE PSYCHOPATH NEXT DOOR (Source: http://chericola57.tripod.com/infinite.html)
Psychopath. We hear the word and images of Bernardo, Manson and Dahmer
pop into our heads; no doubt Ted Bundy too. But they're the bottom of
the barrel -- most of the two million psychopaths in North America
aren't murderers. They're our friends, lovers and co-workers. They're
outgoing and persuasive, dazzling you with charm and flattery. Often
you aren't even aware they've taken you for a ride -- until it's too
late.
Psychopaths exhibit a Jekyll and Hyde personality. "They play a part
so they can get what they want," says Dr. Sheila Willson, a Toronto
psychologist who has helped victims of psychopaths. The guy who
showers a woman with excessive attention is much more capable of
getting her to lend him money, and to put up with him when he strays.
The new employee who gains her co-workers' trust has more access to
their chequebooks. And so on. Psychopaths have no conscience and their
only goal is self-gratification. Many of us have been their victims --
at work, through friendships or relationships -- and not one of us can
say, "a psychopath could never fool me."
Think you can spot one? Think again. In general, psychopaths aren't
the product of broken homes or the casualties of a materialistic
society. Rather they come from all walks of life and there is little
evidence that their upbringing affects them. Elements of a
psychopath's personality first become evident at a very early age, due
to biological or genetic factors. Explains Michael Seto, a
psychologist at the Centre for Addiction and Mental health in Toronto,
by the time that a person hits their late teens, the disorder is
almost certainly permanent. Although many clinicians use the terms
psychopath and sociopath interchangeably, writes psychopath expert
Robert Hare on his book 'Without Conscience', a sociopath's criminal
behavior is shaped by social forces and is the result of a
dysfunctional environment.
Psychopaths have only a shallow range of emotions and lack guilt, says
Hare. They often see themselves as victims, and lack remorse or the
ability to empathize with others. "Psychopaths play on the fact that
most of us are trusting and forgiving people," adds Seto. The warning
signs are always there; it's just difficult to see them because once
we trust someone, the friendship becomes a blinder.
Even lovers get taken for a ride by psychopaths. For a psychopath, a
romantic relationship is just another opportunity to find a trusting
partner who will buy into the lies. It's primarily why a psychopath
rarely stays in a relationship for the long term, and often is
involved with three or four partners at once, says Willson. To a
psychopath, everything about a relationship is a game. Willson refers
to the movie 'Sliding Doors' to illustrate her point. In the film, the
main character comes home early after just having been fired from her
job. Only moments ago, her boyfriend has let another woman out the
front door. But in a matter of minutes he is the attentive and
concerned boyfriend, taking her out to dinner and devoting the entire
night to comforting her. All the while he's planning to leave the next
day on a trip with the other woman.
The boyfriend displays typical psychopathic characteristics because he
falsely displays deep emotion toward the relationship, says Willson.
In reality, he's less concerned with his girlfriend's depression than
with making sure she's clueless about the other woman's existence. In
the romance department, psychopaths have an ability to gain your
affection quickly, disarming you with words, intriguing you with
grandiose plans. If they cheat you'll forgive them, and one day when
they've gone too far, they'll leave you with a broken heart (and an
empty wallet). By then they'll have a new player for their game.
The problem with their game is that we don't often play by their
rules. Where we might occasionally tell a white lie, a psychopath's
lying is compulsive. Most of us experience some degree of guilt about
lying, preventing us from exhibiting such behavior on a regular basis.
"Psychopaths don't discriminate who it is they lie to or cheat," says
Seto. "There's no distinction between friend, family and sucker."
No one wants to be the sucker, so how do we prevent ourselves from
becoming close friends or getting into a relationship with a
psychopath? It's really almost impossible, say Seto and Willson.
Unfortunately, laments Seto, one way is to become more suspicious and
less trusting of others. Our tendency is to forgive when we catch a
loved one in a lie. "Psychopaths play on this fact," he says.
