Family Problems: Divorce is there anything i can do?

[KissOfDeath]

Everything seem to be going wrong in my life right about now I mean is there anything I can do my parents are mad at each other and they are planning on splitting up. I dunno wat I can possibly do to stop it they have been together for 15 years and now everything seems to be falling apart for no reason. I hate it and I used 2 dislike my father as well ,but now that i may never ever see him again I wish that I had been able to spend more time with him when I had the chance. People would die to have everything I have but they don't know how different everyone in my family is from each other everything is falling apart and i don't know what to do.

 

Is there anything I can do this may even be the last day I spend in my room in a house with both my parents =( i am extremely sad please help.

[keza]

dont worry hon, is a cliche but u will get over it..my parents are diveroced, divorced when i was 13 and to be hons#est it was the best thing that could have happened it takes a long time for you to get over it, but really..usually its for the best

if their life would be better together they wouldnt be splitting up, ur life will be happier without the fights, in some respects itll get harder but youll be fine

 

sorry im crap at reassurences lol...well if u ever need to talk or something...

[ForgottenKid]

Hell maybe its for the better...iuno thats what im thinking. My parents recently got divorced a week ago and things seem to be better for everyone. If you think its the last day...um speand some time with both your parents. Get to know them a bit more...idk what to do really.

[majinkamahl]

A few things:

 

-Work on the grammar. It is horrible. I know for a fact it takes longer to type "i dun kno wat 2 do cuz mah famly is fucked," than it does to type " my family is disfunctional". When your brain has to mentally process how to type words WRONG, you slow down the typing process and you hinder your audiences ability to UNDERSTAND just what the EFF you mean. Gawddamn. :\

 

-Divorce is their decision. You must realize that above all else. You can not change their minds, nor can you halt a legal process. The best you can do is be supportive and pray. Hope that you can make your parents see that they would be wasting their last 15 years together. Maybe even remind them of the financial difficulties there would be if they wanted to divorce.

 

-I do not know about you, but in my country there are only three grounds for divorce; adultery, abuse/violence, being seperated for more than 1 year. If these are not factors in your parents lives, they can not technically get a divorce, regardless of how unhappy they may be.

 

-If you never liked your father, but think that you have something everyone else wants, you have to make up your mind. What is more important? Living a happy facade, or an unhappy truth.

 

Overall, you got some soulsearching to do and some grade school english classes to attend.

 

 

Regards,

 

~MK

[Minzara]

My parents got divorced when i was about 4 or so, but they got back together when i was around 10, but now there getting divorced again lol its happens alot, i wouldnt worry about it....

[KissOfDeath]

thnx

keza

[Minzara]

Please use the edit button, its there for a reason....

[KissOfDeath]

ok I fixed it thnx for your advice

[acdcrules04]

umm... pretty much what mk said, you can't change a thing, but most of the time its for the better, would you rather live in a house where no one is stressed all the time, or live somewhere where people are constantly yelling and fighting?

[KissOfDeath]

where no one is stressed i guess thnx.

[Hybrid Soldier]

if they are constantly yelling anf fighting, they should split up, it will make them both happier, an eventually it will make you happier

[keza]

thnx

keza

 

anytime, if it all happens good luck with it all, but from the sounds of it you will need more luck if they stay together

hope everything works out for the best though^_^

[woodyloveslinkin]

this is my advice:

i know how dirvorce effectz u i have been through with it with my parents.

theres sadly nothing u can do about it cos its their decision not yours.

sorry to hear about that.

love woody.

[Pyro_Storm]

yea what everyone else is saying, you cant really stop it. As much as you may want to you cant. Maybe talk to your parents about it, see why their doing it. Its happened 3 times to me, when they say its not your fault you cant blame yourself.

[misspiggy]

you can talk to your parent about not separating but you do have to see it from their side. maybe they have certain or if you really dont want them to get divorced ask them to get concouling (sp?) or something like that.

[woodyloveslinkin]

dude i hope everything goes well for u...

