atlantic Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 Ok, where to start? I had a new neighbor move next door to me about 3 months ago, her son is my son's age and they immediately hit it off. She and I seemed to as well. I thought it odd that only knowing me and another neighbor friend of mine for a very short time, that she would tell us all these supposed molestation charges about her ex-husband (whom she still lets take her son every weekend). I then realized ex-husband was on a parent school board, so naturally I have it investigated, background checks and whatnot. Turns out ex-husband is clean, but ex-wife had daughter taken away by dss. I have since cut ties with her and praise the lord she is moving, I still see ex-husband on Fridays at karate (poor bastard), should somebody warn him that she's trying to ruin his rep? Or should I just avoid this situation? Did I mention I despise people who falsely accuse their ex's to mess with them. Quote Do the right thing!
timesjoke Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 I would tell him. Most divorces involve an alegation of sexual misconduct made by the woman against the man in one form or another. The woman who killed her husband by shooting him in the back with a shotgun said he abused her and only got 67 days as punnishment for her crime. It is standard practice these days to accuse the man of these kinds of things to get sympathy from the courts and even the general public. I am sure the judge would be interested in hearing that the mother is putting down the father in that way as well, it is harmful to the child to hear that kind of attack being made against his father and could lead to many problems. Horrible that a mother would poison her son and an entire town just to hurt the father. No matter how pissed she is at him, that is wrong. Quote
atlantic Posted November 6, 2007 Author Posted November 6, 2007 I would tell him. Most divorces involve an alegation of sexual misconduct made by the woman against the man in one form or another. The woman who killed her husband by shooting him in the back with a shotgun said he abused her and only got 67 days as punnishment for her crime. It is standard practice these days to accuse the man of these kinds of things to get sympathy from the courts and even the general public. I am sure the judge would be interested in hearing that the mother is putting down the father in that way as well, it is harmful to the child to hear that kind of attack being made against his father and could lead to many problems. Horrible that a mother would poison her son and an entire town just to hurt the father. No matter how pissed she is at him, that is wrong.I'm thinking the same thing. I feel so bad that the whole town was investigating this guy because of a lie. Also I have seen problems with her son already, he throws up everytime he has to go home to his mom's house after staying with the dad, and has accidents as well everyday (he's 5-1/2). I am so disgusted right now, and just trying to think of a way to warn the dad to watch his back and protect himself anyway he can. . Quote Do the right thing!
timesjoke Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 I'm thinking the same thing. I feel so bad that the whole town was investigating this guy because of a lie. Also I have seen problems with her son already, he throws up everytime he has to go home to his mom's house after staying with the dad, and has accidents as well everyday (he's 5-1/2). I am so disgusted right now, and just trying to think of a way to warn the dad to watch his back and protect himself anyway he can. After that bit of information, I say you are obligated to speak up, this is not about you taking the father's side at this point, this is about the health and wellbeing of a 5 year old child. What you describe is clear evidence that the kid needs help, he is stressed out and confused about the way his mother is acting and until someone takes a stand, this child will continue to suffer and even get worse as the pressure builds. At the very least, this kid needs to get a child counselor to talk to. Quote
atlantic Posted November 6, 2007 Author Posted November 6, 2007 After that bit of information, I say you are obligated to speak up, this is not about you taking the father's side at this point, this is about the health and wellbeing of a 5 year old child. What you describe is clear evidence that the kid needs help, he is stressed out and confused about the way his mother is acting and until someone takes a stand, this child will continue to suffer and even get worse as the pressure builds. At the very least, this kid needs to get a child counselor to talk to. I know, I've been thinking that for some time now, her stepmom has even had fallouts with her over this (at the time I didn't understand why the grandmother was pushing for him to be in couseling - now I get it since I have the full story). I know the father will push for the help once he is aware of what has been taking place, I know more than he does at the moment about circumstances, you're right I have to talk to him. Gonna be awkward though. Quote Do the right thing!
