The over dramatic friend in crisis!

[tellitlikeitis]

I'm sure you can all agree that there has to be one of these in every group of friends. The one that has a new crisis every fucking week. The one who bawls on your shoulder over everything and expects you to drop everything to comfort them. But yet when you have a problem where the hell are they? No where to be found that's for damn sure. I don't want to sound insensitive towards my friends problem so please don't get me wrong. The doctor found some precancerous cells in her cervix. So she goes in today to have them scraped out. Ok so yes it sucks but at least it's not full blown cancer. Or even worse AIDS or something that can't be cured. She's been bawling and whinning and bitching about her recent "problem" for almost two weeks now. She's burning all of her friends out. She acts like she's dying for fucks sake. Now she has the bright idea to get a few new credit cards. (New being the key word here since she already has enough debt.) She wants to charge a vaca for her n her two kids on them. FUCKING RETARD. All that's going to do is give you more debt and for what? For a vaca that her kids won't even rem. She even called me hysterical last night to go comfort her when she knew damn well my hubby had just had all his upper teeth removed that morning. We have two kids ourselves my plate was damn full and I've been there for her for the last two weeks already. Plus she had already imposed herself on one of our other friends who was at home w/ a really sick kid of her own. Are my friends and I being to insensitive to her? What do you think?

[gotony]

I do know exactly what you mean when talking about being there for your "friends" but when you need someone they are not there for you!

 

I think you are totally justified to feel like "ok come on, get over it"....She is obviously a drama queen and i don't blame all of her friends for feeling burned out!

 

We all have shit going on in our lives and we can only do so much....

 

Oh yea, and the credit card thing....is she fucking delusional?? Does she not know that you still have to pay that money back w/ interest??

 

It seems to me that there has been nothing that you could do further, she wants attention, when that runs out, maybe she will realize she is over reacting....don't panic till there is a reason, that is what i say....I have known many people w/ different forms of cancer, this type included so i do understand the process.

 

Well..hope all does work out w/ your friend...

[Ahhlee]

Our group had a "friend" like that....a person who was overly high maintenence, prone to hysterics over minor problems, demanding, verbally abusive when she didn't get her way, obsessive in her quest for attention, thoughtless about the needs or plights of others and basically a human black hole of need intent on sucking the life force out of anyone who glanced her way.

 

After almost a year of her shit, the group got fed up with her and I told her (nicely) that she needed to seek therapy. Had she actively tried to improve her situation, I would have been sympathetic and stood by her. As it was, she got defensive and made excuses for her bad behavior so I dumped her ass and subsequently so did everyone else.

 

I have no guilt about my decision whatsoever.

[eddo]

Our group had a "friend" like that....a person who was overly high maintenence, prone to hysterics over minor problems, demanding, verbally abusive when she didn't get her way, obsessive in her quest for attention, thoughtless about the needs or plights of others and basically a human black hole of need intent on sucking the life force out of anyone who glanced her way.

 

After almost a year of her shit, the group got fed up with her and I told her (nicely) that she needed to seek therapy. Had she actively tried to improve her situation, I would have been sympathetic and stood by her. As it was, she got defensive and made excuses for her bad behavior so I dumped her ass and subsequently so did everyone else.

 

I have no guilt about my decision whatsoever.

 

Had you not said "her" I totally would have thought you were talking about wez...

[phreakwars]

Luckily there are people like me in the world who are insensitive to anybody's problems, and would have no problem at all telling her to quit being a whiny fucking baby.

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Luckily there are people like me in the world who are insensitive to anybody's problems, and would have no problem at all telling her to quit being a whiny fucking baby.

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..and if she kept whining we would pull out her tongue with a pair of pliers after sticking her head in a vise.

[snafu]

Luckily there are people like me in the world who are insensitive to anybody's problems, and would have no problem at all telling her to quit being a whiny fucking baby.

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Yeah welcome to the Phreak club you guys.

 

If somebody came to me and said they had cancer, benign or not I would be concerned for them.

