What's wrong with me?

Ok, this is going to sound really despierate, especially coming from me, but what the hell is wrong with me? I can't stand it anymore. I've never had a boyfriend, I'm 16, a junior in high school, and no guy seems to even show interest in me at all. Ok, I guess that's not worded right. Correction: no guy seems to want to go out with me. They talk to me sure, but I don't think they could ever see themselves actually going out with me.

 

Background bit:

I grew up as a tomboy, so I kind of had mostly guy friends. Even now, I share many of the same interests as my friends do, like playing videogames, making jokes on how stupid our teachers are, etc. I'll be trueful: I'm not anything like a girly-girl. I'm not into fashion, or obsessed about my weight (no, I'm not fat, nor skinny), I don't wear make-up, or like shopping. (gasp! shocker...)

 

So back to square one, and be trueful (especially you guys) why don't guys really like girls like me? Is it because you just see us as one of you guys, or is it because of more defiance in the girl that throws you off?

you don't sound wrong at all.. you just need a boy who's interested in tomboys or just your personality and who doesn't care about looks that much..

they exist..

 

Guys aren't interested in me either.. I'm very quiet..

online I have like 30837 male friends..

just wait for the right guy to come along I guess

You shouldn't worry about guys at the moment. I mean your sixteen years old, and at the moment what's important is having fun with your friends being you. Like Phranka said there will be someone there for you, but at the moment have fun.

 

I hope my words can help...

 

Guys aren't interested in me either.. I'm very quiet..

online I have like 30837 male friends..

 

HA.

 

Well.... I'm a tomboy. Guys are..alright.

i m tomboy tooooooo........noone ever liked me the one liked me nd now its all going to end up... i believe in da world there is person out for u all u ve to do is to wait let him come.. i mean soulmates...

I used to be a tomboy...well sort of...I wasn't into fashion or make up...I thought it was superficial. And over the past year I've changed myself into the whole "girly" persona and I'm not having any better luck with the guys. Well like now I'll get the whole "hey, want to hook up?" thing from guys...but that's even more repulsing then not getting attention from them at all. I makes you feel cheap. So moral of the story...don't even THINK about changing your self because you think you'll get more attention from guys. I know this sounds corny...but you'll get the best results if you just be yourself.

Ok, this is going to sound really despierate, especially coming from me, but what the hell is wrong with me? I can't stand it anymore. I've never had a boyfriend, I'm 16, a junior in high school, and no guy seems to even show interest in me at all. Ok, I guess that's not worded right. Correction: no guy seems to want to go out with me. They talk to me sure, but I don't think they could ever see themselves actually going out with me.

 

Background bit:

I grew up as a tomboy, so I kind of had mostly guy friends. Even now, I share many of the same interests as my friends do, like playing videogames, making jokes on how stupid our teachers are, etc. I'll be trueful: I'm not anything like a girly-girl. I'm not into fashion, or obsessed about my weight (no, I'm not fat, nor skinny), I don't wear make-up, or like shopping. (gasp! shocker...)

 

So back to square one, and be trueful (especially you guys) why don't guys really like girls like me? Is it because you just see us as one of you guys, or is it because of more defiance in the girl that throws you off?

 

I actually like tomboys, personally. Girly-girls are a turn-off for me, because I find them superficial. I think girls who are more "tom-boyish" are more real about who they are, which I admire in a person. I don't even like that word, tomboy, actually. I think that girls are girls...some are just more superficial then others.

I would rather date someone real, who is honest about themselves, then some ditzy 'girly-girl' who doesn't even know who is under that make-up.

 

It may be tough in high school, but things will get better for you. Just concentrate on making friends with everyone, and learning how to deal with guys...then, when the right guy does come along, you won't be intimidated. Just be yourself...good things will happen!

No,don't think that there's no guy who likes to go out with you.I'm not saying that thinking that way is wrong,but of course,w/ you being a tomboy, I think they're just thinking of approaches to make to get you to go out w/ them. They think that you would see that as a weird thing because they see you as a tomboy [and tomboys never seem to want to go out with guys,as to what people might say].

 

sorry if that wasn't clear enough, I think I overused words [i'm not myself right now ]

But I do hope I was able to help you.

I actually like tomboys, personally. Girly-girls are a turn-off for me, because I find them superficial. I think girls who are more "tom-boyish" are more real about who they are, which I admire in a person. I don't even like that word, tomboy, actually. I think that girls are girls...some are just more superficial then others.

I would rather date someone real, who is honest about themselves, then some ditzy 'girly-girl' who doesn't even know who is under that make-up.

 

It may be tough in high school, but things will get better for you. Just concentrate on making friends with everyone, and learning how to deal with guys...then, when the right guy does come along, you won't be intimidated. Just be yourself...good things will happen!

 

Wonderfully said.

I agree with you 100%

just go lesbian & you'll be good.

 

just kidding.

 

Yea.. there's nothing wrong with you. Guys see you as a friend and honestly. .. thats the BEST spot to be. Thats where all the fun is. dont worry about having a boyfriend. You'll find someone who likes you.

 

just remember to put yourself out there. put your personality out there first. take it from a tomboy. I grew around all boys, beat up every boy in the neighborhood, HATED anything girly, & became addicted to video games. You would never be able to tell that now cuz I've just kinda changed. . . but sometimes I lay back & chill with the guys.

 

dont worry. your time will come, dearest.

i read the first part and before i got to the second part i already knew you were the tomboy type when you grew up. you sound just like i was hun. i grew up with 9 boys as friends, i played football, went fishing, climbed trees and did all the boyish stuff. just like you i started to wonder why boys were not intrested in me, they talked to me like one of the guys and didn't ever look at me like they looked at other girls. i realised in time that it was because they saw me as a friend that they couldn't ever let it turn into anything else, they saw me as "one of them". but don't worry this will change or you will meet a guy that doesn't know the tomboy side of you. also it doesn't matter that your not "girlie" some guys don't like a girl wos always worried about the way she looks and wants to go shopping all the time.

