PLEASE help me!!!!!

Okay you guys I seriously need some advice with the following thing:

 

3 weeks ago I fell head over heels in love with this man who works as a piercer in a tattooshop. I've known him for over a year now but 3 weeks ago he made it very clear that he really liked me and we started this affair ( well I call it that ). The relationship we have is very sexual, steamy and hot. Nothing wrong with that, I made that decision myself to have it that way. But some things are happening lately that shook me up big time. First of all, 1 weeks ago I asked this guy out who works at the tattooshop as well to go out for a drink. The reason I did that was for a very close friend of mine who is madly in love with this guy but she doesn't have the guts to ask him out. The reaction of my guy was a real jealous reaction and the looks he gave me were not that nice. But I let that go. Not long after that when I spoke to him he said we had to slow things down when we were around eachother in the tattooshop because the other guys who work there picked up on things and started to speculate about us. Well, fine with me I can be cool with that, I just do if my nose bleeds. But last Thursday when we were at the shop again ( I was getting tattooed ) my guy was pimping his ass off with other girls. 3 of them he gave his private number, 1 off them was all over him, asking him out and stuff. I just sat there and looked at it but it broke my heart seeing him do that. He did gave me a lot of attention, was real nice to me, said that we are soon gonna meet up again, kissed me and so on. Mixed messages I was getting. The 2 friends who were with me say different things to me now. 1 friend says I have to get over him and find myself a better guy, the other 1 says that I just have to wait, there is nothing wrong with giving your phonenumber to other girls. But I just don't know what to do anymore. I'm just so in love with the guy and when we are alone he gives me the feeling I'm really special. My mind and heart are fucking me up big time right now. So please guys give me your advice and tell me what the right thing is to do.

 

xxxxx The tester

hey schat!

 

well what do you think is the right thing to do?? unfortunately...you can't just swing a magic wand around and make everything better and go away . Do you think that what he's doing, he's doing it out of jealousy? You gotta talk to him. Set things straight. What i think is that he only sees it as a "friends with benefits" type of thing. Just two friends who have a very physical relationship and are allowed to date other people and have other relationships.

 

So, the only advice I can give you is: talk to him. Ask him were you both stand in this "thing" you have together.

Oh yeah, I also think he's a major player...the one thing that players are good in is making girls feel special and telling them what they want to hear so they can get what they want. Please be careful and be sure he's not a loverboy or anything (you know what that is, it's very famous in Holland)

 

Take care of yourself, honey! Ik hoop dat ik je heb kunnen helpen

 

-Thelea

If he really loves u back then he shouldn't give out his number to all these girls who throw themselves on him. I agree with brokenangel. You should talk to him, maybe it will help clear up some of the things that are bothering u. I really hope it does turn out for the better. Remeber tho; u deserve some one that treats u well and who loves u so don't settle for less. good luck and take care~ <3

Hey honey

 

I 'm sry about this.

I agree with Thelea there. I think he's trying to make you jealous.

the best thing to do would be talk to hom and straighten everything out.

I hope he's not a player

Hope this works out!

love ya honey

*hugs*

I think the best thing to do is talk to him. Ask him about these things in a calm manner and all. Maybe he was just playing around or maybe he really isn't into you that much. You've got to figure that out before you decide whether or not to continue the relationship. Find out what he feels about it.

yer, i think we all agree that u should talk 2 him

yeah that's probably the best thing u can do...coz by talkin to him u can get to know what he thinks is lacking in the relationship...and this would also help u two to get into a more trust worthy relationship..n that way u can sort things out.....i think he's jealous of the other guy...and that probably is something positive coz it shows how much he loves u n can't let u be with someone else...dont worry sweety...all that is happening is meant to strengthen your relationship.

First of all, thanx everybody for the replies and the comfort you gave me. Well I guess it's time to give you all an update on everything after what happend last time when I posted my cry for help. My guy was planning to go to England that next Monday after we met. So I knew he wasn't going to be home untill today. But to my very big surprise I got a phonecall last Tuesday and it was him. It turned out he lost his pasport and wasn't able to go anyway. And he phoned me because he missed me and wanted to see me. Ofcourse I asked him about these other girls and what he was doing? Well, the girls he gave his phonenumber were customers and some of them he knew for years. He said that if he didn't like me that much he wouldn't call or try to do anything with me. His phonecall ( 2 times that evening ) made me feel happy and more confident about things. We made some serious agreements when we started this relationship but sometimes you can't help falling a bit to much for a guy and jealousy greeps up then. But for now things are going good and I will see him this coming Thursday. So if anything strange happens I will keep you all posted.

 

Love you all for being here and giving out advice. It gave me a lot of support.

 

xxxxxx The Tester

Well, I'm very happy everything turned out alright. That's what we were aiming for ...Veel succes and have fun!

 

Thelea

wow that is awesome that everything turned out ok

To keep you all posted after my cry for help. I must say men are the strangest creatures on earth. Till now everything is working out fine for me and my guy. I found out that he is the kind of guy that needs his ass kicked so now and then and that I have to be very clear to him. Since then everything is going even better I must say. But never the less, men are complicated ( and they say that women are????? ). But I will see my guy this coming Thursday and we'll just wait and see what happens.

 

xxxxx The Tester