Do I have a life??

[Lethalfind]

Evaluate for yourself...I will give you a few details...

 

I have a 9 year old daughter who I am solely responsible for.

 

I am in school two days a week, all day (9:30-4:15) taking 13 hours of classes.

 

Of course I have the resulting homework from these classes to do.

 

I am responsible for the care and upkeep on a 1900 square feet home.

 

I have one dog and two cats my daughter and I both take care of.

 

I don't regularly work, just some temp work here and there.

 

I am helping my sister with a lawsuit (the details are not important) that I spend at least 10-15 hours a week on the phone and computer searching for information, posible witnesses and general information gathering.

 

From time to time I also help people who are searching for their birth parents or other family members they have lost track of. I do this on my own time, with no funds paid too me for my time. About a week ago I helped a college friend locate her birth parents, it took me 2 days of working on it and her making the phone calls to follow up to complete the task, I was probably signed on to this website during part of that time.

 

Any recreation I endulge in envolves my daughter...I do not go out and leave her alone or with a babysitter so I can go and get drunk...

 

There are times when I sit here at my desk, paying bills, doing research online, chatting via Yahoo IM, also signed on to this website...I rarely do only one thing at a time...

 

Does all this mean I have NO LIFE???

 

How about you?? Do you have a life???

 

Or do you stay home furtively staring into your computer screen waiting for someone to post something interesting or say something important in the shout box...Please do share.

[Jhony5]

Sounds like a rut. With little recourse until your girl gets to a more self sufficient age. I know you would like to kick me in the nutz if I say a good unselfish man would break that cycle for you. Personally, a good woman would break my precious cycle of SO MUCH FUCKING FUN I'VE BEEN HAVING SINCE MY WHORE WIFE LEFT ME. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA.....YOU FUCKING BITCH...HAHAHHAHA...HOW DO THOSE FOOD STAMPS TASTE YOU HOOKER...HAHAHAHAHA. Sorry, I get excited at my ex-wifes miserable plight.

 

Me, I work an average of 45-50 hours a week. 3 days a week are consumed by my daughter. I however fall victim to having to many outdoor hobbies for me to get complacent. Fishing, hunting, and 4-wheeling gobble up much of my free time. I also belong to the Monroe county 4x4 club and they keep me busy on weekends with various outings and events. I am lucky to have a few friends left over from my high school daze. They share the same interests and we hook up several times weekly. My time on the net is what I do as opposed to just watching TV or what not.

[Phantom]

Sounds like you stay pretty busy. It's a good thing you and your daughter are so close and work as a team.

[Lethalfind]

I don't mind routine, I kind of like it actually.

 

There are times when things are different. My sister is coming for Thanksgiving and together we are going to do some things like put in a pet door into the garage from the main part of the house and I'm sure do some fun things like go to Disney.

 

At Christmas, we are going to Sanibel Island for a week so that will be nice.

[Jhony5]

I'm sure your sacrifice will be noted by your daughter. That variety of sacrifice is unfortunately all to rare these days.

[Lethalfind]

I'm sure your sacrifice will be noted by your daughter. That variety of sacrifice is unfortunately all to rare these days.

 

Thank you for saying that but I don't consider it a sacrifice as in I don't feel like I am giving up something important too me. I actually enjoy her company, we have fun together.

 

I hope she grows up secure in the knowledge that she comes FIRST in my life, no exceptions and not because I felt guilty and did that but because thats just how my mind and commitment works.

 

I all too often see single women, hanging their children out to dry and doing all they can to bring home every scum bag they can, who of course mis-treats her children and so on.

 

Isn't anyone else going to share the boring details of their life??? So we can all decide for you if you have a life at all???

[Jhony5]

Isn't anyone else going to share the boring details of their life??? So we can all decide for you if you have a life at all???

 

Yes....allow us to validate your existence. hehehe

[Lethalfind]

Yes....allow us to validate your existence. hehehe

 

well thanks...I think...but I was looking for others to post what they do on a daily, weekly basis to see if I was really lacking a life...