"However, I'm certainly not advocating a world where if someone lies
once or twice, you never speak to them again." What you can do is look
at how often someone lies and how they react when caught. Psychopaths
will lie over and over again, and where other people would sincerely
apologize, a psychopath may apologize but won't stop.
Psychopaths also tend to switch jobs as frequently as they switch
partners, mainly because they don't have the qualities to maintain a
job for the long haul. Their performance is generally erratic, with
chronic absences, misuse of company resources and failed commitments.
Often they aren't even qualified for the job and use fake credentials
to get it. Seto talks of a patient who would get marketing jobs based
on his image; he was a presentable and charming man who layered his
conversations with educational and occupational references. But it
became evident that the man hadn't a clue what he was talking about,
and was unable to hold down a job.
How do you make sure you don't get fooled when you're hiring someone
to baby-sit your child or for any other job? Hire based on reputation
and not image, says Willson. Check references thoroughly. Psychopaths
tend to give vague and inconsistent replies. Of course the best way to
solve this problem would be to cure psychopaths of their 'illness.'
But there's no recipe for treating them, say psychiatrists. Today's
traditional methods of psychotherapy (psychoanalysis, group and one-
on-
one therapy) and drug treatments have failed. Therapy is more likely
to work when an individual admits there's a problem and wants to
change. The common problem with psychopaths, says Sets, "Is they don't
see a problem with their behavior."
Psychopaths don't seek therapy willingly, says Seto. Rather, they're
pushed into it by a desperate relative or by a court order. To a
psychopath, a therapist is just one more person who must be conned,
and the psychopath plays the part right until the therapist is
convinced of his or her 'rehabilitation.'
Even though we can't treat psychopaths effectively with therapy, it
doesn't mean we can't protect ourselves, writes Hare. Willson agrees,
citing the most important factor in keeping psychopaths at bay is to
know your vulnerabilities. We need to "realize our own potential and
maximize our strengths" so that our insecurities don't overcome us.
Because, she says, a psychopath is a chameleon who becomes "an image
of what you haven't done for yourself." Over time, she says, "their
appearance of perfection will begin to crack," but by that time you
will have been emotionally and perhaps financially scathed. There
comes a time when you realize there's no point in searching for
answers; the only thing is to move on.
Taken in part from MW -- By Caroline Konrad -- September 1999
THE MALIGNANT PERSONALITY:
These people are mentally ill and extremely dangerous! The following
precautions will help to protect you from the destructive acts of
which they are capable.
First, to recognize them, keep the following guidelines in mind.
(1) They are habitual liars. They seem incapable of either knowing or
telling the truth about anything.
(2) They are egotistical to the point of narcissism. They really
believe they are set apart from the rest of humanity by some special
grace.
(3) They scapegoat; they are incapable of either having the insight or
willingness to accept responsibility for anything they do. Whatever
the problem, it is always someone else's fault.
(4) They are remorselessly vindictive when thwarted or exposed.
(5) Genuine religious, moral, or other values play no part in their
lives. They have no empathy for others and are capable of violence.
Under older psychological terminology, they fall into the category of
psychopath or sociopath, but unlike the typical psychopath, their
behavior is masked by a superficial social facade.
If you have come into conflict with such a person or persons, do the
following immediately!
(1) Notify your friends and relatives of what has happened.
Do not be vague. Name names, and specify dates and circumstances.
Identify witnesses if possible and provide supporting documentation if
any is available.
(2) Inform the police. The police will do nothing with this
information except to keep it on file, since they are powerless to act
until a crime has been committed. Unfortunately, that often is usually
too late for the victim. Nevertheless, place the information in their
hands.
Obviously, if you are assaulted or threatened before witnesses, you
can get a restraining order, but those are palliative at best.
(3) Local law enforcement agencies are usually under pressure if
wealthy or politically powerful individuals are involved, so include
state and federal agencies as well and tell the locals that you have.
