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[ImTheOneThatFalls]

So...I'm told I come off to strong. That my personality is too strong. I guess that scares guys away. Whats wrong with me?

[FireHawk]

basically you just need to take things slower....but some guys like the comeing on to strong....sry if i didn't help

[Phranka]

hmm personally I don't like people like that myself.. I'm like the exact opposite >.<

but sure you can't help it muh

[misery]

There's nothing wrong with you. That's your personality. If someone doesn't like your personality, then fuck them.

[chesterfreak143]

again i find myself agreeing with MattXD

 

It's just you. what's wrong with being you?

 

You DO have a strong personality, and i admire you for that.

what's bad about being strong?

 

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you cristi.

and dont let anyone make you think there is.

[Vash_the_Stampede]

Cris,

Nothing's wrong with you. If you have a strong personality, that's you. You may scare guys off because of it, you may not. Each guy is different. Some guys like women with strong personalities, some don't. Don't cut yourself down because of it though, because it's not necessarily a bad thing.

[fallenangel]

i'm like that! the only difference b/t u and me is guys respect me for it. they know that if they say anything about me being Puerto Rican (like a racist phrase) that I'm gonna kick they're ass.

[Ravynlee]

I have to admit I'm very much like you.

It seems society sends out many conflicting messages. Women are meant to be sexy but sweet, individual but not outlandish, loving yet not slutty, strong yet fragile and independant yet incomplete without a guy in her life to 'take care of her.'

It's screwed up for sure.

If we deviate in any way from any of these ideals we're in trouble.

I know it doesn't make sense but try and look at it like this - maybe the guys you scare away are just as confused about what they want/where they stand with things within themselves and reflect that on to you.

Regardless all that, what do you want from them? Is there another way you can get your message across without compromising yourself/your beliefs/etc. Maybe the guys you're pursuing aren't for you. If you being you scares ppl away then why be someone else to make someone else happy? That's backwards. If you are comfortable with you then don't try and be what you're not. You'd spend too much energy trying to keep th act up that whatever you have in any relationship will fail anyway. I'd like to think someone will appreciate you for you if you put yourself in the right environment. But if there's something in you that you feel you need to address to help yourself maybe you can try that. You're you and there's only one you, and there's nothing wrong with being you. At the end of the day or in the middle of the night the only person you have to answer to is you.

 

Confused yet? 0_o

[Stenners]

Dont change who u r for anyone, if they dont like u for who u r then the relationship would be false. Maybe u will naturally calm down as you grow older as many people do at least that way u wont be somebody u arent

[lovelytragedy]

theres nothing wrong with ur personality...i cant really say that because i dont really know you that well, but after i read all these comments, i guess i do have to say that you're you and if ppl dont lik ur personality, well then thats too bad for them. and scaring guys away? u dont have to worry about that, eventually, you will find people that actually do lik your personality and you can feel more comfortable. :thumbsup:

 

sorry if what im saying makes no sense whatsoever.

 

♥♥♥

[Black_Angel]

If you're louder guys are more likely to notice you and then like you... I'm so quiet that they just ignore me most of the time.

 

But yeah, don't try and change who you are just because a few people don't like it, everyone's different and everyone has different tastes.

[ImTheOneThatFalls]

Thanks so much guys. You've made me felt so much better about myself. I should have remembered Kurt Cobains quote.

 

"Its better to be hated for what you are, then to be loved for something you're not"

[chesterfreak143]

amen.

 

luf yew cristi!

*hugs*

[stupidsoul1]

I have a strong personality, and that is what guys like most about me alot of guys like girls that can hold their own,swear,burp,listen to metal stuff like that.

 

maybe you are trying for the wrong guy,im sure there is one guy out there that is already watching you from a far and going FUCKING OATH SHE IS FUCKING GREAT!

[Rusu_luvs_LP_4ever]

and I shall quote from Audioslave:

 

"To be yourself is all that you can do"

 

Don't change who you are, then you'd be living a lie. Fuck the people who don't appreciate you for you. I like people with a strong personality, makes life a whole much more interesting.

[azemkamikaze03]

See some guys are scared that women might be pushy and want to wear the pants and they wanna girl who lets the guy kinda be in charge(if u know what i mean)

 

me personally...i dont care

U do come off strong but i mean its in a good way.

its more fun when u have someone to shit talk with

[Cyro]

There's nothing wrong with you. That's your personality. If someone doesn't like your personality' date=' then fuck them. [/quote']

 

Exactly.

 

You need to find someone who likes your personality, not change it to suit someone. I know from personal experience that it won't work, and you won't be happy if you mold your personality to suit the other person... I know its hard... REALLY hard. But if you find the right person, I'd imagine it'd be a very great feeling.

 

 

EDIT: Now that I think about it, I wish there was a girl I knew that came off really strong, lol.

[ImTheOneThatFalls]

WHOA... that was brought back from the DEAD. Thanks CYRO.. I love you.

[Cyro]

WHOA... that was brought back from the DEAD. Thanks CYRO.. I love you.

 

I just had to. Babycakes comes through. I love you too, you sexy one that falls.

[Clogz]

So...I'm told I come off to strong. That my personality is too strong. I guess that scares guys away. Whats wrong with me?

If a guy runs away from you because you have a 'strong personality', then you are better off without them. I like girls with strong personalities, because I have one too...and I feel like there is nothing wrong with it at all.

 

Be who you are, and you will find someone who really loves you. If you be something you aren't, that guy will just fall in love with that something.

[majinkamahl]

So...I'm told I come off to strong. That my personality is too strong. I guess that scares guys away. Whats wrong with me?

 

 

An overbearing sense of a need to prove yourself.

 

Think it is impossible? Take mental notes of how you compare your self/life/experiences to that of peers.

 

It is also possible that the males you have interests in are just not looking for a super-strong personality in a woman. I would point out, strong personality is often a sign of independence, high maintenance, and sometimes overbearing.

 

Try to objectively see how you interact with others and gauge your reactions to things. It sounds to me like you really need to take a back seat to a few things, blow off some steam and let go. Take a breather.

 

 

If all else fails, become a hermit for a while and note how you like/dislike the change.

 

I hope I helped,

 

~MK

 

 

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