 

I am sure there are people here and out there that are ALOT busier then I am...no doubt.

[Phantom]

Lethal Find: Isn't anyone else going to share the boring details of their life??? So we can all decide for you if you have a life at all???

 

Jhony5: Yes....allow us to validate your existence. hehehe

 

I already know my life is boring and hate talking about myself but since you insist...

 

I'm the mother of a son who will turn 3 next month. Husband, dog, 2 step kids, household duties, close circle of friends. I own three companies and have been working hard to tie up some loose ends on one of my companies I am in the process of selling. Published author. Not particularly exciting but I stay busy.

[hugo]

Wake up at 5AM and go to the orange grove. Pick oranges until 8 PM. Go home and eat my bowl of gruel with a fuckin' orange I managed to steal. sera, sera.

[phreakwars]

I work 60+ hours a week, mostly split shifts, 2 jobs, plus the PC work I'll occasionally do for people in town when I have time, attend all parent teacher conferences, help kids with homework, exercise regularly, even though I have a spine injury that fucked up my left arm, and fuck my old lady at least 6 times a week.

 

Haven't taken a vacation in 4 years... My last one was a trip to Jhony5's home town..

 

But still not as pathetic as Lethalfind... I agree with Johny.. she needs to find some dick.. most of her "busy schedule" is time spent behind the computer watching her ass grow bigger and justifying her pathetic existence with meaningless effort.

 

Oh the upkeep of the home... oh the torture..oh and lets not forget the feeding and caring of the pets... man... strenuous..

 

Yeah, I can totally agree with that, my cat MYA is a bitch to care for.

 

I'm gonna have to go with..

 

You have no life, and your lucky we at least keep it half way interesting.

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[builder]

See my sig, LF.

[KathyA]

Up until 2 years ago when my son was born, I worked 60 hours a week. 30 of those being scheduled hours, the rest were last second home visits, crisis intervention, and parental support meetings.. My day began at 4:00 am, and ended somewhere around midnight. Plus add in all the kids, laundry, meals, dishes.. Well yeah, I never had a minute to myself. Plus, as a favor to a friend, I did all his books at his garage/gas station for him.. Literally at the end I weighed 90 pounds, and looked like walking death.

 

When my last child was born, I refused to go back to it all. My husband who works more hours than anyone I know, was more than happy with this arrangement.. So I just never went back.

 

Now my days consist of me and the baby.. While the older kids are in school.. Then homework, dinner, and dishes.. Requiring very little sleep on my part, allows me to clean my house when the kids are in bed.. And have time for myself..

 

Do I miss working? Very much so. I miss having the adult interaction that goes along with the hours..But I dont miss a minute of the bullshit that went along with it.. I would much rather be boss here, then there.. I missed so much when my older kids were little. I refuse to sacrafice another minute..

[ToriAllen]

Sorry, LF, but by my standards, you have no life. I guess we all view life in a different way.

 

I’ve spent the last three years…

 

taking care of three small children

 

going to college and taking eighteen hours per semester, and all of the work that entails, struggling to maintain a high GPA

 

doing volunteer work through a school honor society that I was a member of

 

working here and there

 

fighting to keep my husband from destroying my credit and ruining my reputation in this tiny little town

 

fighting to protect my children from the bad influence of their grandparents without looking like a horrible person to the in-laws and my kids.

 

researching every medical school in the US, only to have to start over with law schools

 

taking care of the household

 

In other words, it has been years since I’ve had a life.

Once I move out of this place, reduce my current stress level, and get to a point in my life where I can travel and take my kids on vacation, then I will be able to say I have a life. What I am doing right now, I don’t consider to be 'living'.

Maybe we can both get a life and travel the world with the kids.

[snafu]

Here's a big pat on the back for all you hard workers.

I work about 50 hours a week and then I go home and sit on my big fat ass.

 

In the summer I go fishing or ridding my bike.

 

I take turns with my wife making dinner or we both take our lazy asses out for dinner.