In my own experience, one agency that can help in a pinch is the
Criminal Investigation Division of the Internal Revenue Service or (in
Canada) Victims Services at your local police unit. It is not easy to
think of the IRS as a potential friend, but a Swedish study showed
that malignant types (the Swedes called them bullies) usually commit
some felony or other by the age of twenty. If the family is wealthy,
the fact may never come to light, but many felonies involve tax
evasion, and in such cases, the IRS is interested indeed. If large
amounts of money are involved, the IRS may solve all your problems for
you. For obvious reasons the Drug Enforcement Agency may also be an
appropriate agency to approach. The FBI is an important agency to
contact, because although the FBI does not have jurisdiction over
murder or assault, if informed, they do have an active interest in any
other law enforcement agencies that do not follow through with an
honest investigation and prosecution should a murder occur. Civil
rights are involved at that point. No local crooked lawyer, judge, or
corrupt police official wants to be within a country mile if that
comes to light! It is in such cases that wealthy psychopaths discover
just how firm the "friends" they count on to cover up for them really
are! Even some of the drug cartel biggies will scuttle for cover if
someone picks up the brick their thugs hide under. Exposure is bad for
business.
(4) Make sure that several of your friends have the information in the
event something happens to you. That way, an appropriate investigation
will follow if you are harmed. Don't tell other people who has the
information, because then something bad could happen to them as well.
Instruct friends to take such an incident to the newspapers and other
media.
If you are dealing with someone who has considerable money, you must
realize that they probably won't try to harm you themselves, they will
contract with someone to make the hit. The malignant type is a coward
and will not expose himself or herself to personal danger if he or she
can avoid it.
So yo see so many doctor know to this kind of people like Illegal
Uliana!!!
Les aseguro I knows to this Uliana Abramova Illegal Stripper &
hooker!!!
She make exact fit of every thing this doctor is writing. She make
lies alla
time never to tell truth. She make surgry on face so many time so
change how she look. She doesnt care she brake family. She make
enslave of stupid married guy. She try & make sex with every guy for $
$
$. She make use every body have no feeling for any body. She think
every thing she want is come to her. She cant love any body only make
pretend for use man. She do thing for make exciting like to live on
the edge so make fraud for J1 when she could get F1 no problem!!!
Brake family & brake US law is so much fun for her!!! Do things
correctly make her bored to dead!!!
Finalmente she make use ever body to get what she want. Never she feel
for any body. This is bad person and no body can defend to what she is
& waht she does.
Now yo see doctrs know to this kind of people. They make profession of
know to this. Allso so many regular people cant believe any body is so
bad like psycho but doctors know to this is truth!!!
Every body need for make educate on these people. There are so many
psycho may be 3 to 5 in ever hundred people. We hve problem so many
people doesnt recognice to them so they knows how to make fool of
people.
So now yo understand alla what I write is not just opion of Louie.
Gracias a Dios I knows to this illegal stripper so can make warn to
every body.
> Even lovers get taken for a ride by psychopaths.
Stupid married guy need for to read specially this!!! Illegal Uliana
doesnt feel love for any body.
.................
EVERY BODY NEED TO READ THIS FOR PROTECT SELF & FAMILY & BUSINESS. No
need ever to go with psycho like this stripper. Read and make sure to
understand correctly.
Saludos,
Louie
...............
http://www.hss.caltech.edu/~mcafee/Bin/sb.html
Profile of the Sociopath
This website summarizes some of the common features of descriptions of
the behavior of sociopaths.
Glibness and Superficial Charm
Manipulative and Conning
They never recognize the rights of others and see their self-
serving behaviors as permissible. They appear to be charming, yet are
covertly hostile and domineering, seeing their victim as merely an
instrument to be used. They may dominate and humiliate their victims.
Grandiose Sense of Self
Feels entitled to certain things as "their right."
