AutumnRayn Posted February 28, 2005 Posted February 28, 2005 okay here it is. and unfortunately this is a bf-gf/jealousy/what should i do situation, so if anyone has an opinion on this id really like to hear it. okay. it pretty much started 6 months ago. i dont know what we were thinking at the time but my bf and i were thinking about trying out 'an open relationship'. you know we talked about it, blah blah blah, so we all knew what we didn't want to come out of it. well, around the same time my bf starts talking to this girl online and starts becoming friends with her... not even a week later we called it all off and decided its not worth risking our own relationship (we had been together for over a yr without a single argument, got along great). and after a little while of talking my bf cut off contacts with this girl.... Now here it is 6-12 months later and they start talking again. Note: that this girl lives just in another county from us, so its not like a long distance thing (*they're capable of seeing each other whenever they want*). appearantly i didn't remember this, but my b/f and i were talking about the whole situation. he said when he first started talking to her and when we decided to have an open relationship he had gone over her house to meet her... and told me EXACTLY what they had done over there. Cuz also this girl appearantly has a big crush on him, but also knows about us! this is what he said they did: he was over there for like 1hr 30mins with intentions of staying longer. he was there with her by himself and they made out for a little bit with every intention of going ALL the way! now he claims nothing else happened cuz he didn't want to ruin our relationship. Note also that he almost didnt' tell me they made out. but anway Now he's talking to this girl and says she wants him to teach her to play drums. so he invited her to come out last week to one of his practices but.... (now heres the catch) she said she wont go if i'm going! now i told my bf that i dont have a problem with her and she shouldn't have a problem with me as long as it stays just friends between the two (knowing that she does have a crush on him). I told my bf that i'm going not because i dont trust him, but because i dont trust her (i cant really trust someone that i dont know, and what i do know... well lets just say she better watch her step around me). but she still wont come if i go... and well my bf agrees with HER. that there could be too much tension if i go. then he says well i would never have wanted to go inthe first place if she wasn't going, blah blah blah. then she IMs him saying that "well i guess the only way we can be friends is behind Kelly's back...."(kelly being me of course). of course that didnt go off too well with me, but i kept it cool. Cuz i dont get mad easily. so he tells me.."well if she's going to be like that i cant be friends with her and says he's going to stop talking to her. Next thing i know the next morning (this morning) he's talkign to her again. I didn't say anything to him until tonight.. and he says.. well she started talking to me again (cuz she said she couldn't be friends unless etc...i guess that was his excuse, saying it was her that didnt' want to tlak to him, but i didn't buy it). I dont know if its just my nerves or me being a little jealous, but he seems to be talking not only to her a lot online but also about her to me offline! ALso i think he's been a little nasty to me lately... one time he told me "...sometimes i think you only think of me as a piece of meat." now i dont know about anyone else but i found that a little offensive. i may be a little permiscuous(sp?) but if its not that then i'm getting little attention at all. plus i'm always busy with the baby with little to no help from him. now he's supposed to be teaching me drums (he wants me to learn) as well as teaching her. now how in the hell is he supposed to teach her without me being there, unless she comes over while i'm gone and practices with him... now i dont know about u but that doesn't sound right to me. Also with that said. both of them are saying i'm making this out to be a bigger problem when it doesnt need to be. I'm just so frustrated. everything he does now gets on my nerves when before i was just passive about it all.i mean after what he just sais i cant even have sex anymore without feeling like a whore or something. i dont know how far to let this thing go with this girl before i put my foot down. ive given up too much for this(once great) relationship...my home,family,rep,practically my life... that i just dont want some fat goth 16yr old internet manipulator to interfer in my life. ive never said anything that mean about somebody really ands its not in my nature but thats just how i feel.... sorry for this to be written so long but what do you guys think? am i taking this too far or am i right about this?? Quote
AutumnRayn Posted February 28, 2005 Author Posted February 28, 2005 HOLY COW...that was a LOT longer than i intended it to be sorry guys!! Quote
AutumnRayn Posted February 28, 2005 Author Posted February 28, 2005 sorry again guys i just realized i posted this in the wrong place...DAMN!... what is wrong with me tonight..... Quote
lp2009 Posted February 28, 2005 Posted February 28, 2005 i think ur b/f is an ass if he keeps talking to her when he knows that she really like him. but i know how it is kinda for him cuz i like this guy and im not supposed to talk to him but i still do cuz i like him just talk to him is all i can say Quote
stupidsoul1 Posted February 28, 2005 Posted February 28, 2005 you two have a child...............................he should be more considerate!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Quote http://www.sucksbbs.net/data/MetaMirrorCache/25cb22d29f0c2f027cf1acc5b7bf6cf4.png http://www.sucksbbs.net/data/MetaMirrorCache/459bb3c6fed65d05781dbdae0319d254.png http://www.sucksbbs.net/data/MetaMirrorCache/0dcf45273040e11bc56a99d4601a58d5.png http://www.sucksbbs.net/data/MetaMirrorCache/bfdf068f8fa963062b979cec565ff7f7.png Fiona is teh Fionizzle... and we all love her ^^