 

Fucking low life

[tellitlikeitis]

Yeah welcome to the Phreak club you guys.

 

If somebody came to me and said they had cancer, benign or not I would be concerned for them.

 

Fucking low life

[Phantom]

I'm not an insensitive low life fuck face....So if you want to start throwing out names like low life go look in the fucking mirror and get out of my thread.

 

In other words, Snafu, You're not telling me what I want to hear, you have the nerve to speak your mind on an internet forum, and I want to throw a big fucking fit because you didn't coddle me. Now get out of my thread unless you plan on agreeing with me!!!

 

Screen Name: Tell It Like It Is. Ironic?

 

Regardless, Author, I don't think Snafu was referring to you in his comment.

 

As for the original thread: We have all known people like this. I think you are doing alright. You can be there for her and support her but you should not be expected to drop everything for her. Nobody wants to hang around a bottomless pit of wants and needs. Cancer/possible cancer is a serious thing so I understand her being upset but like you said, she has a history of being a ME ME ME person so the novelty kind of wears off when something more serious comes along.

 

I had a girl friend who would bitch, whine, and moan over EVERY little thing. Everyday brought on some new "crisis." But if I ever even thought about going to her for help, it would be, "OMG Phanny! I just can't HANDLE it right now!!!" I would constantly watch her children for her so she could handle a "crisis" but if I asked her for anything there would always be something. NEXT!

[eddo]

But if I ever even thought about going to her for help, it would be, "OMG Fanny! I just can't HANDLE it right now!!!" I would constantly watch her children for her so she could handle a "crisis" but if I asked her for anything there would always be something. NEXT!

 

 

She talked to your ass?

[Phantom]

Now she has the bright idea to get a few new credit cards. (New being the key word here since she already has enough debt.) She wants to charge a vaca for her n her two kids on them. FUCKING RETARD. All that's going to do is give you more debt and for what? For a vaca that her kids won't even rem.

 

I am actually going to come to her defense for a moment. Though I personally believe in slapping the shit out of people who run up debt uncontrollably (especially credit card debt), I sort of see where she is coming from. If she truly believes her situation is severe, the money and debt might not be near as important to her than making memories with her kids (regardless of whether or not we think they may remember).

 

Money is just money. Debt is debt. Both are eventually forgotten. Family and love is what make this life worth living. If anything happens to her, I'm sure her children will always have it to hold onto- even if it is just in photographs.

[Phantom]

She talked to your ass?

 

I believe I said Phanny, you Phreaking Phuck Phace.

[gotony]

Phantom...I see what you are saying but in this case, there is really no reason to go overboard into a debt she can't afford until she knows what is going on. She is just getting the cells taken out...there has been no tests telling her what to expect yet so in that regard, she is jumping the gun totally.

 

I had a friend that I watched her kid ANY time she needed it too! On night my fiance and I wanted to go to the Fireman's Fall Dinner for a few hours, she said that she really didn't want all the kids in her house cuz she just cleaned! I only have one kid mind you....oh fuck, i was so fucking pissed off i haven't watched her kid since and that was about 4 years ago...that was just wrong of her!

[tellitlikeitis]

In other words, Snafu, You're not telling me what I want to hear, you have the nerve to speak your mind on an internet forum, and I want to throw a big fucking fit because you didn't coddle me. Now get out of my thread unless you plan on agreeing with me!!!

 

Screen Name: Tell It Like It Is. Ironic?

 

Regardless, Author, I don't think Snafu was referring to you in his comment.

 

 

It wasn't that he wasn't agreeing w/ me. I don't mind a dif. point of view. It was that he called me a low life for not "being" there for my friend. There was no need to say that especially after all I've done is be there for my friend except for ONE time my husband needed me.

[tellitlikeitis]

I am actually going to come to her defense for a moment. Though I personally believe in slapping the shit out of people who run up debt uncontrollably (especially credit card debt), I sort of see where she is coming from. If she truly believes her situation is severe, the money and debt might not be near as important to her than making memories with her kids (regardless of whether or not we think they may remember).

