Third Chaces..

So in a nutshell here is what happened:

Last night my boyfriend was acting extremely awkward and annoying, and out of no where...

I AM ELF BOY! says:

Just wondering, do you think if anything went wrong we could remain friends?

Riss says:

Probably why? -_-

I AM ELF BOY! says:

Just curious

Risssays:

Is something wrong? -_-

I AM ELF BOY! says:

Kind of, it isn't big

Riss says:

You should still tell me

I AM ELF BOY! says:

I've been just thinking

Riss says:

Ok..

Riss says:

You have to be a little more detailed

I AM ELF BOY! says:

I'm not feeling comfortable with how you get jealous all the time when i'm talking to my friends.

Riss says:

Well I guess it is big if it's worth feeling like you need to dump me..

I AM ELF BOY! says:

I'm sorry but it seems like the only way that it'd stop is if I stopped talking to them all together.

Riss says:

I'm trying to stop...

Riss says:

I didn't say anything about it today...

I AM ELF BOY! says:

I'm implying yesterday and how you acted.

Riss says:

How I left like that?

I AM ELF BOY! says:

And how you were acting.

Riss says:

I left because I didn't want to feel jealous

Riss says:

I'm sorry

I AM ELF BOY! says:

I still can't handle it. It seems that I have to stop talking to them so you won't get jealous

Riss says:

I just told you

Riss says:

I'm really trying to stop it.

I AM ELF BOY! says:

Yet you shouldn't have to change

Riss says:

Apparently I do in order to not loose you..

I AM ELF BOY! says:

And I don't want you to have to change though.

<<The yesterday thing was that he added me to a conversation with all his friends (who just happen to all be girls..) and I left the conversation every time some one added me because I didn't want to start fighting with him (I'm the jealous type...)>>

So we talked about changing and stuff and here's where I started crying::

Riss says:

If you think about how much we've been fighting, every time it's been my fault, so please let ME fix it.

I AM ELF BOY! says:

It wasn't always your fault

I AM ELF BOY! says:

It's been mine too

I AM ELF BOY! says:

I don't want us to fight anymore

Riss says:

But if you don't want to be with me I don't want you to stay.

Riss says:

I'm trying not to let us. I've prevented myself from blowing up more than once today.

I AM ELF BOY! says:

it's not good to do that

Riss says:

But what happens if wouldn't have?

Riss says:

*I

I AM ELF BOY! says:

it isn't healthy

Riss says:

Fighting with you all the time isn't healthy

I AM ELF BOY! says:

Well maybe there is only one way to fix that

Riss says:

I don't think so

I AM ELF BOY! says:

Why?

Riss says:

Just..

Riss says:

Ok

Riss says:

Will, if you want to break up with me, just do it, I don't want you to continue to be in a relationship with me if you don't like it. But if you do, I promise I can change and I don't want you to feel bad for it either, it's better for everyone if I do.

I AM ELF BOY! says:

I can't pretend not to feel bad though while you are forcing yourself to keep your emotions in while you remain jealous.

Riss says:

That's the only way for me to not loose you! I don't want to loose you!

I AM ELF BOY! says:

I don't want to lose you either

Riss says:

So let me try!!!

I AM ELF BOY! says:

No because i refuse to let you change Riss. I couldn't stand it

Riss says:

So in other words you still want to dump me.

I AM ELF BOY! says:

Because I don't want you to change

Riss says:

But I want to

I AM ELF BOY! says:

I don't want you to though

Riss says:

If I don't that leaves two alternatives

I AM ELF BOY! says:

what?

Riss says:

1) We continue fighting on my part

2) You dump me.

I AM ELF BOY! says:

I dunno

Riss says:

Just make up your mind Will

Riss says:

I'm not going to try anymore.

Riss says:

It's up to you. I've told you what I want it's your turn.

I AM ELF BOY! says:

And I told you what I want. I don't want you to change. I don't want to have to pretend that i'm alright with you pretending not to be jealous. or anything like that.

Riss says:

So no matter what you want to break up with me.

I AM ELF BOY! says:

I guess that's what it is

I AM ELF BOY! says:

I'm sorry

I AM ELF BOY! says:

This doesn't change how i feel about you though >_<

Yerr so I sound pretty bitchy but I love him, I really do, with all my heart. And this made me feel a little better...

Riss says:

But I don't want you to if you're going to be uncomfortable

I AM ELF BOY! says:

I don't want to lose you though Riss. I think i could get use to it over time. I would rather feel uncomfortable than lose you

Riss says:

Apparently not if you just dumped me..

I AM ELF BOY! says:

I didn't think I dumped you yet >_<

Riss says:

I kinda figured there

Riss says:

<<<<Riss says:

So no matter what you want to break up with me.

I AM ELF BOY! says:

I guess that's what it is>>>>

I AM ELF BOY! says:

I didn't think I did. I was hoping I didn't

Riss says:

ok..

I AM ELF BOY! says:

Again I screw things up

Riss says:

I just think it's fair to let you know

Riss says:

I believe in second chances

Riss says:

But not thirds and fourths

I AM ELF BOY! says:

>_<

I AM ELF BOY! says:

so i blew it then

Riss says:

No

Riss says:

You just told me

Riss says:

That you didn't dump me..........

Riss says:

I was just assuming..

I AM ELF BOY! says:

well you still thought that so this is technically my third chance

Riss says:

Erm..

I AM ELF BOY! says:

still feels like this is my third chance

Riss says:

Fine

Riss says:

Consider yourself an exception to my standards...

But I 'spose he never saw because he left. >_<

But he called me this morning around noon-ish...

And he and I are good. I guess. I'm fine, and I guess he is too.

