Marriage can be a good thing, right?

[snafu]

And for for it to work the sexual attraction and compatibility it needs do be a two way street. Which is a hard element to obtain.

[atlantic]

Marriage can be a good thing. When I was married I was very happy. My husband was the sweetest, kindest, smartest, funniest man I ever knew. I would look forward to him coming home. I adored him and still do. Unfortunately his stupid ass brother got him into drugs and drinking. The divorce sucked. We didn't fight over anything, and I even drove him home. To this day we are friends and I miss him. Even though we are divorced now, I am so glad I married him, I wouldn't erase that part of my life for the world.

[wez]

Marriage can be a good thing. When I was married I was very happy. My husband was the sweetest, kindest, smartest, funniest man I ever knew. I would look forward to him coming home. I adored him and still do. Unfortunately his stupid ass brother got him into drugs and drinking. The divorce sucked. We didn't fight over anything, and I even drove him home. To this day we are friends and I miss him. Even though we are divorced now, I am so glad I married him, I wouldn't erase that part of my life for the world.

 

 

I remember you telling me that.. that does suck.. Hope he's doing good with the addictions..

 

 

Nice to see ya sweetie.

[atlantic]

I remember you telling me that.. that does suck.. Hope he's doing good with the addictions..

 

 

Nice to see ya sweetie.

We have lost touch, but sadly I doubt it.

[phreakwars]

One thing is for sure, I know if my wife ever unexpectedly passed away, I would NEVER re-marry. I might find me some ho' to bang on, sure (also get a vasectomy). But I would never re-marry. It's not that I have a problem with marriage, I just only picture myself ever really committed to one and only one person. I know it is highly unlikely my wife and I would ever divorce... unless of course she cheated on me, in which case, I would blow her brains out first. But then I don't worry about things like that. I would have to say I would be more likely to cheat on her (yeah, fat chance), then she would on me. Hell, I'm so committed, I don't even flirt online. Nothing to do with the fear of being caught, more with being confident in the relationship that I don't feel a need for such tomfoolery.

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[Anna Perenna]

My best friend is home for the weekend and he's been going through a really rocky patch in his marriage. His first year anniversary isn't until next month and from the sounds of it, I don't know if they're going to make it a year.

 

He's been asking me for advice, but as a divorced person I don't know if I'm being very unbiased. I don't want to seem like I'm pushing the "cut your losses and run" option simply because that was the best choice for me. I'd like to balance the conversation with good things about matrimony as well because I believe one should look at the big picture before making the huge decision of getting a divorce.

 

So please give me some positive and pleasant thoughts on marriage.

 

The only thing you need to do, really, is stare off into the distance while patting him on the shoulder and saying quietly "it just wasn't meant to be......."

 

Then get him drunk and drag out an acoustic guitar/harmonica to sing some songs.

 

The only talking should entail regulated invections of "bitch" and phrases like "love is pain and life is WAR"

 

At some point, a vituperative sobriquet must be applied to said bitch.

 

Thus ends the therapy session.

[ImWithStupid]

The only thing you need to do, really, is stare off into the distance while patting him on the shoulder and saying quietly "it just wasn't meant to be......."

 

Then get him drunk and drag out an acoustic guitar/harmonica to sing some songs.

 

The only talking should entail regulated invections of "bitch" and phrases like "love is pain and life is WAR"

 

At some point, a vituperative sobriquet must be applied to said bitch.

 

Thus ends the therapy session.

 

... and throw him a pitty screw to get over her.

[Anna Perenna]

... and throw him a pitty screw to get over her.

 

Well, yes, actually, but only if you find him attractive.

 

Following on from that, make him the best meal he's ever eaten.

 

Then make him yours

[ImWithStupid]

Well, yes, actually, but only if you find him attractive.

 

Following on from that, make him the best meal he's ever eaten.

 

Then make him yours

 

Even if he isn't attractive, hence the word "pitty".

[Ahhlee]

The only thing you need to do, really, is stare off into the distance while patting him on the shoulder and saying quietly "it just wasn't meant to be......."

 

Then get him drunk and drag out an acoustic guitar/harmonica to sing some songs.

 

The only talking should entail regulated invections of "bitch" and phrases like "love is pain and life is WAR"

 

At some point, a vituperative sobriquet must be applied to said bitch.

 

Thus ends the therapy session.

 

My God, that is almost exactly how it went.

 

But I'm not talented enough to pull off the Dylanesque acoustic guitar/harmonica combo, so we sang "Mountain Music" at a karaoke bar instead.

 

I think it went well and no pity fukking was necessary.

[mercury]

I spent most of the weekend considering this....

 

couldn't come up with anything. sorry.