 

I might not have a life that you all precieve to be fullfilling but I like it.

[Lethalfind]

Once I graduate from school I too will be working AND going too school part time.

 

I like my life the way it is...sorry if you guys ALL have to work alot harder then I do...however that does not mean you have a life...that just means you have to work alot harder...

 

AND if you have made some bad choices in your life that means you have to work MORE then I do...that means the opposite really.

 

Life does not equal work...

 

For example, I have only one child on purpose, because I knew if I had a bunch I couldn't support, life would be ALOT harder.

 

"taking care of three small children"

 

Tori, I am not married to someone who will eat up my resources AND not contribute enough to replace them.

 

"fighting to keep my husband from destroying my credit and ruining my reputation in this tiny little town"

Nor does the fact that I don't sleep around or allow my life to be led by my hormones as Phreak would tend to indicate mean I have no life.

 

In fact my choice to NOT become involved with someone has allowed me to spend my time doing what is really important, being a good Mother too my daughter and going too school (so I can make our life better in the long run). I am not nor will I ever be the kind of woman that would be so desperate for a man in her life that I let my daughter get swept aside.

 

The only reason I will have a vacation at Christmas is because Diane and I both will be off school AND my sister and a friend are coming down to the west coast of Florida and have invited us to join them...I certainly don't have the money to pay to rent the house that they have.

 

"Haven't taken a vacation in 4 years... My last one was a trip to Jhony5's home town.."

Phreak, this statement makes it sound as if your the one with NO LIFE...

 

This is why I work temp jobs, I can have time off when Diane and I are off school.

 

My life is my daughter and school.

 

I am lucky to be able to do that.

 

As for the reason why Phreak has to work so hard...I'm sure we can all figure that one out by now.

 

"You have no life, and your lucky we at least keep it half way interesting."

 

Phreak, after reading your sad post, I think its pretty clear who has no life. I have never had a job so pathetic that I HAD to maintain a home business AND work 60 hours a week. I haven't gotten myself in debt nor taken on that much responsibility nor had to work a job that paid so little.

 

However, before I was laid off, I worked for this company for 3 years, they hired me and paid me to move to Florida...I worked 40 hours a week, normally not more but then again I also spent an additional 1-2 hours a day in the car coming and going from work. My daughter had to be in daycare...I felt like I missed whole years of her life...

 

Now, I get to spend real quality time with her, we have fun doing things together. I can help her with her homework, we can watch TV together, I teach her how to garden, how too cook, clean etc. not too mention all the places we get too go. She has Friday off this week, I don't remember why, we are probably going to drive over to the West coast to adopt a new cat. If I can find a hotel for 50-60 bucks a nite, we might stay over and go to the beach. I would'nt have the time or energy to do these things with my daughter if I were still shackled to that damn job. Being in school has been wonderful that way. Once I am out, I will only have to work 3-12 hour shifts a week and my employer will pay me as a full timer AND give me full benefits.

 

Again, my life is structured in such a way that I can pay attention to the really important things...my daughter and school.

 

I think I have a great life and I feel sorry for those of you that have to work so much time in a week that you don't even know your own children...That is very sad indeed.

 

I like my life a whole lot better...

[smutt butt]

All i seem to do is work. I go in at 3:30 am and get off somewhere between 10:00 am and 4:00 pm. I usually do nothing on a workday when i get home except come here. My days off are on a 5 week rotation. I am off till thurs. then work 7 in a row then off friday sat and so on

My days off i usually get shit-faced the first one while i am working on the yard or on the car and sleep the other one. If i am off on a sunday then my best friend comes over to help kill some beer with me. Every 5 weeks i get a 4 day weekend and keep my daughter. I am not complaining because i am definately a "home" boy. I love my private retreat.

[snafu]

Thank you..Thank you very much. I probably work about 100-120 hours a week (thats the 7 day week not the 5 day one) however I do not consider it work, I consider it fun...I love working, All the people I work with are pretty much the same, we are all working all the time so it is like a family, we just incorporate our fun into the work...I mean after high school the only thing that defines your life is what you do for a living, why not do it all the time as much as you can.