Just wanna know if you think it's acceptable to do this??

Because normally I wouldn't..

Just wanna know if you think it's acceptable to do this??

Because normally I wouldn't..

Answered your own question. You said "normally" it wouldn't... which means this time, it is And listen to yourself. Don't restrict yourself with so many rules when you're in love, cuz you're gonna find yourself breaking them on your own

xD Ja okie. I do love him. Although I havn't spoken to him since on the phone yesterday. Lol oh well.

Also.

He lives in New Hampshire.

And we've never met.

He turned 16 in November and I am 13 and a half (14 on May 24).

I've been wanting to tell my mom for months (we met early in May '06 when I started a writing competition here).

We started going out in August for 51 days (Yes... I kept track... Because my previous relationship was only 40).

And again in October. October 9.

So we've been going out for over two months now.

Hmm...

Well... Today we were shopping and I told my mom.

Kind of.

She noticed that I had 4 calls from 'Will' last Saturday and she asked who it was.

I told her "This guy I like."

Ok.. Small steps...

She asked if he liked me back and I said "I think he does..."

She smiled and I knew what she was thinking so I lied. "But he moved like a month ago."

So what? Not exactly the truth but at least she knew he didn't live here.

She said "Oh, so you can't exactly get anything going there..."

"Yeah, and he's like Alex's age." I told her. Yeay! Now she knows how old he is. My older brother, Alex, turns 16 in April.

"Oh so when he gets his license he can come see you."

I laughed at that. Fat chance. "Yeah sure.... He turned 16 last month."

And she keeps bringing it up. She asked to see his picture. I said I didn't have one atm but I showed her when we got home. Obviously she wasn't too impress because she just snorted and went back to what she was doing. But I guess I don't care, he may not be the cutest boy, but he is, for sure, the sweetest.

She asked where he moved to, so I told her. Kind of. I told her where he lives. He never moved... he never left from here, because he's never been here in his life. Never further West than New York.

So my mom knows. I asked her not to tell my dad but I already know she's going to.

So I guess that makes it a little easy for me to be with now.

Yeah so... Cool....

That's cool...

and hell yeah...there should be possibilities for third chances if you really love someone

there should be as many as you can afford to bear or are willing to deal with.

and ur both still very young,theres going to be little things coming up now and then. dont restrict urselves.

best of luck for the future!

^_^ Thanks.

Okie anddddddddddddddddddddddddddd... Iunno... Haven't talked to him since Saturday still... Oh well, I can wait. <3<3

I am

'Cept I'ma bit worred...

Still haven't spoken to him since Saturday.

I know his dad'd girlfriend is moving in with them so I hope that's just it.

Answered your own question. You said "normally" it wouldn't... which means this time' date=' it is And listen to yourself. Don't restrict yourself with so many rules when you're in love, cuz you're gonna find yourself breaking them on your own [/quote']

 

100% agreed

 

and BEST OF LUCK FOR YOUR FUTURE

I PMed him today on his writing site and he wrote back saying that he has been sick and I talked to him for about an hour this afternoon. I miss him terribly again but at least now I know.

I believe in second and third chances.

It's when you keep fucking up and for the same reason that it is time to leave.

I agree you can't set too many rules, but sometimes you gotta draw the line.

Good luck riss!!!!!

And you know if you ever need to talk you have me on msn and myspace!!

Hmm...

I don't like the idea of this. Basically he is 16, you are 13! That's quite a big gap in accedemic years. It's like a long distance thing so that;s even worse in my view.

I'm 15, and surely at the age of 16 he's clearly interested in women! Your only young Riss, so young. I feel your almost wasting your time, I just feel it.

Riss he is 16 and that makes me feel as if he might be just playing a drama with you. However, you said he is not the best looking and he writes. I bet he's good with words

I just can't get it out of my head that this won't last. Your arguing over msn n phone. Not face to face... seems so petite.

Your young. Your jelous because of what he is, he is someone you might not obtain again. An older boy, that has said some nice things to you.

Personally I hope it is something special because I think that's is what I think is needed for this to be real.

First of all: BRANDON!!! YEAY!!!!! *hugs* I haven't heard from you in awhile!

And.

Yeah I know. Everybody thinks that.

Although, I am going to meet him in June. If my mom and I save up enough money. It's just that, and I'm working on it. I do agree with you, I'm not sure anymore how long this will last. I do love him it's just been, they way things have been going lately between us. I mean, I haven't had a conversation with him in two and a half weeks now.

Haha! Nice to speak with you again!

All I can say is I hope it works ok. <33

I hope so too.

And atm I've decided not to let this bother me. Because while he's been gone I've been just depressed and shit.....

Meh... We'll see if he calls on Saturday

*bumps in*

That dude Cloud is right. If you truly are 13, then you are wasting your time with someone that is like 3 years older than you. He's going to begin getting interested in older girls...and there will be no room for you. It's time to move on and continue with your life. Besides...you're 13...you got a whole life ahead of you. You'll find Mr. Right soon enough..you'll see ^-^

Anybody want to know where this had gone in the past 2 years? XD

I will tell you!

We broke up about a month after I posted that, because he was with someone else too. Ahah.

got back together a little over a year later and were together for a little over 6 months.....

And now. I'm single. I broke up with him for several reason.

We fought to much, distance is a dealbreaker, and a few more personal ones.

I had one boyfriend shortly after we broke up, that lives here, and had my first kiss. But that didn't last.

But at least now I can date.

(and I'm 15 and a half now. Wooo!!!)

You're single!? I thought we were dating RISS!?

*Runs around crying histerically*

just playing

Hmm this sounds like something ive heard before riss.......HMMMMM