Asking Her Out

[Noodles]

Yeah...I need some hopefully good help here guys.

 

Well the thing is, I got this big crush on this girl at school right, yet I don't have the courage to ask her out. It's a bit controversal cause she is like a band person at school, and I am like a "jock", so to speak. I really like her though, mostly her smile. Well, I've gone out with some girls before, but it was all set up before. This time I want to ask the girl out straight forward, any help here? Oh yeah, she knows I like her cause her friend, one of my best friends, told her cause they were all "Aww" about it. Yea...it's just great. I know some of you guys know what I am gonig through...so any help?

[LP186]

well the way i see it Noodles you've got nothing 2 lose

if she knows that u have a crush on her, shes only wating for u 2 ask her out

so i would say just go 4 it man

u'll never never know if u never never go...if u know what i mean

[woodyloveslinkin]

okay take it from cos im a chick, say it to her face, get to know her thats the way i would've wanted it !

[linkinpark-1]

okay take it from cos im a chick' date=' say it to her face, get to know her thats the way i would've wanted it ![/quote']

 

yea, you have more respect for a guy when they say it to your face.

[gabi_lp]

yea' date=' you have more respect for a guy when they say it to your face.[/quote']

 

No doubt.

 

I know sometimes it must be hard, I have some friends that don't have courage, so they have the same problem. But if u don't do it for the first time, u won't do it for the rest of ur life. And as soon as u do it for the first time, u'll feel very good and u'll keep doing this over and over again. The only problem is the rejection... if she does it, don't mind. Everything happens at the time it really needs to happen....

[LPpinkfreak821]

ok.. im a girl and i know you wanted a guys opinion but im gonna tell ya anyway.... ask her out to dinner or movies or whatever.. if she says yes than you gotta date.. but if she says no just say "oh really well i thought it would be cool if we could hang out"...that way her friends or who ever may be listening doesn't go aroudn saying that you got turned down....if she says yes than gradually get to know her than ask her to be your girlfriend or whatever your goin for. if she says no just remember that she might not have been what you wanted and it works for the best

[woodyloveslinkin]

eh, buts its the truth though !

[Clogz]

Ask her out. And screw the controversy - don't let the stereotypes decide who you want to date!

Take her out somewhere she likes, like a coffee shop or something. Dinner is also okay, but NO MOVIE. Its a common misconception, but is actually the worst idea for a first date. Movies come later.

Just keep it nice and casual. Nothing to fancy. She will hopefully relax, and have fun.

As for asking her out, just go with the flow. You'll know when its the right time, but its up to you to bring that right time around. Talk to her, and ask her. You got nothing to lose, and she will probably say yes anyway.

[stupidsoul1]

say it to her face lol i never go out with guys that tell their friends to ask me i dont know why but it makes me feel like they r scared of me

 

she already knows and u have nothing to lose

so go for it!!!!

GOOD LUCK!!!!!

[angelwithburntwings]

seriously, ask her out on like a coffee date or something, as clogz said, not movies, something where you can talk and get to know each other a bit.... if it goes really well, ask her out, if it goes ok, see what your thinking, if it goes bad, either forget about it or arrange another date.... don't be nervous, you got nothing to lose mate.... best of luck! :thumbsup:

[m. k. Shinoda]

yay totally agreed... movies cames after, or the girl will think u want to go fast lol (if u understand wat i mean...), i'd love to have a boy inviting me to go to a coffee shop, go on, say it to her face, don't be scared and act natural...

 

(you used the jrock term... yay, jrock is SO good lol visual kei ever)

[Solid Snake]

^What they said

 

Would you happen to be a member at foreverforuming or animeforums?

[Noodles]

Yeah...but this is the thing for me.

 

All the girls I know say I am more of just a "guy" friend, and say I should stay that way. It seems that every chick likes someone but me too. She knows I like her obviously, and I am thinking of writing her a song/poem if I decide to ask her out. And if I eventually bring her someplace, I'd prolly just be the mall, 'cause that is where we all go, plus...I hate coffee. I'm only 14 anyways...having to smell the shit everyday...jeez, cause my friend is the manager of one around here...damn the smell gets old, lol.

