The friends that come and go.

[phreakwars]

Ever notice, besides your best friend, there are those other friends that come and go in your life. Maybe they moved, maybe you moved, maybe they died, maybe they got married, maybe you don't know, maybe you don't care.

 

I guess in general most of my passerby friends fall into the category of really don't care. There are however, a few exceptions to that rule.

 

For instance, my best friend Chris. Otherwise, I guess I don't really care what anybody that I have known has made out of their lives, whether I still see them as an OK individual, or someone who I no longer particularly like for what ever reason.

 

But I do feel, that each of these individuals have made me look at life in a different way.

 

Like my OTHER friend Chris.

 

Admittedly, when I was 13 years old, I broke into many small business in the little town I lived in.

 

Why did I do it? Well, the first 2 times I did it for something I wanted but couldn't afford. I didn't really believe in taking things I shouldn't, but then along came Chris. And Josh, and Jerry, and etc, etc, etc.. I wouldn't call any of them a bad influence to myself, I'd like to see it more as all of us being a bad influence on each other.

 

The same goes for the friends in the Iowa town I grew up in for many years..

 

The first "sign" that many missed, was the car accidents, then the suicide deaths, the jail sentences, the prison sentences, the friends are still alive, but then, the gang seems to be fading by fate of their own decisions in life.

 

Now I'm not trying to paint a picture of rebellion and indulgement, but more of a picture of individuals who chose to abuse themselves physically and mentally, and chose to do the same to others.

 

Then you have the opposite sex friends... These ones tend to stay around longer even if your married. Even longer still if you hadn't once slept with them, and even longer yet if they are your wifes friend too.

 

But I say, go ahead and miss them too.. I do.

 

Then you have the friends you you would rather not call a friend, but more of an acquaintance.

 

These people NEVER go away soon enough. Even when you are moving to get away from them, they will help you move just so they know where you live.

 

I actually don't tend to keep but only 5 people that I actually call a friend. I won't even get into the whole MySpace thing when it comes to my close friends, MySpace is nothing to me but the same as a vBulletin User profile page hacked to allow extra code.

 

Do yourself a favor and leave your friends off of your MySpace page. The people on the Internet are not your friends, plain and simple.

 

Your friends are the ones who made there mistakes and achievements apparent to you, and influence you to go on the path you see fit.

 

In some ways, the friends that come and go, are more important then the friends that are still here.

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[DaMan]

I never experienced this. There were 5 of us that were friends since the age of 5. We are all married, some more than once and we still get together all the time. We watch football at the bar we been going to for many years. Our wives hang out when we have our guys night out. On date night we take the wives to dinner.

 

Granted there have been many casual friends that have come and gone. I never really considered them friends. Friends to me are people that stick together for whatever reason through thick and thin. The 5 of us are different in many ways. There is just something that makes us stick together. We don't live as close to each other as we used to, but, something makes sure we see each other at least once a week.

[atlantic]

I have only one girlfriend that I trust absolutely (Melissa). I haven't seen her in years since I had my son, and her's graduated high school. We are simply at different times in our lives, I am raising my child, and she's just beginning to experience being on her own again. I know for a fact that if I ever need her I can depend on her and she me, she also knows this. We have both dropped whatever we are doing to go rescue the other when need be many times. The only other person I trust absolutely is my sister and my son of course. As for the internet, I do consider CB (known as Snafu here) and Wez my friends. The rest have too many alias's to be considered trustworthy

[snafu]

My best friend died when he was 25. We did eveything toghether. I was mad at him at the time because he was fighting with his girlfriend and I knew he was in the wrong. You know going over and busting her headlights out of her car. Stuff like that. It hurts to think that just maybe I could've been with him to save his life that night.

 

We need a lyrics post... - Page 25

[timesjoke]

Casual friends are okay, and can offer a lot to you but I believe a couple "good" friends are all anyone needs to have a great life.

 

 

We all have limited time in this world and giving your time to spend with others is one of the most valuable things you can ever offer another person.

[ImWithStupid]

Over the course of my lifetime, I can say that I have had many great friends that have been in my life, many that still are and some that I still have contact with but will always be there when needed.

 

I have had good friends that have been there for a long time but for one reason or another have distanced ourselves, but still will most likely be there when it matters.

 

There are people who may fall in the "aquantance" persona that are many of my past and present coworkers that fall in this catagory, but many coworkwers also fall in the good friend catagory.

 

I see what you mean, Bender, and have the same catagories as you do, and it seems that the older I get, the more I realize it.

 

I do have to add some of the people that I have met on sites like these as "friends", but in a different catagory.

[RoyalOrleans]

Ohh... I thought this thread was about me.

[hugo]

Ohh... I thought this thread was about me.

 

 

He's so vain.

[Feckless Wench]

Most of my 'friends' just drifted away when I moved to another country, the rest disappeared when I married a man 11 years younger than me. Funny how 'friends' that you've had for years suddenly show you that they were never friends at all.

[Jhony5]

I was always very selective of whom I call friends. I only ever lost two friends. One got seriously addicted to pain medication and I stopped going around him. The other was like a brother to me between the ages of 9 and 16. After that we think he was, or rather is, a closet gay and just sorta drifted away from his straight friends. He started hanging around effeminate friends and seemingly refused to hang with us.

 

Other than that I kept the friends I had and still hang out with a tight nit grouping.

[snafu]

In my younger days we had a motley crew. I don?t know how many friends I had but it was one party after another. We all just sort of grew up and drifted apart. When I divorced I did the bar scene for a few years. My roommate was the lead guitar player in a band so we would open and close the bars. It?s a wonder I?m alive. As the years past I see a few friends from the past but not too often. A lot of them have died from drugs. A couple have made a complete turn around in there lives finding god. Most of my friends now are co-workers.

I don't have any enemies that I know of. Well my neighbor is an asshole but other than that I have none.

 

Friends will be Friends