Pathological Lying
Has no problem lying coolly and easily and it is almost
impossible for them to be truthful on a consistent basis. Can create,
and get caught up in, a complex belief about their own powers and
abilities. Extremely convincing and even able to pass lie detector
tests.
Lack of Remorse, Shame or Guilt
A deep seated rage, which is split off and repressed, is at
their core. Does not see others around them as people, but only as
targets and opportunities. Instead of friends, they have victims and
accomplices who end up as victims. The end always justifies the means
and they let nothing stand in their way.
Shallow Emotions
When they show what seems to be warmth, joy, love and compassion
it is more feigned than experienced and serves an ulterior motive.
Outraged by insignificant matters, yet remaining unmoved and cold by
what would upset a normal person. Since they are not genuine, neither
are their promises.
Incapacity for Love
Need for Stimulation
Living on the edge. Verbal outbursts and physical punishments
are normal. Promiscuity and gambling are common.
Callousness/Lack of Empathy
Unable to empathize with the pain of their victims, having only
contempt for others' feelings of distress and readily taking advantage
of them.
Poor Behavioral Controls/Impulsive Nature
Rage and abuse, alternating with small expressions of love and
approval produce an addictive cycle for abuser and abused, as well as
creating hopelessness in the victim. Believe they are all-powerful,
all-knowing, entitled to every wish, no sense of personal boundaries,
no concern for their impact on others.
Early Behavior Problems/Juvenile Delinquency
Usually has a history of behavioral and academic difficulties,
yet "gets by" by conning others. Problems in making and keeping
friends; aberrant behaviors such as cruelty to people or animals,
stealing, etc.
Irresponsibility/Unreliability
Not concerned about wrecking others' lives and dreams. Oblivious
or indifferent to the devastation they cause. Does not accept blame
themselves, but blames others, even for acts they obviously committed.
Promiscuous Sexual Behavior/Infidelity
Promiscuity, child sexual abuse, rape and sexual acting out of
all sorts.
Lack of Realistic Life Plan/Parasitic Lifestyle
Tends to move around a lot or makes all encompassing promises
for the future, poor work ethic but exploits others effectively.
Criminal or Entrepreneurial Versatility
Changes their image as needed to avoid prosecution. Changes life
story readily.
Other Related Qualities:
1. Contemptuous of those who seek to understand them
2. Does not perceive that anything is wrong with them
3. Authoritarian
4. Secretive
5. Paranoid
6. Only rarely in difficulty with the law, but seeks out situations
where their tyrannical behavior will be tolerated, condoned, or
admired
7. Conventional appearance
8. Goal of enslavement of their victim(s)
9. Exercises despotic control over every aspect of the victim's
life
10. Has an emotional need to justify their crimes and therefore
needs their victim's affirmation (respect, gratitude and love)
11. Ultimate goal is the creation of a willing victim
12. Incapable of real human attachment to another
13. Unable to feel remorse or guilt
14. Extreme narcissism and grandiose
15. May state readily that their goal is to rule the world
(The above traits are based on the psychopathy checklists of H.
Cleckley and R. Hare.)
NOTE: In the 1830's this disorder was called "moral insanity." By 1900
it was changed to "psychopathic personality." More recently it has
been termed "antisocial personality disorder" in the DSM-III and DSM-
IV. Some critics have complained that, in the attempt to rely only on
'objective' criteria, the DSM has broadened the concept to include too
many individuals. The APD category includes people who commit illegal,
immoral or self-serving acts for a variety of reasons and are not
necessarily psychopaths.
DSM-IV Definition
Antisocial personality disorder is characterized by a lack of regard
for the moral or legal standards in the local culture. There is a
marked inability to get along with others or abide by societal rules.
Individuals with this disorder are sometimes called psychopaths or
sociopaths.
Diagnostic Criteria (DSM-IV)
1. Since the age of fifteen there has been a disregard for and
violation of the right's of others, those right's considered normal by
the local culture, as indicated by at least three of the following:
A. Repeated acts that could lead to arrest.
B. Conning for pleasure or profit, repeated lying, or the use of
aliases.