Ok, this is going to sound really despierate, especially coming from me, but what the hell is wrong with me? I can't stand it anymore. I've never had a boyfriend, I'm 16, a junior in high school, and no guy seems to even show interest in me at all. Ok, I guess that's not worded right. Correction: no guy seems to want to go out with me. They talk to me sure, but I don't think they could ever see themselves actually going out with me.

 

Background bit:

I grew up as a tomboy, so I kind of had mostly guy friends. Even now, I share many of the same interests as my friends do, like playing videogames, making jokes on how stupid our teachers are, etc. I'll be trueful: I'm not anything like a girly-girl. I'm not into fashion, or obsessed about my weight (no, I'm not fat, nor skinny), I don't wear make-up, or like shopping. (gasp! shocker...)

 

So back to square one, and be trueful (especially you guys) why don't guys really like girls like me? Is it because you just see us as one of you guys, or is it because of more defiance in the girl that throws you off?

 

I've never had a boyfriend and I'm 16. And I'm actually just like you described yourself. I just started wearing make-up cause my mom convinced me too. Otherwise I still wouldn't have any make-up stuff.

 

Just becuase you haven't had a bf yet does not mean you're weird or something's wrong with you. Honestly, these kind of things just pisses me off cause really, do you think that you are absolutely nothing without a guy? Are you helpless or stupid without a guy hanging around you?

No! no you are not so dont even think about that!

Ofcourse, it feels good to have a bf but the whole "something's wrong with me cause I'm 16 and haven't had a bf" is just totally..argh-ish!

 

I know that it would good to ave a guy who likes you but just cause you do not have one at the mom does not mean there's anything wrong with you.

If not sooner than later. You will find someone

I dunno about guys, but i like to hang out with tomboys

I honestly don't know why you don't have a boyfriend, i think you are really cool as a person, funny, interlectual, pretty.

And to prove it, you are actually the only person on my top 24 i don't know in real life and you are pretty high up on the list.

ok i am going to be brutal here.

 

u said ur not into fashion or make up so maybe no boys want to go out with u because u look like shit! im not recommending that u pile on the make up and wear all the last fashions but maybe you should put in a little effort. Because guy tend to like girls who present themselves well and look good.

shallow.. I appreciate what clogz said..

I'm sure there are guys out there who don't care about make up..actually I know some people who like the natural girl types more than the ones high up make up.

sygy that was out of order!!! you DON'T need to wear make-up and dress in girlie clothes to attract boys, infact i think guys like more natural looking girls, not girls who wear make up. oh and beauty comes from within, you might be the best looking person alive but if you have a crap personality and are nasty to ppl guys wont like you.

 

i think you should say sorry NOW!!! because that was a very nasty and hurtful thing to say and it was uncalled for.

sorry

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thanks syg, you know i love you lots hun but sometimes you can say the wrong thing at the wrong time. shes a very pretty girl and just because boys you know like girls with make up doesn't mean every boy does.

i didnt say wear loads of make up and just said make an effort...but yes it was phrased harsely..

that's called changing the way you are I guess..

i wouldn't change myself to impress any guy, if he doesn't like you how you are then he can fuck off!!!

No I don't think it's that with your friend we have Tomboys in our group of friends too.

but we see'em more of a really cool girl...and prefer more of friends.

and don't let the way you are get you down sure couldn't be that.

but don't change your-self and don't rush into a relationship..

guess thats all i wanted to say....

When I first read the topic I was prepared to give a long answer but others have said it better than me actually... Clogs and Allie have spoken the truth! I agree 100% with both of them!! Honey, I think I've said it before... being ourselves and being genuine is maybe the most attractive characteristic...Be yourself, boys should like you for what you really are and if they can't like you for who you are they simply don't deserve to be with you! Allie said it! Beauty comes from within! Believe in this! And hey, don't you worry hon, you're only 16, relax and enjoy life! You'll meet the right boy for you eventually... Take care and love yourself and never listen to those who say "You should change this or that or else guys won't like you" Those people most likely suffer from a low self esteem themselves...

So moral of the story...don't even THINK about changing your self because you think you'll get more attention from guys.

Thanks for that. I wasn't thinking about changing myself, but if I ever think that, I'll go back to what you said.

 

Clogz-thanks for the advice as well. I guess sometimes I'm unsure of myself...

 

lol LPpinkfreak821. Thanks for lightening up the mood there.

 

allie-yea, most of my guy friends see me as just that. "one of them" It's kind of frustrating, but at the same time, I can talk to them and not worry about them thinking about other certain things. Thanks.

 

Honestly' date=' these kind of things just pisses me off cause really, do you think that you are absolutely nothing without a guy? Are you helpless or stupid without a guy hanging around you?[/quote']

And thank you Heart. That really opened up my mind to see that I don't need a guy to like me for me to live. Thank you for that.

 

 

So, overall, I want to thank you guys for replying to this, and giving your own advice on it. It really means a lot (especially since you probably see countless topics like this) So mucho gracias, and I'll keep all your comments in mind next time I start thinking about it so I can stay on track of what really matters, and that's just to enjoy life. Thanks guys.

shallow.. I appreciate what clogz said..

I'm sure there are guys out there who don't care about make up..actually I know some people who like the natural girl types more than the ones high up make up.

I hate when girls pile on make-up...I can understand if its prom or something, but for goodness' sake! Its just a school day! Besides, I just like that 'natural' look anyway.