Lethalfind Posted September 23, 2006 Posted September 23, 2006 Whenever one of my friends bring up the idea of marriage, I always ask them these 4 questions: If you won the lottery tomorrow, would you still want to marry this person? If the object of your affection was to win the lottery tomorrow, would they still want to marry you? If your boyfriend or girlfriend was horribly disfigured in a fire, would you still love him or her? Would they still love you? If you can confidently answer "yes" to all four questions, then you are off to a good start. I like um, I think I will keep those in mind myself when a friend is thinking the same thing. Quote I am a pathetic piece of shit leeching single mom.
Hamza123 Posted September 24, 2006 Posted September 24, 2006 Your honestly going to allow someone else decide who you marry??? You are more brainwashed then I realized. Do you have impared sight? I said I was kidding. Thats the problem with you. You want us to condemn extremists but you fucking mock us!! Quote Taking it up the poopchute from Allah since 1990.
hugo Posted September 24, 2006 Posted September 24, 2006 Do you have impared sight? I said I was kidding. Thats the problem with you. You want us to condemn extremists but you fucking mock us!! It's only the female Muslims who are forced to marry to whoever comes up with the bride price...which is usually a camel and two sheep. Quote The power to do good is also the power to do harm. - Milton Friedman "I cannot undertake to lay my finger on that article of the Constitution which granted a right to Congress of expending, on objects of benevolence, the money of their constituents." - James Madison
clarity Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 marriage is what is expected .. and i think alot of career obsessed, non-commital types are pressured into it. thus creating a hoax of a marriage and having very unhappy children as a result of a completely unnatural equation. my parents didnt marry out of love or religion, they married out of convenience. it worked for a few years, but after that my brother and i had years and years of arguments and unhappiness to deal with. the multiple family thing ... im not big on, purely as its normally due to divorce and so fourth. but i dont see whats wrong with two families coming together. i mean, im against the idea of two parents callouslly entering yet another relationship to prevent them from being lonely ... but if kids get brought together with other kids that have went through a similar thing, it can be healthy and have a positive impact on their upset. i dont know, all i know is thats a slightly obscure view, from a slightly spiteful teenager! Quote
KathyA Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 When I met the man who would be my husband, I was 15 years old.. He was older, wiser, and alot more mature than anyone of the other guys I had ever met.. We instantly had a connection. Granted, I was very young and naive. But we took our time in every single aspect of building our relationship.. He was 19, newly divorced, and had been through hell and back.. Me, completely the opposite.. I had no clue what lay ahead.. I graduated high school and we were married within months.. A year later I had our first child.. It wasnt until after we were married that I realized my husband was a raging alcoholic.. Mean, as the fucking day is long.. Maybe its cause we didn't live together first.. Maybe it was because I was so naive..I just didn't see it.. I was simply, just too young.. Anyhow, after the 3rd baby was born in 1999, enough was enough.. I finally had the son he had always wanted, and he wanted nothing to do with him..Why? Because my son wasn't born perfect, in my husband's eye's anyways.. He has a genetic birth defect that has left him legally blind.. And after months and months of fighting (physical fighting) about have genetic testing done to see who passed this gene down to my son.. I absolutely under NO circumstance wanted this test done..Even though he literally fought me tooth and nail.. We brought him to Boston Children's hospital..10 minutes with the specialist there was NO need for the test.. The type of genetic disorder my son has, could only be passed down from the mother..He had all the answers he needed.. And he left.. Well with quite the push from me.. I filed for divorce. I took this man for every fucking nickle I could.. I took his house, his camper, his beach house in NH.. Everything I could get my hands on..I took.. End of story? Well not quite.. 2 years later, I am involved with someone else.. And quite happy being who I am now..When he wants back in.. At first I had my reservations..Of course any sane person would.. And I guess part of me was always in love with him..Or the idea of being in love with him..So I gave it a shot.. A year later he moved back in.. And a few months after that, I married him again, on a whim this time.. In 2004 I had baby number 4, another boy.. I have never looked back since.. We both went to counseling.. He has been clean and sober for years now.. We took time again to get to know one another.. Our likes and dislikes.. And we are stronger today than we have ever been.. I am not saying everyday is picture perfect.. We still argue, I still scream at him..he is still an asshole and me a bitch.. But 19 years later we are still together.. I don't have all the answers for a perfect marriage, if there even is such a thing.. But marrying for all the wrong reasons will only lead you down a road where divorce is inevitable.. Quote I want a sensitive man - one who'll cry when I hit him.
Lethalfind Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 Kathy that was a very inspirational story. Its nice to hear that things work out sometimes. I'm sure your children are very glad that you are together. Quote I am a pathetic piece of shit leeching single mom.
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