C. Failure to plan ahead or being impulsive.
D. Repeated assaults on others.
E. Reckless when it comes to their or others safety.
F. Poor work behavior or failure to honor financial obligations.
G. Rationalizing the pain they inflict on others.
2. At least eighteen years in age.
3. Evidence of a Conduct Disorder, with its onset before the age of
fifteen.
4. Symptoms not due to another mental disorder.
Antisocial Personality Disorder Overview (Written by Derek Wood, RN,
BSN, PhD Candidate)
Antisocial Personality Disorder results in what is commonly known as a
Sociopath. The criteria for this disorder require an ongoing disregard
for the rights of others, since the age of 15 years. Some examples of
this disregard are reckless disregard for the safety of themselves or
others, failure to conform to social norms with respect to lawful
behaviors, deceitfulness such as repeated lying or deceit for personal
profit or pleasure, and lack of remorse for actions that hurt other
people in any way. Additionally, they must have evidenced a Conduct
Disorder before the age of 15 years, and must be at least 18 years old
to receive this diagnosis.
People with this disorder appear to be charming at times, and make
relationships, but to them, these are relationships in name only. They
are ended whenever necessary or when it suits them, and the
relationships are without depth or meaning, including marriages. They
seem to have an innate ability to find the weakness in people, and are
ready to use these weaknesses to their own ends through deceit,
manipulation, or intimidation, and gain pleasure from doing so.
They appear to be incapable of any true emotions, from love to shame
to guilt. They are quick to anger, but just as quick to let it go,
without holding grudges. No matter what emotion they state they have,
it has no bearing on their future actions or attitudes.
They rarely are able to have jobs that last for any length of time, as
they become easily bored, instead needing constant change. They live
for the moment, forgetting the past, and not planning the future, not
thinking ahead what consequences their actions will have. They want
immediate rewards and gratification. There currently is no form of
psychotherapy that works with those with antisocial personality
disorder, as those with this disorder have no desire to change
themselves, which is a prerequisite. No medication is available
either. The only treatment is the prevention of the disorder in the
early stages, when a child first begins to show the symptoms of
conduct disorder.
THE PSYCHOPATH NEXT DOOR (Source: http://chericola57.tripod.com/infinite.html)
Psychopath. We hear the word and images of Bernardo, Manson and Dahmer
pop into our heads; no doubt Ted Bundy too. But they're the bottom of
the barrel -- most of the two million psychopaths in North America
aren't murderers. They're our friends, lovers and co-workers. They're
outgoing and persuasive, dazzling you with charm and flattery. Often
you aren't even aware they've taken you for a ride -- until it's too
late.
Psychopaths exhibit a Jekyll and Hyde personality. "They play a part
so they can get what they want," says Dr. Sheila Willson, a Toronto
psychologist who has helped victims of psychopaths. The guy who
showers a woman with excessive attention is much more capable of
getting her to lend him money, and to put up with him when he strays.
The new employee who gains her co-workers' trust has more access to
their chequebooks. And so on. Psychopaths have no conscience and their
only goal is self-gratification. Many of us have been their victims --
at work, through friendships or relationships -- and not one of us can
say, "a psychopath could never fool me."
Think you can spot one? Think again. In general, psychopaths aren't
the product of broken homes or the casualties of a materialistic
society. Rather they come from all walks of life and there is little
evidence that their upbringing affects them. Elements of a
psychopath's personality first become evident at a very early age, due
to biological or genetic factors. Explains Michael Seto, a
psychologist at the Centre for Addiction and Mental health in Toronto,
by the time that a person hits their late teens, the disorder is
almost certainly permanent. Although many clinicians use the terms
psychopath and sociopath interchangeably, writes psychopath expert
Robert Hare on his book 'Without Conscience', a sociopath's criminal
behavior is shaped by social forces and is the result of a
dysfunctional environment.