[KissOfDeath]

thnk you all for caring =)

[spike91232004]

Yeah I hope it all works out! My parents divorced when I was 3 so I didn't really know what was going on which was good. But I can't imagine having too go threw that at a older age. Hopefully everything gets better and they are just in a bad mood.

 

Good Luck!

[mike vincent]

have u tried talkin to your father? just dont lose hope girl..try talkin to ur father and just dont let go till he tells u the reason for the divorce...n if u feel that u can get ur father or mother to compromise i think everything will work out fine....but make sure u talk strong to them dont let them push u down or make ur opinions sound worthless...just tell em that u're also a part of the family and u also deserve some consideration. dont worry it'll work out the right way...i know how it feels but this is all i have got to say

[Darkangel72518]

Well All I know having devoiced parnets could mess up your life forever...Like it did to my bf.

[tuba]

i live in Karachi (Pakiatan) .. i ve four sisters no brother two sis r elder from me and one is youger from me... my fathr is a abusive person.. he sexual abuse to my two elder sisters about me donot know.. but my younger is safe from his sexual abuse.. he used to beat us including my mom.. as he get older and us get bigger.. he stop beating us .. but now he cannot beat us.. he mentally tortue us.. he has made my mom very sick she cannot eat much things .. she is sooo weak... she is sooo afraid of him ..he never spend money on us .. he always spend money on this friends and his brother and sisters nd other ppl .... we face lot of difficulties in order to fulfil our basic needs..although he has a lot of money we know !!!!

i really donot ve good relationship wid my sisters buc when was a child my stupid father gave much attention to me and he ignored my other sisters.. may be thats why they donot like me.. and the other reason is that my elderest sister's friend ( he was only my sister friend my sis told me ) he asked to his gf i said ok.. when my sisters came to know they stared yelling at me nd shouting.. now they used to say me that i m slut nd other things

now my life is totally mess up..my father dosenot allow me to use net but i used net once a week thats why i cannot post regularly i m sorry for it..

 

i sometimes tink i should die ... i mostly spend my time these days .. then days will change .i m really sick of my life....

specially my sis.. tell me what to do

[majinkamahl]

i live in Karachi (Pakiatan) .. i ve four sisters no brother two sis r elder from me and one is youger from me... my fathr is a abusive person.. he sexual abuse to my two elder sisters about me donot know.. but my younger is safe from his sexual abuse.. he used to beat us including my mom.. as he get older and us get bigger.. he stop beating us .. but now he cannot beat us.. he mentally tortue us.. he has made my mom very sick she cannot eat much things .. she is sooo weak... she is sooo afraid of him ..he never spend money on us .. he always spend money on this friends and his brother and sisters nd other ppl .... we face lot of difficulties in order to fulfil our basic needs..although he has a lot of money we know !!!!

i really donot ve good relationship wid my sisters buc when was a child my stupid father gave much attention to me and he ignored my other sisters.. may be thats why they donot like me.. and the other reason is that my elderest sister's friend ( he was only my sister friend my sis told me ) he asked to his gf i said ok.. when my sisters came to know they stared yelling at me nd shouting.. now they used to say me that i m slut nd other things

now my life is totally mess up..my father dosenot allow me to use net but i used net once a week thats why i cannot post regularly i m sorry for it..

 

i sometimes tink i should die ... i mostly spend my time these days .. then days will change .i m really sick of my life....

specially my sis.. tell me what to do

 

 

I am very sorry to hear that. Someone please edit this for me. I want to help this girl. Someone PRONTO!

[tuba]

thanks majinkamal ... i really need help..in lots of matter.. thanks

[tuba]

thanks majinkamahl... i really need help..in lots of matter.. thanks

[tuba]

u know my mom thinks that we hate her and she thinks we r on our father's side.. and father thinks that we r on our mother's side.. they both take out their anger nd depression on us...

donot know what to do.. sometimes i ask God why sucide is sin???????????? or why he made me?????????????