clarity Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 He had a drug problem, and he did stop. I lived with a guy once who used to beat me for talking to my girlfriends; once he knew I wouldn't put up with it, he didn't do it again either. Some men can stop. are you still with this guy? once a man hits his partner ... he will do it again. if your still in this relationship ... i recommend you get out, however much you love/care for him. there is no love where there is violence in a relationship. Quote
atlantic Posted October 24, 2006 Author Posted October 24, 2006 are you still with this guy? once a man hits his partner ... he will do it again. if your still in this relationship ... i recommend you get out, however much you love/care for him. there is no love where there is violence in a relationship.No, he died of Brain Cancer, and I stayed with him til the end because I felt bad for him, and didn't want him to die alone, turns out he had a brain tumor, Medulla Blastoma, usually only afflicts children, his was a rare case. Quote Do the right thing!
eddo Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 one that sticks in my mind is I had a neighbor who used to beat up his g/f, they lived above me; usually I would mind my own business, but one night I heard her scream not the baby, so of course I called the cops on him..... strangely enough we end up being best of friends til this day He never hit her after that, and went for help and he turned out to be a pretty decent guy..... I did have to bail him out several times financially though, he had a pretty bad cocaine habit; but was able to pull thru I lived with a guy once who used to beat me for talking to my girlfriends; once he knew I wouldn't put up with it, he didn't do it again either. Some men can stop. I stayed with him til the end because I felt bad for him So you like abusive realtionships? This completely explains your relationship with Wez. Girl, time to do a self check and figure out what kind of guys you are attracted to and why. Quote I'm trusted by more women.
atlantic Posted October 24, 2006 Author Posted October 24, 2006 No Eddo dearest, but they are hard to get out off if you're in one. Quote Do the right thing!
Lethalfind Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 I dated a guy one time, he was cute, caring (he was a nursing student) had an enormous cock, could screw for days...the list of his positive attributes goes on... He was also an alcoholic and had in the past abused drugs (fabulous nurse material I know). This was back when I was young, early 20's, I had no idea about drug abuse or problems with drinking since I was raised in a church where no one drinks. I saw he had a problem of course but didn't know about being co-dependent. He swallowed a bottle of Darvocet one time because he was mad over an argument we got into. I told him to get to the ER or I would call his boss and tell on him. Once at the ER he was whining about how he had tried too kill himself and I didn't care. The psychiatrist was wishing she hadn't gotten this call. I told him if he had really wanted to die, he would be dead. He asked me how he should have done it rather then taking a bottle of medication...well I came up with a list...he could have jumped off the nearest bridge into rush hour traffic...the list went on. The psychiatrist was even more despondent at this point... I told him after this stunt to get his shit and get the fuck out... nothing hard in that. I was down trodden at this point, the sex was exceptional but not worth it in the long run. Quote I am a pathetic piece of shit leeching single mom.
Chi Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 No Eddo dearest, but they are hard to get out off if you're in one. What I don't understand is how one can get into one fucked up, abusive relationship after another. I was in a sucky relationship like that once and never again. I try to learn from my mistakes, if I see even one similarity I run for the hills in the OPPOSITE direction..... Quote
atlantic Posted October 25, 2006 Author Posted October 25, 2006 What I don't understand is how one can get into one fucked up, abusive relationship after another. I was in a sucky relationship like that once and never again. I try to learn from my mistakes, if I see even one similarity I run for the hills in the OPPOSITE direction.....Some people put on an act at first, then they change into their true selves. Quote Do the right thing!
KathyA Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 Some people put on an act at first, then they change into their true selves. Do you consider it an act when they beat you? Quote I want a sensitive man - one who'll cry when I hit him.