Psychopaths have only a shallow range of emotions and lack guilt, says
Hare. They often see themselves as victims, and lack remorse or the
ability to empathize with others. "Psychopaths play on the fact that
most of us are trusting and forgiving people," adds Seto. The warning
signs are always there; it's just difficult to see them because once
we trust someone, the friendship becomes a blinder.
Even lovers get taken for a ride by psychopaths. For a psychopath, a
romantic relationship is just another opportunity to find a trusting
partner who will buy into the lies. It's primarily why a psychopath
rarely stays in a relationship for the long term, and often is
involved with three or four partners at once, says Willson. To a
psychopath, everything about a relationship is a game. Willson refers
to the movie 'Sliding Doors' to illustrate her point. In the film, the
main character comes home early after just having been fired from her
job. Only moments ago, her boyfriend has let another woman out the
front door. But in a matter of minutes he is the attentive and
concerned boyfriend, taking her out to dinner and devoting the entire
night to comforting her. All the while he's planning to leave the next
day on a trip with the other woman.
The boyfriend displays typical psychopathic characteristics because he
falsely displays deep emotion toward the relationship, says Willson.
In reality, he's less concerned with his girlfriend's depression than
with making sure she's clueless about the other woman's existence. In
the romance department, psychopaths have an ability to gain your
affection quickly, disarming you with words, intriguing you with
grandiose plans. If they cheat you'll forgive them, and one day when
they've gone too far, they'll leave you with a broken heart (and an
empty wallet). By then they'll have a new player for their game.
The problem with their game is that we don't often play by their
rules. Where we might occasionally tell a white lie, a psychopath's
lying is compulsive. Most of us experience some degree of guilt about
lying, preventing us from exhibiting such behavior on a regular basis.
"Psychopaths don't discriminate who it is they lie to or cheat," says
Seto. "There's no distinction between friend, family and sucker."
No one wants to be the sucker, so how do we prevent ourselves from
becoming close friends or getting into a relationship with a
psychopath? It's really almost impossible, say Seto and Willson.
Unfortunately, laments Seto, one way is to become more suspicious and
less trusting of others. Our tendency is to forgive when we catch a
loved one in a lie. "Psychopaths play on this fact," he says.
"However, I'm certainly not advocating a world where if someone lies
once or twice, you never speak to them again." What you can do is look
at how often someone lies and how they react when caught. Psychopaths
will lie over and over again, and where other people would sincerely
apologize, a psychopath may apologize but won't stop.
Psychopaths also tend to switch jobs as frequently as they switch
partners, mainly because they don't have the qualities to maintain a
job for the long haul. Their performance is generally erratic, with
chronic absences, misuse of company resources and failed commitments.
Often they aren't even qualified for the job and use fake credentials
to get it. Seto talks of a patient who would get marketing jobs based
on his image; he was a presentable and charming man who layered his
conversations with educational and occupational references. But it
became evident that the man hadn't a clue what he was talking about,
and was unable to hold down a job.
How do you make sure you don't get fooled when you're hiring someone
to baby-sit your child or for any other job? Hire based on reputation
and not image, says Willson. Check references thoroughly. Psychopaths
tend to give vague and inconsistent replies. Of course the best way to
solve this problem would be to cure psychopaths of their 'illness.'
But there's no recipe for treating them, say psychiatrists. Today's
traditional methods of psychotherapy (psychoanalysis, group and one-
on-
one therapy) and drug treatments have failed. Therapy is more likely
to work when an individual admits there's a problem and wants to
change. The common problem with psychopaths, says Sets, "Is they don't
see a problem with their behavior."
Psychopaths don't seek therapy willingly, says Seto. Rather, they're
pushed into it by a desperate relative or by a court order. To a
psychopath, a therapist is just one more person who must be conned,
and the psychopath plays the part right until the therapist is
convinced of his or her 'rehabilitation.'
