Help!!

[Chipmonk21177]

Okay, now i know that theres like 50 billion threads about cutting but... my family and friends are starting to notice and they've been telling me to stop but that makes me cut more and i hav like 6 or 7 cuts on my wrist so i hav to wear a wristband to try and hide the cuts and everyone is really like freaking out about it and they're scared for me. but i know how close of a group LPF is and i feel like i'm around ppl i can be myself around here and i was wondering if u guys could sort of support me and help me stop (even though it's over hte internet). btw i was readin the thread about scratching and thats how it started for me but then it turned to cutting. plz guys can u help me out???

[Dark_Nights_Death]

use a rubber band

just try to stop and make them learn about this

[BAM]

you must not love yourself very much, huh?

I'm not gonna tell you to stop, 'cause i see that you do the opposite anyway....Seems to me that you are trying to get everyones attention with this kind of behaviour but i think there are better ways to do that (depends on what kind of problem you have).

If you do this just because you enjoy pain and not because you have a statement and no one's listening then i think the problem is in your own hands but you must keep it far from your parents/ friends cause this might hurt them too (emotionally speaking) It's your own "thing" and you must leave anyone else out of it...

Someone said "pain is wisdome in disguise" but don't take it literally (not necessary physical pain!)

[dany]

well some of the ppl that listen to rock music have the impression that they are more cooler if they cut themselves

what do u achieve with the fact that you're cutting yourself????do your problems dissapear just cause u harm yourself...

ppl are not going to notice your problems and because of what you're doing to yourself they are going to consider u a problem ....and you're not gonna be ok with that

u say that if someone tells u to stop this u continue-well if u know that if u hit a wall with your head and it might be possible 4 u to die because of this are u gonna continue to hit the wall???

well,cutting it's not a way of escaping reality,the problems are still there and they won't dissapear just cause u mutilate yourself

you harm yourself and no one else and that's not good

now if u wanna listen to what i've told u ok....if u won't.....do what u want

[nocturnal]

I did it,I was aware of what I was doing and how bad it was but that couldnt stop me..noone knows it around me..oneday I asked a friend of mine that if I say that I cut myself would you believe me? she said absolutely not..that made me think about what I am doing and I quitted it..anywayz I dont know what to say this is a pretty tough situation..I can only say that it makes things difficult not easy..

[uwantme2b]

what do u achieve with the fact that you're cutting yourself????do your problems dissapear just cause u harm yourself...

 

Self-harm is a coping strategy and many people find that they have no other way to release their emotions when they are angry and upset.

 

Self-harm *is* a coping strategy normally, so the way to stop it is to find a replacement. It isn't enough to just stop, you need to find some other way of releasing your emotions. Start writing things down, or take up a hobby that allows you to vent your emotions in some way.

[keza]

Self-harm is a coping strategy and many people find that they have no other way to release their emotions when they are angry and upset.

 

Self-harm *is* a coping strategy normally, so the way to stop it is to find a replacement. It isn't enough to just stop, you need to find some other way of releasing your emotions. Start writing things down, or take up a hobby that allows you to vent your emotions in some way.

 

thats actually pretty amazing advice, i did that, i used to cut, about 2 months ago and now ive stopped cuz it ends up causing more problems than it does solve, it was the most stupid thing i did and i have the scars as a constant reiminder...

find an alternative as uwantme2b said...ur not going to stop alone, u need to do it through strong determaination and a hobby...a release...

[dany]

Self-harm is a coping strategy and many people find that they have no other way to release their emotions when they are angry and upset.

 

Self-harm *is* a coping strategy normally, so the way to stop it is to find a replacement. It isn't enough to just stop, you need to find some other way of releasing your emotions. Start writing things down, or take up a hobby that allows you to vent your emotions in some way.

yeah i agree with you....it's a way of escaping reality but if he would want he could stop this

i know ppl that cutted themselfes and stoped this.....

why ppl do this??most of the times is because don't feel loved...

so my advice-find a friend,but a good friend who can help u out on this or i don't know...maybe everytime u are depressed and want to cut yourself put some music on and try to relax....

[uwantme2b]

Well done on stopping cutting

 

so my advice-find a friend,but a good friend who can help u out on this or i don't know...maybe everytime u are depressed and want to cut yourself put some music on and try to relax....

 

I have some incredible friends and I still used to cut myself. It helps to be surrounded by caring friends, true, but the only person who can truly help you is yourself. Anyone can stop cutting if they want it enough. That's what I think, and I speak as someone who has stopped.

[keza]

also, u havent said why u started, becasue the reason u started is a big factor,if u havent sorted out ur head and the thoughts etc, ur notgoing to be able to sort out ur cutting...

[LPGotLinkinPark]

I'd say to find a replacement for it to let out your emotions. That way you feel relieved of your stress without cutting yourself. Try to get it under control. You really have to believe that you can stop too. If you think you depend on it, then you do. But if you are sure that you can stop if you put your mind to it, than it's a lot easier to live without it.

 

And all the people that tell cutters it's not worth it, I think they should stop cause for one it doesn't help, and also they don't know what they're goign through. (people who have never cut, sorry, didn't make that clear)

[Chipmonk21177]

wow, like i said i wanted ur guys support in helping me stop and all i can say is wow. u guys i hav told ppl about this and wanted to them to help me stop but the ppl i told, who i thought were my friends, looked at me like a freak and turned away from me. u guys r different though. u gave me such good ideas to stop me from cutting and i just want to thank u with all my heart. LPF is such a close community and i can see how u all look out for one another. thank u so much, u guys r that best!! if i feel like i'm gonna cut then i'll listen to music and try to relax, i'll find a hobby to keep me busy, or i'll come on here and talk to everyone that answered my thread because i feel like u guys r really my friends and that i know u'll support me. again i thank u.

[keza]

aww thats really cute...ur already halfway there sweetie, having a positive mind!!!

good luck to u..when u stop though and look back its the best feeling in the world nowing u dont have to think about hinding ur arm...covering it up..etc u know what i mean!

*hugs*

feel free to pm me anytime!

 

and again good luck!

[Chipmonk21177]

thnx soo much!! all the ppl here at LPF r awesome and thnx so much for ur support keza!! i'm sure i'll love to not hav to hide my arms! *hugs back* thnx for being there for me!!

[LPGotLinkinPark]

Thanks, it's no problem really. Hope you do well.

[twilightcrimson7]

... I suck at helping people throught things. and if I've said it one time here, I've said it a billion times. Only you can really stop yourself. If you're hoping for an easy way, save yourself the extra trouble

try doing other hobbies that you like instead of thinking about troubling and depressive thoughts, and if you must, try singing or screaming to music.. writing....anythuing to let the anger out...or sadness, or whatever.

I can be a hypocrite in this area, but that's my advice...you asked for it

best of wishes... I know the anxiety of holding a secret that is starting to unravel itself....

[dany]

well,i'm glad to read what i've read...whenever u feel like in the mood for talking with some friends...come here

[stupidsoul1]

hey! glad you feel better =)

 

maybe next time chew some gum or go for a long walk to sort ur thoughts out

 

*hugs* take care

[Chipmonk21177]

again i say thnx sooo much to everyone!! on here my buddy list may only hav 3 ppl on it, but iknow a hav to many friends to count on here! thnx guys u really helped me with all the great ideas!!