 

Money is just money. Debt is debt. Both are eventually forgotten. Family and love is what make this life worth living. If anything happens to her, I'm sure her children will always have it to hold onto- even if it is just in photographs.

 

Well as gotony already said, this chick's jumping the gun. If she had gotten results that said you have cancer than that's dif. Then I'd be all for a vaca for her n the kids. But when you know your life isn't being threatend, that you will live. I mean don't go getting into even more debt when you can't handle what you have already.

[snafu]

Come on. Is she your friend or not? If block her number. You should know when she

[snafu]

Come on. Is she your friend or not? If not, block her number. You should know when she’s crying wolf or not. Precancerous cells can be pretty damn serious. And she was expecting you to go over and hold her hand? I don’t think so. She probably called and whined to you on the phone. You’re old man is knocked out on the couch. Precodans are great that way. In his stupor he can keep an eye for the rug rats while you’re on the phone.

 

 

Anyway I’ll take back low life (although I was talking about the Phreak band wagon).

 

How about self centered bitch?

 

You’ll get used to that;)

[tellitlikeitis]

Come on. Is she your friend or not? If not, block her number. You should know when she

[gotony]

I didn't know they allowed mental patients on the internet.

 

 

LMAO!! Yes, they do....lots of them!

[snafu]

I didn't know they allowed mental patients on the internet.

 

Your new.

[hugo]

I believe I said Phanny, you Phreaking Phuck Phace.

 

People call you Phanny in real life?

[phreakwars]

I think if it was me, I'd wait to see if I was terminal before going off and accumulating a staggering revolving debt.

 

Seems to me like the bitch is looking for an excuse to STEAL.

 

Yes, that's right... STEAL !

 

I could probably sympathize with the stupid bitch if she were terminal.. but check this out YO !

 

What if she gets the shit scraped off and everything is fine ??

 

Hell if it was me, I'd rather my sorry ass DID have cancer then have to come up with the fucking payments on the cards for a considerable time.

 

I'd have done fucked my own personal situation up more.

 

The chick needs smacked up long side the fucking head.

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[Phantom]

Phantom...I see what you are saying but in this case' date=' there is really no reason to go overboard into a debt she can't afford until she knows what is going on. She is just getting the cells taken out...there has been no tests telling her what to expect yet so in that regard, she is jumping the gun totally.[/quote']

 

Alright, I will assume you know more about the situation than I do. I was just thinking since she appears to be a drama queen, maybe she really is blowing the situation out of proportion in her own mind.

 

I had a friend that I watched her kid ANY time she needed it too! On night my fiance and I wanted to go to the Fireman's Fall Dinner for a few hours, she said that she really didn't want all the kids in her house cuz she just cleaned! I only have one kid mind you....oh fuck, i was so fucking pissed off i haven't watched her kid since and that was about 4 years ago...that was just wrong of her!

 

Yup. This is the kind of shit my friend would pull, too. Since I was a housewife and she worked during the day and went to school at night, I volunteered to watch her two hellions (and they were hellions) anytime she needed.

 

A couple of years ago, she had a "crisis" going on so I told her to go and have a "Maggie Day" and I would watch her kids, watch my own, and get her house cleaned and laundry done for her while she went and got her nails and hair done and just had a day to herself. When she returned, all fancied up, she actually had the nerve to tell me I looked like shit and should really take better care of myself (of course, I had been cleaning her house for her ). I was livid.

 

But I guarantee you, anytime I was sick in bed and was begging for some help, she wouldn't even bother making up excuses. She would just say that she didn't want to or wasn't in the mood.

 

Needless to say, we are no longer friends.

[gotony]

The chick needs smacked up long side the fucking head.

 

 

You couldn't be more right!

 

Needless to say, we are no longer friends.

 

I am getting to that point w/ this friend, it is just that we have been thru the death of her two parents together and known each other for 16 years. Granted, the fact her parents are both deceased is NO excuse for her selfishness!!

[Phantom]

Gotony, are you friends with Tell It Like It Is? You two seem to know each other from somewhere.