Marriage

[Outlaw2747]

Simple. Your views on marriage. Is it simple bliss linking multiple familes together and an increase in bonding with your partner or simply a cesspoll of bullshit dealing with law and religion? Your thoughts.

[angie]

Certainly nothing religious here.

Marriage is a sham in most cases. I've seen it time and time again. I know a couple who got married shortly after she gave birth to their child. He wanted to "do the right thing". What a bad fucking idea that was. They fight like cats and dogs, and don't speak for days on end. Not a good relationship.

I think alot of it has to do with the legal aspect nowadays, filing joint taxes, insurance, etc. I really do wonder why some people get married when it's obvious they're going to end up divorced.

You will probably tell me I am living in fairy land, but in my case, I'm doing it as a "gesture" if you will, to tell my fiancee how much I love him, and make it 'official' in front of friends and family. I want him, and everyone, to know that I truly love him and am going to spend the rest of my life with him.

[snafu]

Certainly nothing religious here.

Marriage is a sham in most cases. I've seen it time and time again. I know a couple who got married shortly after she gave birth to their child. He wanted to "do the right thing". What a bad fucking idea that was. They fight like cats and dogs, and don't speak for days on end. Not a good relationship.

I think alot of it has to do with the legal aspect nowadays, filing joint taxes, insurance, etc. I really do wonder why some people get married when it's obvious they're going to end up divorced.

You will probably tell me I am living in fairy land, but in my case, I'm doing it as a "gesture" if you will, to tell my fiancee how much I love him, and make it 'official' in front of friends and family. I want him, and everyone, to know that I truly love him and am going to spend the rest of my life with him.

 

Nothings black and white.

Sure that

[angie]

Nothings black and white.

Sure that

[Lethalfind]

I vote for the cesspool of bullshit dealing with law and religion...

 

I see NO reason to legally marry someone anymore UNLESS you are a slave to what your fellow church members think.

[Ahhlee]

It's going to take a lot of convincing by a very special man before I will get married again. I went down that road once and got burned emotionally and financially pretty bad, so I'm not in a hurry to repeat that experience again.

 

The upside to marrying someone is you combine your assets, healthcare, retirement options, insurances and legal issues. The downside to marrying someone is you combine your assets, healthcare, retirement options, insurances and legal issues.

 

It's all a gamble.

[Lethalfind]

I look at it like you would trying a new sport...I have tried it twice...I clearly SUCK at it. Its not for me. It would be TOO painful to go over it again and again until I got it right so, at least for now, I'm opting out...

 

The privacy and independance I have being on my own with only my daughter is such a freedom.

[Lethalfind]

When I come home from school, I LIKE the fact that there is no one here other then my daughter.

 

If I want to sit in bed, watch TV and do homework until the wee hours, I can, there is no one there too object. I can eat in bed and there is no one there too complain.

 

When I painted my office light pink above the chair rail and sage green beneath and hung floral curtains at the window, again there was no one too complain. My daughter and I loved it.

 

This weekend when my daughter and I pack up and go to the beach or Disneyworld, there is no one too complain that we have done something similar for how many weekends now?

 

I have an ENORMOUS walk in closet, there is a big empty space on which I am going to hang shelves for my large collection of books...BECAUSE I don't have to share my closet.

 

At Thanksgiving, my sister is coming to join us for the holiday. I don't have to deal with any in laws, just us girls.

 

If I want to crank up my music and sit and play video games until the wee hours, I can do it and there is no one too complain (other then the cats who get upset if the sub woofer is too loud).

 

I am currently 39, I have spent my whole life until I was 35 cow-towing to the men in my life, first my Father and Brother and then to the two men I unwisely enough married and of course the ones I dated. I'm done now. I'm going to walk to my own beat, do my own thing and if someone doesn't like it, the way out is clearly marked.

 

I was talking to a classmate about the Disney Cruise my daughter and I went on. She told me her daughter would LOVE it but her husband would NEVER allow them to go on a Disney Cruise. I hear comments like this all the time, from both sexes on a variety of subjects. I'm an adult, I will decide what I am going to do without direction from someone else thank you very much...

 

My family is VERY intrusive, they feel no shame in placing themselves in the middle of the most personal and intimate things in my life. Psychologists call this being overly enmeshed. I lived with that going on until I moved out of Texas at 34. Now I'm free of the interference, I feel like I can fly, its an amazing freedom. I don't think everyone can understand my feelings on this because my background is very different. My way is not going to be right for everyone but its feels awfully good too me for now.

[angie]

By your answer your an obvious fucking twitt of the highest level....Fucking moron....you suck fucking ass.....

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Probably because your friend is a cunt

 

 

Ya..you are a fucking twitt as well, money grubbing whore you are

 

your doing it so you can have your fucking fancy cake and feel special it has nothing to do with the guy your inslaving to your twisted world of greed, hate and dispare...He will be cheating on you with-in 2 years because your an ass

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Thanks, you're so sweet

[hugo]

I suggest you do not get married for any reason besides love. It's the people that get married for other reasons that give marriage a bad name.

[manicmonday]

Thanks, you're so sweet

 

I want to be invited for cake. And free booze. For both the wedding and the divorce.

[Lethalfind]

When I was divorcing, some of my friends came over and sat with me, we drank and talked...Not really a party but as close as you can get considering.

[phreakwars]

Your all a bunch of pathetic mother fuckers..

 

10 years happily married here.

 

My wife lets me do what I want, with whomever I want, as long as I'm not fucking them.

 

Like I was telling Karen Carpenter the other day, I even spent the entire weekend on a fishing trip up in Okoboji Iowa with my EX girlfriend a couple years ago, and my wife gave less then a shit, because she knows I'm not the type to cheat.