Lethalfind Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 Some people put on an act at first, then they change into their true selves. Well isn't that the point, when they change in to who they really are, they come home to find their shit on the front porch and the locks changed?? Or are you one of those people who still believes that LOVE can change a person. Let me just say that from experience, I have learned this is bullshit... Absolute Bollox... Quote I am a pathetic piece of shit leeching single mom.
eisanbt Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 I once shot a man in Reno, just to watch him die. Quote http://www.boohbah.com/zone.html "It's a poor sort of memory that only works backwards" -Lewis Carroll
Chi Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 Some people put on an act at first, then they change into their true selves. That may be true, but I would think your bs meter gets sharper and more cautious after the first time not to fall for the same crap from anyone else over and over again. Quote
Zukiman Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 I once shot a man in Reno, just to watch him die. I once beat a mans ass just for sport. I didn't even know who he was. Quote
ToriAllen Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 Some people put on an act at first, then they change into their true selves. No, no, no. Everyone puts on an act at first. Some more than others, but they all do it. That is exactly why, should something happen to end this marriage, I will never date again. Quote Smart men learn from their own mistakes; Wise men learn from others. I refuse to engage in a battle of wits with an unarmed man.
Zukiman Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 should something happen to end this marriage, I will never date again. You say that now. Quote
builder Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 I once shot a man in Reno, just to watch him die. When I hear that whistle blowin, I have a beer and cry. Quote Persevere, it pisses people off.
KathyA Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 Atlantic, you need help. I am serious about this. You have been programmed to believe in all this. And its absolute bullshit.. I know that you and I have never gotten along. But dammit already, snap out of it. If not for your sake, for your kid then.. Why the fuck you keep allowing yourself to go through this, is beyond comprehension to me. Whether its just a friend of yours or more. Do you want your son to grow up thinking its ok beat women? Set a fucking example.. And don't allow anyone to intrude upon it.. Quote I want a sensitive man - one who'll cry when I hit him.
builder Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 Sounds like a bitch-fight in the making. I need beer and legumes for this one. Quote Persevere, it pisses people off.
KathyA Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 Sounds like a bitch-fight in the making. I need beer and legumes for this one. Nah, don't bother. She won't fight with me. She is Kathied out, she says.. Plus, what kind of defense can she give, given the circumstances? Quote I want a sensitive man - one who'll cry when I hit him.
atlantic Posted October 25, 2006 Author Posted October 25, 2006 I never once said it was ok, I would never put up with that again, and that guy I knew who did had a serious drug problem, and years of counseling has changed him, he is different; although I think it is rare for someone like that to change; it is not impossible; and why would I want to have a bitch-fight with Kathy for speaking her opinion - this is afterall a freespeech forum is it not? Quote Do the right thing!
builder Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 I never once said it was ok, I would never put up with that again, and that guy I knew who did had a serious drug problem, and years of counseling has changed him, he is different; although I think it is rare for someone like that to change; it is not impossible; and why would I want to have a bitch-fight with Kathy for speaking her opinion - this is afterall a freespeech forum is it not? Fuckin' party pooper. I just like to watch bitch-fights. Is that okay with you, oh high queen of the interknob-job? Slobberdownmycockyoubitch. Quote Persevere, it pisses people off.
atlantic Posted October 25, 2006 Author Posted October 25, 2006 Fuckin' party pooper. I just like to watch bitch-fights. Is that okay with you, oh high queen of the interknob-job? Slobberdownmycockyoubitch. I don't have the time; I have to go get some much needed help 1 Quote Do the right thing!
Phantom Posted October 26, 2006 Posted October 26, 2006 Very few people know Kathy has a tattoo: http://www.edu.stadia.fi/~a-s2002/l/hauskat_kuvat/galleria1/images/butterfly.jpg DISCLAIMER: No, it's not really her so shut the fuck up. Quote Blah.
KathyA Posted October 26, 2006 Posted October 26, 2006 Very few people know Kathy has a tattoo: http://www.edu.stadia.fi/~a-s2002/l/hauskat_kuvat/galleria1/images/butterfly.jpg DISCLAIMER: No, it's not really her so shut the fuck up. ROTFLMAO, your dead! Quote I want a sensitive man - one who'll cry when I hit him.
KathyA Posted October 26, 2006 Posted October 26, 2006 I quoted you before you edited it.. Quote I want a sensitive man - one who'll cry when I hit him.
Lethalfind Posted October 26, 2006 Posted October 26, 2006 Oh my god... I can't even begin to imagine how that must have hurt Kath. Quote I am a pathetic piece of shit leeching single mom.
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