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Ya see I'm happy for you.

 

I wasn't that fortunate. I pissed my youth away but lucked out on this job. It serves me well but I didn’t grow up saying “gee I wanna be a blank” No it defiantly wasn’t my first pick.

I don't my leasure time.

[Lethalfind]

Maybe the definition of having a life is enjoying what you do. Nazz says he enjoys his work, I know I have heard him say he enjoys the travel.

 

I know alot of people who drag through every week, hating every minute of it. I refuse to live my life that way.

 

I don't want to look back when my daughter is grown and not know her at all. To feel like I have missed her youth.

 

I will never allow myself to be shackeled in a harness like some have mentioned here...I hated life that way. That is the WHOLE reason I have gone back too school, so I could work less and make more money so I would have the time and resources to actually live life...

[phreakwars]

I love my job.. I love it so much that I go in at least 1/2 an hour early every day, and I have been known to work off the clock.

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[Outlaw2747]

Looks like this thread and this poll is a wrap.

[phreakwars]

Well then let this be known as her last post, and our final goodbye to this pathetic excuse for a mother.

 

Perhaps this post might be an inspiration to Lethalfind that she may see the TRUE errors of the ways in her life, and just make that little extra effort to keep the power turned off on her PC, get up off that chair because her knees are probably hurting from all that useless bending in the sit position.

 

Never let it be said that I have EVER been truly an asshole with anyone.. I ALWAYS look out for the best interests of those who have made it a fucking hobby of posting on this website. And I sincerely hope she also takes this opportunity to spend REAL TIME with Diana or Diane or whatever that fucking kids name is...

 

Lethal, you, like many other members, need to be booted off for your own good.

 

Not that you were ever a annoyance or a threat to any of the members of this site, but rather, you were hurting the one person in the world the most by staying here 24 fucking 7... ok maybe you slept a few hours.... who fucking cares.

 

Like I told MM, A.K.A. Melissa... girl... get off of the computer, and go outside for a while and enjoy the world.

 

Yes I strongly encouraged her to leave for a bit.

 

You need the same.

 

Web Forums are not your fucking leisure life, they make you into a zombie.

 

Since you won't go, I think it's time we make you fucking go.

 

You are one fucked up chick, and you need to interact with the world one on one some more.

 

Maybe your excuse that "YOU DON'T NEED A MAN" comes from the security you try to find in Internet information exchange.

 

Lets see who we can sue for making my life miserable, I'll help my family find someone to sue too.

 

I have the Internet at my fingertips..

 

I can communicate with them... I have yahoo

 

Then you fool yourself into thinking its OK that you are turning into a zombie.

 

You want to be a fucking Nurse yet can't make yourself well ??

 

Don't be a fool, you have major fucking issues... issues that can't be solved by the Internet..

 

The first step Lethal... is going outside for some fresh air...

 

Trust me, it works...

 

It's why I enjoy my job... I am inside, yet I am outside... I meet new people all the time... and I am always making new friends to chat with... all by foot.

 

It's why I am able to carry the very cheery attitude that I do on a daily basis.

 

Because in the real world... Real things happen to my life to make me NEVER question whether I have no life or not. ..

 

The next step is accepting that you are a piece of shit loser, and take steps to at LEAST contribute to the society you live in..

 

I do this by doing MANY fundraiser efforts with the local organizations in town.

 

As an added bonus I get to provide people who can't get out of their homes with meals...

 

Most of our loyal delivery customers are in fact, elderly people.. we have over 100 menu items and specials for these people that we run at all times. And I personally enjoy speaking with these VERY REAL people.

 

Reminds me a bit of the work I used to do in Nursing Homes years ago..

 

Need I mention the other job .. lead chef for the Eagles club... enjoying peoples company all over town.

 

Yeah... that's me in the real world.....

 

What about you ???

 

Good fucking bye.

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