Love

[Ahhlee]

(thread inspired by a recent shout box conversation)

 

How do you express love? Is it a word you use openly and unhindered, or are you more conservative with the expression?

 

And to take the conversation a bit further, how do you define love?

[emkay64]

Love is friendship set on fire.

 

I don't say it as much , but I take care of those I love. I have a need to protect and to do things for them. I don't for others.

[ImWithStupid]

When I love someone, I usually make fun of them and pull their hair, when the teacher isn't looking.

[timesjoke]

"Love" as a word can be used in many ways, similar to the word 'sh!t' where such usage can be very different:

 

"your sh!tt!ng me."

 

"Don't give me that sh!t"

 

"This is some good sh!t"

 

 

"Love" as a concept or feeling is defined inside us, the feeling is difficult to define because it requires so much personal involvement.

 

 

To me, my own definition of the feeling "love" is something you value enough to set aside your own desires and goals to preserve and protect.

[emkay64]

I can't believe you used "sh!t" as a comparative word to "love". I get the connection,.....Love Stinks?

[Ahhlee]

I have different ideas about love for different situations.

 

 

Family love - unconditional. You don't get to choose your family or your children (well....I guess you can). The ties that bind a family together are strong, resilient and truly loving.

 

 

Friend love - I have a handful of tried, true and tested friends who I love. These are the people I can call in the middle of the night and cry to and they'll listen. These are the people who would drive thousands of miles to be by my side if I were ever hurt/injured. These are the people who would offer me their homes if I needed a place to stay and money if I fell on hard times. These are the people who call me "just to say hi", are willing to stand by me even when I'm acting out of sorts, care enough to intervene if they think something's wrong and know me well enough to be there during those times when I really just need a friend.

 

They're always there through the good, the bad, the happy and sad.

 

Plus they remember my birthday...lol.

 

And I'd do the same for them in a heartbeat.

 

 

Relationship love - I think the initial stages of a relationship, where you want to bang someone at every opportunity ALL DAY LONG is mostly a result of immediate infatuation. While it's a heady (heh) experience, love doesn't set in until you've been with a person for awhile and learn their habits, desires, what direction they like the toilet paper, if they're crabby or chipper in the mornings, whether or not they know how to close a cupboard door properly and other idiosyncracies that make up an individual.

 

Once you know who a person truly is, inside and out, and you're willing to stick by them no matter what....that's love.

 

 

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I'm conservative with the word "love". I say it to my family and a handful of friends, but that is it.

 

I've only ever told one man that I love him. That was my husband.

 

I guess when it comes to relationships, I reserve that word for "the one". If I'm telling every other guy in the neighborhood that I love him, how would the special someone in my life know he's....special? I guess for me, "I love you" is the ultimate phrase I can say to someone and if I say it to you, you'll know damn good and well that I mean it from the bottom of my cold, black heart.

[Ahhlee]

I can't believe you used "sh!t" as a comparative word to "love". I get the connection,.....Love Stinks?

 

I was just about to comment on that!!!!! LMFAO!

[timesjoke]

I can't believe you used "sh!t" as a comparative word to "love". I get the connection,.....Love Stinks?

 

 

I was actually going for many concepts at the same time, I am weird that way..

 

Notice how sh!t and Love are both '4 letter words'?

 

Coincidence?

[emkay64]

The only way to find true love is to risk being completely cut open.

[atlantic]

Love to me is pure and unconditional. I use the word often, with family and those I consider to be close friends.

[timesjoke]

Love to me is pure and unconditional. I use the word often, with family and those I consider to be close friends.

 

There are certainly different kinds of 'love'. The love I feel for Tami and the love I feel for my children are similar, but their also very different. The love I feel for God is also a completely different feeling.

 

But yes, all of them are unconditional for me, I have no doubts of my feelings or the purpose of my dedication.

[Ahhlee]

The only way to find true love is to risk being completely cut open.

 

I haven't found anyone yet who has the patience to escort me to that level of trust.

[snafu]

I can tell my wife I love her all the time and she won't say it back which can really hurt. Yesterday I told her I've always planned on spending the rest of my life with her. She told me she couldn't see her life another way either. She is a very very strong willed women so I think that is true love. We've talked about what happened in the past years and I do hold a lot of the blame.The other problem is that she holds on to things and won't let go.

This trouble we are having with my daughter has actually strengthen our love and she came out and told me she loves me as we laid down and held each other for the first time in quite a while. Yeah some people can throw that word around with no meaning and others use it when they really mean it.

[wez]

It's so hard.. impossible really for me to try to put it words.. Real love defined is diminished by words.. Different forms of love for different people..

 

I say it a lot to certain people.. cuz.. sometimes that's all ya got..

 

I think it's good to express it often however ya can whilst ya can... cuz.. "The futures uncertain and the end is always near". ~ Jim Morrison

 

 

People are afraid of themselves, of their own reality; their feelings most of all. People talk about how great love is, but that's bull . Love hurts. Feelings are disturbing. People are taught that pain is evil and dangerous. How can they deal with love if they're afraid to feel? Pain is meant to wake us up. People try to hide their pain. But they're wrong. Pain is something to carry, like a radio. You feel your strength in the experience of pain. It's all in how you carry it. That's what matters. Pain is a feeling. Your feelings are a part of you. Your own reality. If you feel ashamed of them, and hide them, you're letting society destroy your reality. You should stand up for your right to feel your pain. ~ Jim Morrison

 

 

That's what real love amounts to- letting a person be what he really is. ~ Jim Morrison

 

 

 

I agree with Jim.. and BCAR..

[eddo]

My old standby-

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

 

Love never fails.

 

I wish I were better at it.