[LPpinkfreak821]

well im 14 and i luv coffee.. and cappachinos.. ne waiz not what i was gonna say.. um.. if you do write her a song or a poem do not make it too guishy.. cuz if you do she might take it as your a little to sincere and sensititve.. the best way to tell a girl that you like her is to tell her to her face.. but dont' do it around a bunch of people.. that might embarrass her a little

[SNiPeRViRuS]

I love coffee and cappachinos and frapachinos and all that shit.

 

Just ask her out after walking around the mall and having some fun. If she says know, then say you will commit suicide so she will have to say yes! :thumbsup:

[angelwithburntwings]

lmao thats well harsh. but pretty funny!

i like coffee, but only since i worked in a coffee shop lol, free coffee on tap

but good luck (again) let us know how it goes :thumbsup:

[misery]

err yea im in kind of a similar situation. sux.

[woodyloveslinkin]

do it whateva way or die with that throbbing in u !

[gabi_lp]

Well if u don't wanna invite her for a coffe shop, invite her for something u like, cause it would be better... and u would feel confortable. Or BETTER: ask her friend if there's a place where she likes 2 go!!!!! I don't think the mall could be a good option, it's so "normal". If u take her there, then she will think: "Oh yeah, he's a good friend. I will invite him to buy some clothes with me next time." And u will be called "good friend". Don't do it. Really.

[majinkamahl]

Noodles...that is not your real name is it?

 

First: change your name. I reserve the right to flame anyone named 'Noodles' who asks for relationship advice.

 

Second: Be direct. Do not pussy-foot. Be assertive and show this female what you have to offer. Make it seem like you are the only one for her and that you will treat her like a goddess. Females love to be spoiled.

[Enigma]

Noodles...that is not your real name is it?

 

First: change your name. I reserve the right to flame anyone named 'Noodles' who asks for relationship advice.

 

Second: Be direct. Do not pussy-foot. Be assertive and show this female what you have to offer. Make it seem like you are the only one for her and that you will treat her like a goddess. Females love to be spoiled.

 

you got a point anyone whose name is "noodles" has a realtionship problem to start off with (no offence) and they do love to be spoilt. but don't over do it you can ruin it for yourself. cause she will start expecting more and more so don't start at the top. do something romantic like pick her a red rose or something, take her for a stroll somewhere just the 2 of ya's. see how you go....

[linkinpark-1]

you got a point anyone whose name is "noodles" has a realtionship problem to start off with (no offence) and they do love to be spoilt. but don't over do it you can ruin it for yourself. cause she will start expecting more and more so don't start at the top. do something romantic like pick her a red rose or something' date=' take her for a stroll somewhere just the 2 of ya's. see how you go....[/quote']

 

They're 14, roses might be a bit much.

[Clogz]

They're 14' date=' roses might be a bit much.[/quote']

 

I agree. There is no need to call in the heavy weaponry (roses, chocolate, and romance) in on the first date. Its a first date, and your fourteen. You can get serious, sure. But just keep it casual - trust me on it. Make her feel special but don't make her feel pressured. :thumbsup:

[Hyper]

okay, i'm a guy, lol, just fuckin ask her...it's annoying to see people who obviously like someone (such as yourself) and they just kinda puss out and do do anything. walk up to her at school, and ask her out...lol, you got nothin to lose...unless you're "easily embarassed"...then you're flat out fucked. i know that from first hand experience...countless girls i coulda gone out with but i was too pussy to ask em...now if i like a girl i'll ask her out, thas how jackie (my gf) and i started goin out anyways... you'll feel better about it afterwards, no matter what answer you get...just don't puss out and not do anything...and don't do it over the phone, or the internet...ESPECIALLY not the internet...that's the ultimate pussy royt thurr, and i'd have to flame you for that lol...

 

gl

[stupidsoul1]

lol dont ask anyone out over the internet lol they might interpret what you mean differently then to what you mean