 

Why does she trust me that much ?? Probably because I told her many years ago, if I was ever gonna cheat on her, I would AT LEAST leave her first. And I mean what I say.

 

Hell, I don't even flirt ONLINE !!

 

And with that freedom that she allows me, comes a bond between us.

 

We RARELY EVER argue, if we do, it's probably about her fucking mother, whom I totally hate. But then, she's not too fond of her mom either.

 

We work together for everything we have, we split our bills evenly, and we enjoy our time with each other.

 

I don't have a formula for a happy marriage mind you, but I generally believe that the perfect person for anybody, is the one that can tolerate you the most.

 

As Tina Turner once said... what's love got to do with it ??

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[Lethalfind]

I think people in your position are very lucky.

I haven't found the person who can tolerate me...

[phreakwars]

I haven't found the person who can tolerate me...

That doesn't surprise me.

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[snafu]

Your all a bunch of pathetic mother fuckers..

 

10 years happily married here.

 

My wife lets me do what I want, with whomever I want, as long as I'm not fucking them.

 

Like I was telling Karen Carpenter the other day, I even spent the entire weekend on a fishing trip up in Okoboji Iowa with my EX girlfriend a couple years ago, and my wife gave less then a shit, because she knows I'm not the type to cheat.

 

Why does she trust me that much ?? Probably because I told her many years ago, if I was ever gonna cheat on her, I would AT LEAST leave her first. And I mean what I say.

 

Hell, I don't even flirt ONLINE !!

 

And with that freedom that she allows me, comes a bond between us.

 

We RARELY EVER argue, if we do, it's probably about her fucking mother, whom I totally hate. But then, she's not too fond of her mom either.

 

We work together for everything we have, we split our bills evenly, and we enjoy our time with each other.

 

I don't have a formula for a happy marriage mind you, but I generally believe that the perfect person for anybody, is the one that can tolerate you the most.

 

As Tina Turner once said... what's love got to do with it ??

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You forgot..... and she gives good head.

[phreakwars]

That definitely helps.

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[rizzo]

I've been married for 16 years, and wouldn't trade a day of it.

 

I'm a nontheist, so religion and church had nothing to do with our getting married. We got married at a JOP, so a big show for our families and friends had nothing to do with it. Merging our families...his lives in AK and MI, so they have only been around my family a couple of times.

 

We enjoy each others company, don't fight too often, and we complement each other in our lives.

[Outlaw2747]

I've been married for 16 years, and wouldn't trade a day of it.

 

I'm a nontheist, so religion and church had nothing to do with our getting married. We got married at a JOP, so a big show for our families and friends had nothing to do with it. Merging our families...his lives in AK and MI, so they have only been around my family a couple of times.

 

We enjoy each others company, don't fight too often, and we complement each other in our lives.

 

I would say it is because you and your partner understand how marriage used to be and how much pride it was held with back then. These days, people arely know each other, they get into a rush, they are not mature, and they see it as some sort of game or ultimate mission in life while at the same time thinking it equates love. This generation is very shitty when it comes to marriage. My grandmother got married back in the day at 18. Times were different back then and she could get by easier as opposed to if she done so today. Even she sort of looks down on herself for doing it early but she came out just fine and is still married to this day and doing very well.

 

You get an 18 year old who wants to marry now, and 9 times out of 10 it is a cesspool of drama, ignorance, naivety, and just plain asininity. There are alot more things at stake and this generation is just so oriented on other things that getting their lives straight that it is just plain ridiculious to get married so young these days. Not to mention marriage itself is no joke and nothing to rush and joke around with.

 

For those of you who are married to this day and doing quite well, I tip my hat to you and salute you. I rather not partake in it plus I respect you for not divorcing your spouse just because of what kind of music you listen to, how bad their cooking is, or how much money you make. Relationships are a team effort and if one partner goes down, the other is supposed to help pick them up. Not take over completely and then kick them to the curb.

[snafu]

After my first marriage was over, I dated for a while but I was never really happy. The bar scenes and such. But I wanted children again and although I don

[gotony]

I have been engaged for going on 2 years, been with him for 4. I am in no hurry to get married, he has been married twice and this will be my first. This is my second engagement, thank god the first one didn't get to the marriage. We have no desire to have any children, so really, we have no real reason to rush. He had 2 from the previous and I have one w/ an ex. We know that when we do decide the time is right, we are going away to get married, neither of us is religious. I think trust and honesty is the right combination to a lasting relationship. If we didn't have that, we wouldn't have anything. Sure, we argue sometime, but making up is so much fun! I have been through alot of shit in relationships, but it was all worth it to get to him...wouldn't trade it for the world.

[snafu]

Yes marriage is not only religious but a common bond. Well supposedly. It makes it hard to just walk away. You

[Hamza123]

Ohhh shut the fuck up already and stop ranting about gay marriages!!

 

I have to worry about an arranged marriage!!

 

Just kidding!

[Lethalfind]

Ohhh shut the fuck up already and stop ranting about gay marriages!!

 

I have to worry about an arranged marriage!!

 

Just kidding!

 

Your honestly going to allow someone else decide who you marry???

You are more brainwashed then I realized.

[Phantom]

Whenever one of my friends bring up the idea of marriage, I always ask them these 4 questions:

 

If you won the lottery tomorrow, would you still want to marry this person? If the object of your affection was to win the lottery tomorrow, would they still want to marry you?

 

If your boyfriend or girlfriend was horribly disfigured in a fire, would you still love him or her? Would they still love you?

 

If you can confidently answer "yes" to all four questions, then you are off to a good start.