[RoyalOrleans]

I'm in between dysfunctional marriages.

[Ahhlee]

I'm in between dysfunctional marriages.

 

LOL!

 

Why do I get the feeling that you're just not the settling down type?

[RoyalOrleans]

LOL!

 

Why do I get the feeling that you're just not the settling down type?

 

Honeychild, I thought I was the settling down type. After two failed marriages and several live-in relationships, it's probably best that I have come to this juncture.

 

The lord has set me to wander, but I'm not lost.

[Ahhlee]

Honeychild, I thought I was the settling down type. After two failed marriages and several live-in relationships, it's probably best that I have come to this juncture.

 

The lord has set me to wander, but I'm not lost.

 

There's no crime in that lifestyle. At least you can acknowledge who you are.

 

I have yet to determine if I'm meant to settle down and allow my domestic diva to flourish or if I'm better suited to a life of countless changes, adventures and lovers. It's a mystery.

[emkay64]

I like the idea of marriage....I just don't believe in it.

[Ahhlee]

I like the idea of marriage....I just don't believe in it.

 

The older I get, the less I do, too.

 

I'd be happy co-habitating with a guy who makes me laugh, isn't needy, doesn't frown upon my weird movie collection and appreciates me for the fabulous woman I am.

[RoyalOrleans]

There's no crime in that lifestyle. At least you can acknowledge who you are.

 

I have yet to determine if I'm meant to settle down and allow my domestic diva to flourish or if I'm better suited to a life of countless changes, adventures and lovers. It's a mystery.

 

Ohhh... believe me, sugar, I am totally happy with my lifestyle.

 

I go and come go as I pleas and do my own thing. Right now, with my business early in its growing, I can't get wrapped up in a relationship.

 

You want to fukk? Fine! So do I!

 

Want to have supper some night? Fine! I get hungry!

 

Want to spend the night? Fine! I get sleepy around nine!

 

Just don't go expecting me to meet your girlfriends, your parents, your coworkers, etc... I don't have time for that.

 

Well... today I do. I'm off today. Still... I just like to fukk.

[RoyalOrleans]

I like the idea of marriage....I just don't believe in it.

 

Marriage is old school theology turned ugly(or uglier) by the government and your potential in-laws.

[RoyalOrleans]

The older I get, the less I do, too.

 

I'd be happy co-habitating with a guy who makes me laugh, isn't needy, doesn't frown upon my weird movie collection and appreciates me for the fabulous woman I am.

 

No movie collection is weirder than mine.

[Ahhlee]

Ohhh... believe me, sugar, I am totally happy with my lifestyle.

 

I go and come go as I pleas and do my own thing. Right now, with my business early in its growing, I can't get wrapped up in a relationship.

 

You want to fukk? Fine! So do I!

 

Want to have supper some night? Fine! I get hungry!

 

Want to spend the night? Fine! I get sleepy around nine!

 

Just don't go expecting me to meet your girlfriends, your parents, your coworkers, etc... I don't have time for that.

 

Well... today I do. I'm off today. Still... I just like to fukk.

 

 

I'm pretty much at that stage right now, too. Plus I have intimacy/trust issues so fukking is about the extent I'm willing to engage with anyone, unless someone amazing comes along and convinces me he's worth more of my time.

 

When you own a business, you are married to that business. All other relationships are simply flings in comparison.

 

Does this mean you aren't going to show up in a crisp white t-shirt and sport jacket to meet my folks?

[emkay64]

I'm pretty much at that stage right now, too. Plus I have intimacy/trust issues so fukking is about the extent I'm willing to engage with anyone, unless someone amazing comes along and convinces me he's worth more of my time.

 

When you own a business, you are married to that business. All other relationships are simply flings in comparison.

 

Does this mean you aren't going to show up in a crisp white t-shirt and sport jacket to meet my folks?

 

Christ no! He'd fuk your mother!

[mercury]

I'm getting there, myself... I still like the security of someone else doing the earning though.

 

which is weird, because it's really no security at all. He doesn't earn much.

[RoyalOrleans]

I'm pretty much at that stage right now, too. Plus I have intimacy/trust issues so fukking is about the extent I'm willing to engage with anyone, unless someone amazing comes along and convinces me he's worth more of my time.

 

I do have a Superman t-shirt on and I can speak with dolphins.

 

When you own a business, you are married to that business. All other relationships are simply flings in comparison.

 

That's pretty much it. I can't think of anything more important to me right now.

 

Does this mean you aren't going to show up in a crisp white t-shirt and sport jacket to meet my folks?

 

Is your mom hot?

[RoyalOrleans]

Christ no! He'd fuk your mother!

 

Ahooo... you damn right I would.