What Actions Should Be Considered Cheating?

[Phantom]

A respectable person with any amount of morals would consider cheating deplorable. But what do you believe constitutes as cheating? Do you feel only the occurrence of sexual activity (be it oral or penetration) with someone other than your partner is cheating? What about "emotional" cheating?

 

Have you ever been cheated on or have you ever been unfaithful to either your current partner or an ex?

 

When I was 19, I was involved in a carjacking and attempted kidnapping while on my lunch break. My boss let me go home early that day and once I arrived, I caught my first love at my apartment with my roommate. Though they were both naked, he avidly denied cheating on me as they had not yet had intercourse.

 

So what say you? Is it a cup of coffee? Internet chatting? Meeting up in a hotel room? Talking on the phone with another woman while your wife is in the shower? Is cheating strictly a physical act or can it be emotional as well?

[eddo]

When I was 19, I was involved in a carjacking and attempted kidnapping while on my lunch break. My boss let me go home early that day and once I arrived, I caught my first love at my apartment with my roommate. Though they were both naked, he avidly denied cheating on me as they had not yet had intercourse.

 

kudo's on not offing yourself after that day. I fear many a 19 year old, especially in fluffville, would have after the events of that day.

 

yikes...

 

I believe that there absolutely can be emotional cheating, but I also feel that cheating emotionally may not be grounds for a immediate breakup.

It is easy to find someone who, at our particular point in life, feeds us better emotionally than our significant other. You may laugh with them, cry with them, bitch with them, etc, but you still go home to your spouse. But that can very easliy lead to physical cheating, so ya gots to be careful.

[Chi]

Well, it all depends on what each individual considers cheating. Some people go as far as thinking that if the other person even fantasizes about another person that they are "cheating with their mind", come on now! On the other extreme, there are some relationships where people may allow the other or eachother to be with other people and that isn't cheating imo because everyone is aware and no one is lying, cheating or deceiving anyone.

When I was 19, I was involved in a carjacking and attempted kidnapping while on my lunch break. My boss let me go home early that day and once I arrived, I caught my first love at my apartment with my roommate. Though they were both naked, he avidly denied cheating on me as they had not yet had intercourse.

Geesh, talk about one of the worst days of your life! I would've had to go Lorena Bobbitt on his ass for having the gall to say he wasn't cheating because they didn't have the chance to get to penetration yet!

[Phantom]

kudo's on not offing yourself after that day. I fear many a 19 year old, especially in fluffville, would have after the events of that day.

 

Nah, they would just make 20 posts about the incident and "claim" to want to off themselves.

 

I believe that there absolutely can be emotional cheating, but I also feel that cheating emotionally may not be grounds for a immediate breakup.

It is easy to find someone who, at our particular point in life, feeds us better emotionally than our significant other. You may laugh with them, cry with them, bitch with them, etc, but you still go home to your spouse. But that can very easliy lead to physical cheating, so ya gots to be careful.

 

Exactly. However, emotional cheating almost always serves as a gateway to physically cheating.

 

Well, it all depends on what each individual considers cheating. Some people go as far as thinking that if the other person even fantasizes about another person that they are "cheating with their mind", come on now!

 

That is a good point. Everyone, regardless of their staunch morals, is bound to fantasize. In my opinion, it is one's actions that defines their character.

 

On the other extreme, there are some relationships where people may allow the other or eachother to be with other people and that isn't cheating imo because everyone is aware and no one is lying, cheating or deceiving anyone.

 

Perhaps the best rule of thumb to follow is if you are doing something that you wouldn't want your partner knowing about, you shouldn't be doing it.

[phreakwars]

Hmm, this reminds me alot of THIS post: http://Off Topic Forum.com/showthread.php?t=103153

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[Phantom]

Hmm, this reminds me alot of THIS post: http://Off Topic Forum.com/showthread.php?t=103153

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Well Hells Bells! I even looked for a similar thread before I made this one. Feel free to delete this if you don't think it would interest the n00bs.

[eddo]

Hmm, this reminds me alot of THIS post: http://Off Topic Forum.com/showthread.php?t=103153

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ohh Phantom got PWNED!!!

[Phantom]

ohh Phantom got PWNED!!!

 

I get PWNED by Phreak everytime I log on. I'm used to it now.

[Ctrl]

Im a newb and find reposts refreshing. I don't have to read as much. Reading make hulk angry.

 

If you don't think "loving" someone else is cheating you are just trying to admonish your own behavior. Of course it is fucking cheating. Anything you would be embarrassed or ashamed of with another person, if your mate saw, is cheating. That is why they call it cheating, because you can get caught. Ctrl's 1st rule of being decent- Never put yourself in a position to be caught. That of course does not lend itself to goat-play. Thats safe, no takesies backsies.

