The perfect first date

[Ahhlee]

If you could plan the perfect first date, how would it go?

 

Discuss.

 

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[ImWithStupid]

I've never been on a traditional "first date". All my relationships usually occurred slowly over time developing from a friendship.

 

Not sure how I'd approach a first date.

 

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[RegisteredAndEducated]

My very first first date, when I was 11 or 12 (she was 13 or 14), started as the epitome of typical. A chaperon drove us to eat, the dropped us off at the movies. We snuck in to see Ransom, instead of whatever movie we payed for, and made out the entire movie. Then we made out all the way to my house, and she called me as soon as she got home, and we talked for a couple of hours.

[Ahhlee]

My very first first date, when I was 11 or 12 (she was 13 or 14), started as the epitome of typical. A chaperon drove us to eat, the dropped us off at the movies. We snuck in to see Ransom, instead of whatever movie we payed for, and made out the entire movie. Then we made out all the way to my house, and she called me as soon as she got home, and we talked for a couple of hours.

 

Awwww, that's cute!

 

I guess what I'm trying to find out is if you guys have a "go to" formula for a first date with a lady or if you like to tailor it to her personality and interests.

[timesjoke]

I generally would let the woman decide, if they showed no desire to do so and wanted me to set it up I would most likely ask her if she liked fish and fishing, if so we would head out on the Gulf for the day on my bosses boat, catch some fish and cook it fresh on the boat. I love the water and fishing allows a lot of time to talk and get to know each other instead of staring at a movie screen not talking.

[RoyalOrleans]

My idea of a perfect first date is supper at the Outback, watch Speed on VHS, and motorboat my way to the promised land.

 

Kidding....

 

Unless I am in a relationship where it is give and take, here and there; I never let my date decide what we do or where we go for the first date. The first date, in my opinion, is all about me and my ability to show the date a good time.

 

On a first date, especially if it is someone I want to bang, I spend some bank and skip the typical "movie" venue. (A movie on the first date is droll and boring. "Sorry, I have nothing to say to you for two hours so we'll watch some piece of horsesh!t in a crowded theater.).

[ren]

 

On a first date, especially if it is someone I want to bang, I spend some bank and skip the typical "movie" venue. (A movie on the first date is droll and boring. "Sorry, I have nothing to say to you for two hours so we'll watch some piece of horsesh!t in a crowded theater.).

 

I never really thought of it that way but you're right. I think dinner and a nice walk somewhere .If the weather is bad you can go to an art gallery depending if you live somewhere that supports one. I had one guy invite me to watch him act on stage even. I was completely delighted and entertained. Being creative gets points in my book and it doesn't have to be expensive.

[Ahhlee]

My idea of a perfect first date is supper at the Outback, watch Speed on VHS, and motorboat my way to the promised land.

 

Kidding....

 

Unless I am in a relationship where it is give and take, here and there; I never let my date decide what we do or where we go for the first date. The first date, in my opinion, is all about me and my ability to show the date a good time.

 

On a first date, especially if it is someone I want to bang, I spend some bank and skip the typical "movie" venue. (A movie on the first date is droll and boring. "Sorry, I have nothing to say to you for two hours so we'll watch some piece of horsesh!t in a crowded theater.).

 

Hey Dick. You know me pretty well and are aware of what a notorious pain in the ass I am. Where would you take me on a first date?

[Ahhlee]

I never really thought of it that way but you're right. I think dinner and a nice walk somewhere .If the weather is bad you can go to an art gallery depending if you live somewhere that supports one. I had one guy invite me to watch him act on stage even. I was completely delighted and entertained. Being creative gets points in my book and it doesn't have to be expensive.

 

I like a guy who can think outside the box and plan something unique for a first date. That always impresses me.

 

My date this weekend has a bunch of stuff lined up that I like which is cool, and one thing he wants to do is take some shrooms and then go see Tim Burton's "Alice in Wonderland". I'm a little apprehensive because I've never done them before, but it sounds trippy.

[ren]

Think it will be trippy enough without shrooms.

