Since when does dating...

[Ahhlee]

...imply commitment?

 

If you go on one date with someone, should you then be expected to stop playing the field entirely?

 

Isn't dating just dating until you both talk it over and decide to be exclusive?

 

I'm confused. Please explain this to me because apparently I'm doing it wrong.

 

Thanks.

[ren]

It is Ali but some people are desperate of have low self esteem and need that instant commitment. In sleepless in seattle the father told his little boy that dating was just trying someone on and it didn't mean a lifetime commitment. To me , you meet someone see if you get along and then go on the next date if both agree. Then let it develope naturally.

[Ahhlee]

It is Ali but some people are desperate of have low self esteem and need that instant commitment. In sleepless in seattle the father told his little boy that dating was just trying someone on and it didn't mean a lifetime commitment. To me , you meet someone see if you get along and then go on the next date if both agree. Then let it develope naturally.

 

Good comment.

 

Oh, and you must be new here? Nice to meet you...I'm Ali.

[Old Salt]

Dating is dating. No commitment (as long as sex isn't involved IMO). That's what I tell my girls. Later comes "going steady" (is that still used? [sex may be involved]). Then engagement (if that's your thing) followed by marriage (again, if that's your thing).

 

Bottom line, if sex is involved there should be a certain amount of commitment. But that's just my opinion.

[RegisteredAndEducated]

I've done some dating, where sex was involved, that was non-exclusive. But that was back when I was a kid.

 

I believe that dating is supposed to be non-exclusive, until both parties agree that they want to be exclusive.

[Chi]

Later comes "going steady" (is that still used?)

 

Done in valley girl tone of voice "Steady" that is like SO 70's!! ugh...

[Chi]

the quoting feature keeps messing up... Oh well.

[timesjoke]

 

Bottom line, if sex is involved there should be a certain amount of commitment. But that's just my opinion.

 

I would agree with this, but I am also very old in my opinions.

 

 

The new and modern society has things like the 'booty call' where you just have sex and go your seperate ways so that sure blows away the notion of dating I suppose.

 

 

 

Ali,

 

My guess would be that the boundries need to be set with whoever it was, you may have made a stronger impression on him than he made on you so he wants it to be more personal while you don't.

 

 

I would just be honest with him and tell him that your not ready for anything like an exclusive relationship right now and go from there.

[Ahhlee]

Ali,

 

My guess would be that the boundries need to be set with whoever it was, you may have made a stronger impression on him than he made on you so he wants it to be more personal while you don't.

 

 

I would just be honest with him and tell him that your not ready for anything like an exclusive relationship right now and go from there.

 

I am upfront about it. At the very least I owe them honesty.

[timesjoke]

I am upfront about it. At the very least I owe them honesty.

 

Then your doing the right thing, not your fault if someone does not want to understand that. You may have to be a tad more clear, like with a bat, lol.