[KathyA]

It depends on the individuals definition of the word. Some couple's see nothing wrong with swapping one another off on different partners.. They don't view that as cheating.

 

For me, it's morally wrong. I would never cheat on my husband. If there is ever a time, when I feel I just may go off and wander. He would be the first to know. I owe that to him, if nothing else.

[Phantom]

If there is ever a time, when I feel I just may go off and wander. He would be the first to know. I owe that to him, if nothing else.

 

I don't understand. You would tell your husband before you cheated on him?

[KathyA]

Because then its not cheating.

 

I would tell him, and it would be over.

 

No cheating involved.

[Phantom]

LOL Cause then its not cheating. I would tell him and it would be over.

 

No cheating involved.

 

So, you're saying you are willing to leave your husband for another man?

[KathyA]

Trying to out me in a public forum? Nice try

 

Nope, I would never leave my husband for another man. Not in a million years.

 

I would leave him for others reasons. But never because I may think the grass is greener on the other side..

[snafu]

It depends on the individuals definition of the word. Some couple's see nothing wrong with swapping one another off on different partners.. They don't view that as cheating.

 

For me, it's morally wrong. I would never cheat on my husband. If there is ever a time, when I feel I just may go off and wander. He would be the first to know. I owe that to him, if nothing else.

 

So I guess he knows about us?

 

O.. Okay I guess thats best.

 

I think you would have to be dead not to look at the opposite sex. But you know when you've crossed that line. And it's never worth it.

[KathyA]

So I guess he knows about us?

 

O.. Okay I guess thats best.

 

I think you would have to be dead not to look at the opposite sex. But you know when you've crossed that line. And it's never worth it.

 

 

Yes Snaf, he knows all about us. And oddly enough, he says he is ok with it!

 

It could be because you live half a world away too..

[tiredofwhiners]

KathyA Nope, I would never leave my husband for another man. Not in a million years.

But Phantom if you have an interest, she might?

 

 

As for me refer to the link Phreak posted.

[ToriAllen]

I feel similar to KathyA. I told my husband when we first got together that if our relationship ever got to the point where he felt he needed to cheat on me, just leave. Give me the respect of breaking up with me rather than cheating on me. I would give him the same courtesy. I don't understand cheating. If the relationship is that bad, then get the hell out.

[Phantom]

I feel similar to KathyA. I told my husband when we first got together that if our relationship ever got to the point where he felt he needed to cheat on me, just leave. Give me the respect of breaking up with me rather than cheating on me. I would give him the same courtesy. I don't understand cheating. If the relationship is that bad, then get the hell out.

 

Very true. Most people who cheat seem to want the comforts and security they have with their current partner but enjoy the thrill of other love interests. Nobody can help it if love has turned sour but at least be an adult and tell your partner so they can move on and find somebody worthwhile.

 

But Phantom if you have an interest, she might?

 

I keep askin' but she keeps turnin' me down.

[snafu]

I feel similar to KathyA. I told my husband when we first got together that if our relationship ever got to the point where he felt he needed to cheat on me, just leave. Give me the respect of breaking up with me rather than cheating on me. I would give him the same courtesy. I don't understand cheating. If the relationship is that bad, then get the hell out.

 

Sounds good in therory. But most cheaters would rather not burn any bridges. I mean if it dosn't work out you have something to fall back on. Not that I would do anything like this but this seems to be the consensus.

[ToriAllen]

Sounds good in therory. But most cheaters would rather not burn any bridges. I mean if it dosn't work out you have something to fall back on. Not that I would do anything like this but this seems to be the consensus.

In other words they are cowards. Dependant cowards at that, since they feel the need to have someone there to

[Outlaw2747]

I think cheaters should be tossed in a vat of battery acid so the fuckers can feel pain too. Quit wasting the time of folks who want something serious and pure and go fuck around with your own kind.

[eisanbt]

Don't much care if the misses gets her rocks off with another, nor does she care much if I go elsewhere for some action. Neither of us is slutty so this hardly ever occurs, but it has and will. So long as I know that I'm her main man, and she knows that she's my real bitch not much else matters.

 

If it was sex I'd entered the relationship for I'd have gotten a hooker instead; less time consuming.

Sex is just a bonus part of intimacy provided by the partnership.

[rizzo]

Cheating is doing something with another person you wouldn't do in front of your partner, or want them to know about.

[tiredofwhiners]

Cheating is doing something with another person you wouldn't do in front of your partner, or want them to know about.

 

I don't jerk off in front of my partner, and don't want her to know about it...so thats cheating?