[emkay64]

Perfect first dates equal no pressure. I'm uncomfortable with intense, stare in your eyes close talkers. Let's go watch a ball game, go go-karting, play mini golf, anything that gets us a chance to talk and laugh and let things be light. I don't want to hear about every past relationship or listen to whining about how he got screwed over. I just want it to be fun. Then if things go well, let's go get something to eat...nothing formal...I don't want to sit in formal clothing, talking all quiet and sitting stuck in front of someone I don't know. Save formal for later when we are more comfortable. I'd rather be taken to a dive with great food, take our stuff and eat on the grass somewhere, or lets go get some groceries and cook dinner together. I wanna go home played out with a sore stomach from laughing hard. If I'm comfortable and at ease there is very little I wouldn't be up for

 

A movie first date is fukkin lame. It means "hey let's not talk and can you give me a hand job?" No fukkin thanks!

 

Alice in Wonderland was fantastic! On shrooms would be a hoot!

[timesjoke]

That is why I would love to go boating, and fishing then cook what we catch, I love to cook especially for someone special. If things go well and time is lost because of great time together then there is the sunset on the water as a great end to the trip.

 

Special time together is spent "WITH" each other, not with your mind accupied on something like a movie, I completely agree with all of you.

 

 

Did I tell you guys about the time I went on a date with a lady who stayed on her cellphone the entire drive to dinner? I didn't even stop at the restaurant, I turned around and took her back home.

[emkay64]

That is why I would love to go boating, and fishing then cook what we catch, I love to cook especially for someone special. If things go well and time is lost because of great time together then there is the sunset on the water as a great end to the trip.

 

Special time together is spent "WITH" each other, not with your mind accupied on something like a movie, I completely agree with all of you.

 

 

Did I tell you guys about the time I went on a date with a lady who stayed on her cellphone the entire drive to dinner? I didn't even stop at the restaurant, I turned around and took her back home.

 

OH!!! I almost forgot....if the guy feels the need to text anyone, or god forbid check his fukkin facebook status etc. etc. take me home! If I'm not interesting enough to NOT twitter, facebook or text...then I won't waste your time. Talking about work related stuff is fine to a degree. I'm okay with a quick call..but if I'm left to my own devices too long, don't be shocked to find I've left.

[eddo]

I dunno about the taking a girl out on a boat for a first date. Seems awful confining to me. I don't want the lady to feel she HAS to stay with me if things aren't going how she would like.

[emkay64]

I dunno about the taking a girl out on a boat for a first date. Seems awful confining to me. I don't want the lady to feel she HAS to stay with me if things aren't going how she would like.

 

I agree with the boat thing....but fishing on shore would be a cool first date. I can fillet or cook If a guy wants to teach me to fly fish I'd be all over that!

[timesjoke]

I dunno about the taking a girl out on a boat for a first date. Seems awful confining to me. I don't want the lady to feel she HAS to stay with me if things aren't going how she would like.

I would mention it and look for her reaction, of course I would not try to make her feel trapped or anything. Why is it you always have to try and make me sound like a monster or something?

 

Believe it or not, here in Florida people see water sports as normal every day activities, not a chance to trap someone and molest them. It is not like we would be alone anyway, hard to run a 50 foot sailboat by yourself, lol.

[wez]

I would mention it and look for her reaction, of course I would not try to make her feel trapped or anything. Why is it you always have to try and make me sound like a monster or something?

 

Believe it or not, here in Florida people see water sports as normal every day activities, not a chance to trap someone and molest them. It is not like we would be alone anyway, hard to run a 50 foot sailboat by yourself, lol.

 

Relax tough guy.. he was giving his opinion.. don't take everything so fucking personal.

 

 

For me.. I'm like IWS.. all my relationships have built from friendships.. So I guess a perfect first date for me wouldn't be planned much farther than lets get together and do something fun.. whatever we feel like whenever we feel like doing it.. I wouldn't wanna go into it with any expectations.. kinda like to fly by the seat of my pants and am pretty damn easy going so I'd be up for pretty much anything..

