Medic!

[Crazywumbat]

Ok...So I normally don't like to do this type of thing...but I'm in a bit of a dilemma. So my roomates a pretty cool guy, but he can be somewhat of a ***** to his girlfriend. So me and her have been talking for awhile, and we started sort of hitting on each other, as a joke at first..and then it sort of escalated. And now there might be a mutual attraction type thing going on between us..Then shes comming up here to visit tomorrow so thats gonna make things that much more...interesting.

Basically, I guess I'm asking whether or not anyoen can offer me some advice as to whether or not I should persue it. I mean in one aspect I feel like I might be betraying my roomate who I am really good friends with, but the fact remains hes less then ideal with her...so should I really discard something that would make me happy in this situation?

And of course all my friends give advice such as "just double team her man" or "dont **** in your own home, **** her in her car"....some REAL advice would be much appreciated. Not used to this type of situation.

 

[Jhony5]

I guess it depends on how much you want to remain friends with your room mate.

and we started sort of hitting on each other, as a joke at first..and then it sort of escalated.

There is no such thing as "joking" in matters like this. Its called 'fishing' , and you're both doing it. You were fishing for some *****, she was fishing for some ****. Sounds like you both got a bite, aye?
My philosophy is too never put a ho before your hommie. Its just new *****. Its not worth throwing away your friendship. The thing about new ***** is one day soon, it will no longer be 'new *****'.

So ya, go ahead and stab your friend in the back like a ***** for some play.

 

[rizzo]

Regardless of how he treats her, she's still with him. Until she drops him, or vice versa, she's off limits.

 

[Phantom]

Ok...So I normally don't like to do this type of thing...but I'm in a bit of a dilemma. So my roomates a pretty cool guy, but he can be somewhat of a ***** to his girlfriend.

What is it about people who wait for a life boat to come along, so to speak, when they are in a bad relationship? If she is on a sinking ship (her boyfriend is a *****) then she needs to jump off and tread water. What is even worse is that she is sitting inside the life raft (you) while still aboard the ship (him). Ok, that analogy is finished.

So me and her have been talking for awhile, and we started sort of hitting on each other, as a joke at first..and then it sort of escalated. And now there might be a mutual attraction type thing going on between us..

Okay, not to sound harsh but you kind of messed this one up. Like another poster said, never be alone with your friend's gal, never flirt with her, and never allow anything to "just happen."

Then shes comming up here to visit tomorrow so thats gonna make things that much more...interesting.

Remain ALOOF. That cannot be said enough. If she acts like her boyfriend is a pile of **** and you are her savior, she will do the exact same thing to you one day. It sounds like things are already FUBARed in this case. lol Her boyfriend may very well be the ***** he appears to be but she needs to leave him if she plans on pursuing you or allowing you to pursue her.

Basically, I guess I'm asking whether or not anyoen can offer me some advice as to whether or not I should persue it.

This decision will ultimately be up to you and her but since you are asking us, it would seem like the best idea to wait until she breaks things off with your friend, you get your friend's permission once they are done, and then go on from there.

I mean in one aspect I feel like I might be betraying my roomate who I am really good friends with, but the fact remains hes less then ideal with her...so should I really discard something that would make me happy in this situation?

Yes, you are betraying your roommate and so is this girl. That is not a good thing. Best to get things out in the open and have her make her decision. Even ******** don't deserve to be cheated on, you know? If things are as bad for her as they seem, it is time for her to jump ship.

And of course all my friends give advice such as "just double team her man" or "dont **** in your own home, **** her in her car"....some REAL advice would be much appreciated. Not used to this type of situation.

What Nazz said- take their advice with a grain of salt but remember who these people are and never leave them alone with your women.

 

[RegisteredAndEducated]

Dude... Don't do it... You have to live with your roommate. It's really not worth it! If it was some random person... whoopty freakin ****... I mean... There is a moral delima there, but if you're going to do it, don't do it to your roommate.

 

[hugo]

You're an *******.

 

[ParasiteGod]

I agree with Johny5. Bros before hos.

 

[Mack the Knife]

I'd hit it.

 

[RoyalOrleans]

Look, Crazywumbat, don't pursue it at all. You'll find another fatty, my chubby chasing friend.