wez Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 Ok, where to start? I had a new neighbor move next door to me about 3 months ago, her son is my son's age and they immediately hit it off. She and I seemed to as well. I thought it odd that only knowing me and another neighbor friend of mine for a very short time, that she would tell us all these supposed molestation charges about her ex-husband (whom she still lets take her son every weekend). I then realized ex-husband was on a parent school board, so naturally I have it investigated, background checks and whatnot. Turns out ex-husband is clean, but ex-wife had daughter taken away by dss. I have since cut ties with her and praise the lord she is moving, I still see ex-husband on Fridays at karate (poor bastard), should somebody warn him that she's trying to ruin his rep? Or should I just avoid this situation? Did I mention I despise people who falsely accuse their ex's to mess with them. I'd tell him simply because if that was me, I'd hope someone cared enough about me to tell me.. Good luck if you do Least she's moving away from you so you don't get the red faced "WHY DID YOU TELL HIM blah, blah, blah... Quote
atlantic Posted November 7, 2007 Author Posted November 7, 2007 I'd tell him simply because if that was me, I'd hope someone cared enough about me to tell me.. Good luck if you do Least she's moving away from you so you don't get the red faced "WHY DID YOU TELL HIM blah, blah, blah...I know, I can't wait for her to move, everyday its like countdown. Besides accusing her ex of being a sexual predator, she has been very mean to alot of the children in my neighborhood (we've had a few disagreements about it), she falsely accused one of my other friends of hitting on her current husband, and trust me he's the ho. Also, you know me Wez, I don't candycoat anything and she hasn't seen my serious no bull side yet. I'm hoping I don't have to release the Lion on her What gets me is this is all her own doing, and I will tell her so. I also expressed my concerns with her before which was met with hostility, so whatever, I'm getting used to her weirdness and guilty reactions. Quote Do the right thing!
Old Salt Posted November 7, 2007 Posted November 7, 2007 I know, I can't wait for her to move, everyday its like countdown. Besides accusing her ex of being a sexual predator, she has been very mean to alot of the children in my neighborhood (we've had a few disagreements about it), she falsely accused one of my other friends of hitting on her current husband, and trust me he's the ho. Also, you know me Wez, I don't candycoat anything and she hasn't seen my serious no bull side yet. I'm hoping I don't have to release the Lion on her What gets me is this is all her own doing, and I will tell her so. I also expressed my concerns with her before which was met with hostility, so whatever, I'm getting used to her weirdness and guilty reactions. Some people project their own thoughts, acts, and wishes on other people. Quote
Guest sheik-yerbouti Posted November 7, 2007 Posted November 7, 2007 If he were a friend, or even just an acquaintance of mine, I would have to let him know. But do it anonomously. Thats important. I know someone who told his friend that his wife was being unfaithful. He ended up with two enemies his ex-friend and the unfaithful wife Quote
atlantic Posted November 7, 2007 Author Posted November 7, 2007 If he were a friend, or even just an acquaintance of mine, I would have to let him know. But do it anonomously. Thats important. I know someone who told his friend that his wife was being unfaithful. He ended up with two enemies his ex-friend and the unfaithful wifeI thought about that at first, but then realized she also told another mom where I live the same story and where she has actually known the guy for some time I feel the psycho mom may blame her, which I really don't want. I don't want to be her friend and would prefer to never speak with her if possible anyways. Quote Do the right thing!
eddo Posted November 7, 2007 Posted November 7, 2007 I'm hoping I don't have to release the Lion on her You have a lion??? And you routinely release on people you don't like??? I don't know whether to be shocked or proud... Quote I'm trusted by more women.
wez Posted November 7, 2007 Posted November 7, 2007 You have a lion??? And you routinely release on people you don't like??? I don't know whether to be shocked or proud... Shut the hell up... My avatar has a spare tooth for the smiley hat pic.. Hahahahahahaha Quote
atlantic Posted November 8, 2007 Author Posted November 8, 2007 Something's up because now she's pulled her son from karate (she had also given the sensei wrong telephone #'s for contact and never put the real dad's telephone # ) and is changing schools. Seems she's running from something, this will be her 3rd move within a year? I guess she forgot that she told me where the dad lives, and I know what he drives, shouldn't be too hard to find his place unless she lied about that too. Quote Do the right thing!
atlantic Posted November 8, 2007 Author Posted November 8, 2007 You have a lion??? And you routinely release on people you don't like??? I don't know whether to be shocked or proud...Yes her name is Justicey Quote Do the right thing!
Guest Elaina Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 Yikes. I would probably tell him. Those are really serious allegations. Quote
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