AutumnRayn Posted February 28, 2005 Author Posted February 28, 2005 DAMN speaking of HER. today he told me "well maybe it was a mistake to have her" and i was already pissed at him, but he didnt' know it. I mean. this wasn't a mistake. we agreed to have this child together, we went against everyone not only when i got pregnant but for our own love. and he gave me this dirty look when i asked him to hold her while i had to make her formula. and he doesn't even hold her.. he lays her down all the time, even when feeding her she's lying down with him, and as for everything else (changing her, making her botte/warming it) he does and has done nothing. when she starts crying its always ..."honey the baby's crying..." i mean it was good up until this girl came into play. and she KNEW... SHE KNOWS that he's engaged with me and we have a kid, i mean who does she think she is?? and for her to be afraid to get to know me... well she's giving herself something to have to be afraid of!!! I just dont know. I mean i'm engaged to him, and since this we've had no big issues. People already think we have a bad relationship. I mean if i leave i have no where to go. Call it stupid but i'm afraid to just waltz right back to my parents and say im sorry and for them to say i told you so... cuz thats not how it was and thats not how it is!! I mean we both agreed to have this baby practically the same day he asked me to marry him. I dont even knwo what to say. i dont know how long to wait before i bring up the issue with this girl. and like im thinking about getting out of the house for a bit and spend time with a friend (who is a yr older, also with a baby, seperated from her husband, and dating other guys) and possibly risk the chance of flirting with others??? Its weird, my friend Jessica was someone i've known sicne i was 4. as we got older her and i never got a long. i avoided doing any of the bad things she did while hanging around her while my sister was influenced by her. My sister ends up living a life completly opposite of Jessica's while my life is beginning to replicant every step she's made. I mean i dont know if i should be ashamed or just live up to it and do my own thing.... Quote
AutumnRayn Posted February 28, 2005 Author Posted February 28, 2005 ....As you can tell ppl i'm a LITTLE upset, that's why i'm typing a lot at once. Sorry if it gets annoying..... Quote
stupidsoul1 Posted February 28, 2005 Posted February 28, 2005 *hugs* i would of slapped him across the face if i heard my baby being called a mistake im sorry to hear about this you said that stupid chick was 16 right??????? well...its illegal for them to do anything anyways Quote http://www.sucksbbs.net/data/MetaMirrorCache/25cb22d29f0c2f027cf1acc5b7bf6cf4.png http://www.sucksbbs.net/data/MetaMirrorCache/459bb3c6fed65d05781dbdae0319d254.png http://www.sucksbbs.net/data/MetaMirrorCache/0dcf45273040e11bc56a99d4601a58d5.png http://www.sucksbbs.net/data/MetaMirrorCache/bfdf068f8fa963062b979cec565ff7f7.png Fiona is teh Fionizzle... and we all love her ^^
AutumnRayn Posted February 28, 2005 Author Posted February 28, 2005 well just because its illegal doesn't prevent from doing it..like i said in the first post, he admitted he almost went all the way. i mean he was sitting in her room with her with no one else in the house Quote
stupidsoul1 Posted March 2, 2005 Posted March 2, 2005 i guess he isnt so obnoxious i mean...he didnt do anything..... have you had a talk to him about it? Quote http://www.sucksbbs.net/data/MetaMirrorCache/25cb22d29f0c2f027cf1acc5b7bf6cf4.png http://www.sucksbbs.net/data/MetaMirrorCache/459bb3c6fed65d05781dbdae0319d254.png http://www.sucksbbs.net/data/MetaMirrorCache/0dcf45273040e11bc56a99d4601a58d5.png http://www.sucksbbs.net/data/MetaMirrorCache/bfdf068f8fa963062b979cec565ff7f7.png Fiona is teh Fionizzle... and we all love her ^^
AutumnRayn Posted March 2, 2005 Author Posted March 2, 2005 Wow.. dont i feel stupid. i think i realize just how important that refresh button is. but anywayz. actually i did finally sit down and talk with him. its amazing what a little communication does for a relationship... but of course i through everything way out of preportion. I guess now they dont talk anymore. she called him up started bitching about something so he hung up on her.. that made my day when i heard that. i think i was just getting a little annoyed with her and beginning to feel a uncomfortable...wow thats a first. but yeah everything's great. btw i'm posting some pix up in the 'Pics of You' thread of us (me/bf/and kaitlyn). Quote
AutumnRayn Posted March 2, 2005 Author Posted March 2, 2005 i take that back i guess the thread is closed i'll just make a new one later Quote
stupidsoul1 Posted March 3, 2005 Posted March 3, 2005 lol its changed to members pics 0.4 its a sticky glad to know its all good now...that must of been so awkward Quote http://www.sucksbbs.net/data/MetaMirrorCache/25cb22d29f0c2f027cf1acc5b7bf6cf4.png http://www.sucksbbs.net/data/MetaMirrorCache/459bb3c6fed65d05781dbdae0319d254.png http://www.sucksbbs.net/data/MetaMirrorCache/0dcf45273040e11bc56a99d4601a58d5.png http://www.sucksbbs.net/data/MetaMirrorCache/bfdf068f8fa963062b979cec565ff7f7.png Fiona is teh Fionizzle... and we all love her ^^
AutumnRayn Posted March 3, 2005 Author Posted March 3, 2005 ah i see. thanks for letting me know... and yes it was awkward Quote
stupidsoul1 Posted March 3, 2005 Posted March 3, 2005 its oki *hugs* lol its kinda funny in a un funny way... Quote http://www.sucksbbs.net/data/MetaMirrorCache/25cb22d29f0c2f027cf1acc5b7bf6cf4.png http://www.sucksbbs.net/data/MetaMirrorCache/459bb3c6fed65d05781dbdae0319d254.png http://www.sucksbbs.net/data/MetaMirrorCache/0dcf45273040e11bc56a99d4601a58d5.png http://www.sucksbbs.net/data/MetaMirrorCache/bfdf068f8fa963062b979cec565ff7f7.png Fiona is teh Fionizzle... and we all love her ^^
AutumnRayn Posted March 3, 2005 Author Posted March 3, 2005 yea... at least now i know my own limit when it comes to jealousy... i never thought i was the type Quote
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