Even though we can't treat psychopaths effectively with therapy, it
doesn't mean we can't protect ourselves, writes Hare. Willson agrees,
citing the most important factor in keeping psychopaths at bay is to
know your vulnerabilities. We need to "realize our own potential and
maximize our strengths" so that our insecurities don't overcome us.
Because, she says, a psychopath is a chameleon who becomes "an image
of what you haven't done for yourself." Over time, she says, "their
appearance of perfection will begin to crack," but by that time you
will have been emotionally and perhaps financially scathed. There
comes a time when you realize there's no point in searching for
answers; the only thing is to move on.
Taken in part from MW -- By Caroline Konrad -- September 1999
THE MALIGNANT PERSONALITY:
These people are mentally ill and extremely dangerous! The following
precautions will help to protect you from the destructive acts of
which they are capable.
First, to recognize them, keep the following guidelines in mind.
(1) They are habitual liars. They seem incapable of either knowing or
telling the truth about anything.
(2) They are egotistical to the point of narcissism. They really
believe they are set apart from the rest of humanity by some special
grace.
(3) They scapegoat; they are incapable of either having the insight or
willingness to accept responsibility for anything they do. Whatever
the problem, it is always someone else's fault.
(4) They are remorselessly vindictive when thwarted or exposed.
(5) Genuine religious, moral, or other values play no part in their
lives. They have no empathy for others and are capable of violence.
Under older psychological terminology, they fall into the category of
psychopath or sociopath, but unlike the typical psychopath, their
behavior is masked by a superficial social facade.
If you have come into conflict with such a person or persons, do the
following immediately!
(1) Notify your friends and relatives of what has happened.
Do not be vague. Name names, and specify dates and circumstances.
Identify witnesses if possible and provide supporting documentation if
any is available.
(2) Inform the police. The police will do nothing with this
information except to keep it on file, since they are powerless to act
until a crime has been committed. Unfortunately, that often is usually
too late for the victim. Nevertheless, place the information in their
hands.
Obviously, if you are assaulted or threatened before witnesses, you
can get a restraining order, but those are palliative at best.
(3) Local law enforcement agencies are usually under pressure if
wealthy or politically powerful individuals are involved, so include
state and federal agencies as well and tell the locals that you have.
In my own experience, one agency that can help in a pinch is the
Criminal Investigation Division of the Internal Revenue Service or (in
Canada) Victims Services at your local police unit. It is not easy to
think of the IRS as a potential friend, but a Swedish study showed
that malignant types (the Swedes called them bullies) usually commit
some felony or other by the age of twenty. If the family is wealthy,
the fact may never come to light, but many felonies involve tax
evasion, and in such cases, the IRS is interested indeed. If large
amounts of money are involved, the IRS may solve all your problems for
you. For obvious reasons the Drug Enforcement Agency may also be an
appropriate agency to approach. The FBI is an important agency to
contact, because although the FBI does not have jurisdiction over
murder or assault, if informed, they do have an active interest in any
other law enforcement agencies that do not follow through with an
honest investigation and prosecution should a murder occur. Civil
rights are involved at that point. No local crooked lawyer, judge, or
corrupt police official wants to be within a country mile if that
comes to light! It is in such cases that wealthy psychopaths discover
just how firm the "friends" they count on to cover up for them really
are! Even some of the drug cartel biggies will scuttle for cover if
someone picks up the brick their thugs hide under. Exposure is bad for
business.
(4) Make sure that several of your friends have the information in the
event something happens to you. That way, an appropriate investigation
will follow if you are harmed. Don't tell other people who has the
information, because then something bad could happen to them as well.
Instruct friends to take such an incident to the newspapers and other
media.
If you are dealing with someone who has considerable money, you must
realize that they probably won't try to harm you themselves, they will
contract with someone to make the hit. The malignant type is a coward
and will not expose himself or herself to personal danger if he or she
can avoid it.