[ImWithStupid]

I if so we would head out on the Gulf for the day on my bosses boat, catch some fish and cook it fresh on the boat.

 

 

I'm still trying to wrap my head around this statement. :huh:

[eddo]

I would mention it and look for her reaction, of course I would not try to make her feel trapped or anything. Why is it you always have to try and make me sound like a monster or something?

 

Believe it or not, here in Florida people see water sports as normal every day activities, not a chance to trap someone and molest them. It is not like we would be alone anyway, hard to run a 50 foot sailboat by yourself, lol.

 

yeah, I didn't mean anything personal by my earlier comment. and out here in AZ, it wouldn't have the same connotation as it would on the coast.

 

I still feel that it should be at least a previously agreed on excursion, not a surprise event. I just think that would be creepy.

 

 

 

 

Personally, I have done the movie thing, and prefer somewhere or something that we can talk over. Dinner is nice, walking is nice, anything where the communication lines are opened up and we can both share about life and junk.

 

 

and someone needs their man card revoked for telling emkay the truth about movie dates...

[timesjoke]

I'm still trying to wrap my head around this statement. :huh:

 

You never go sailing before Joe? I find sailing to be exciting and relaxing at the same time.

 

 

Too many people try to be someone they are not when they first meet someone, for me to even go on a first date they would not be a complete stranger anyway, I would have to know them well enough to want to do something romantic and move our relationship to something more. I also do not have sex with strangers, I am thinking you guys are trying to look at my date from the perspective of two people who don't even know anything about each other, like a blind date or something. That is not what I am talking about at all. I would not waste that kind of preparation on a blind date, a blind date is better spent going to a football game or something to break the ice and know if you even like each other enough to do a real date.

 

 

I am talking about a real date, something you do after you both know your interested in each other romantically and want to take it to that next level.

 

 

Maybe I am just too old but I still believe you can't do these things overnight, it takes time to know if you want to be romantic so your not just rushing into something from lust, that would never last.

[wez]

I love the water and fishing allows a lot of time to talk and get to know each other

 

 

TJ.. this thread was about 1st dates.. not moving a relationship to the next level..and that's what you were talking about in your first post.."get to know each other".. now you say this..

 

 

 

I am talking about a real date, something you do after you both know your interested in each other romantically and want to take it to that next level.

 

 

 

Now the story changes when people don't agree with you.. seems you're talking in circles..

[ren]

Most people are on good behavior the first date. It takes time to understand if they are compatible with you. I wouldn't want to be that isolated on a first date. I kinda like people around till I get to really know a person.

[emkay64]

There was this one first date I remember...where I met him at his house...and he asked if I wanted to see his butterflies. I love butterflies so I went..but then he pushed me into this deep hole and instructed me to lotion up. He then tucked his dick in his ss and danced around nude saying "do you want to fuk me?"

 

I said "No" and he pulled me up and we spent the evening jello wrestling and playing scrabble. Then he showed me his closet full of suits made from women's skin. It wasn't a hobby I was too interested in but felt totally comfortable showing him my scab collection on our next date.

 

I definitely was impressed!

[ren]

There was this one first date I remember...where I met him at his house...and he asked if I wanted to see his butterflies. I love butterflies so I went..but then he pushed me into this deep hole and instructed me to lotion up. He then tucked his dick in his ss and danced around nude saying "do you want to fuk me?"

 

I said "No" and he pulled me up and we spent the evening jello wrestling and playing scrabble. Then he showed me his closet full of suits made from women's skin. It wasn't a hobby I was too interested in but felt totally comfortable showing him my scab collection on our next date.

 

I definitely was impressed!

 

Why am I not surprised at all ? :unsure:

 

btw did you remember the ranch dressing for the scabs?

[emkay64]

Why am I not surprised at all ? :unsure:

 

btw did you remember the ranch dressing for the scabs?

 

My scabs are a C O L L E C T I O N!!! You don't eat them...THAT would be disgusting. Well okay..... so I ate ONE.