My Dad pt.2

[Sygy]

I really need some good advice right now.

My dad literally the worst father in the world. He swear, drinks too much, leaves porn lying about the house. Sponges off us even though him and my mum have been legally divorced for about a few months now, he wont move out even though he has a flat which he has his 'whore' ( i wont dignify her with calling her his girlfriend) in.

He is also abusive to me and my mum and beats up us and generally does alot of emotional bullying to us. For example, recently,he forced fed me and huge thing of pork (knowing that i dont eat meat) and then afterward he told me that i shouldnt have eaten that because im 'the fattest girl ever'.

All the above is basically common knowlegde. so yesterday him and my mum had another big fight. Basically, my mum asked him if he was ever going to move out. Then the convosation just generally degraded into how he only hits us because we deserve it and we 'provoke' him. Bullshit.

So my mum and i were obviously offended my this statement and when he went out to go to church ( yes he is this horrid and if still an active church goer and infact he still on the Christian board of ethics here in london). My mum and i started packing his bags, the plan being that he would come back from church and would find his stuff next to our garden gate and the locks of our house changed.

so when we are cleaning out his stuff, i pull open one of his closets. Guess what i find inside? Basically a cornucopia of illegal subtances, ranging from weed to coke, and even including a kit with people use to heat up drugs ( i dont know what they are called excatly).

So then, my mum is all like saying how she cant deal with this anymore and how he has gone to far this time and generally just really destressed. So then she is all like i dont know what to do.

So we dont know what to do, we asked him about it but he just pretended that he couldnt hear us and then just walked off.

So what do you think i should do? should i like call the police on him, or ignore it or try and talk him through with it or what???

gahhhh!!!

[GraDoN]

i think its beyond talk....

phoning the police might be a option but that might get him even more angry...

sorry to hear that your going through this i could not imagin how it must feel...

i guess i would phone the police.... when hes not there.

[crazy robster]

God this has really freaked me out! And that man goes to church? Hypocricy at its best... I don't know, he's dangerous and he is definitely not one you can deal with through talking. I mean, from what I've read here and though I know he will get angrier and all, I guess the only solution is calling the police when he's not there. You can't just let him tread on your lives like he does. He can't just continue to do all these despicable things to you whithout any consequences. You should seek protection and I don't see any other way than calling the police...

[Scotty B]

its a hard subject to talk about. you must be really scared of what he might do next. i htink yes call the police but that wouldnt do much they will caution him for having the drugs take them away and hats it he will or may get worse with he beatings. i think you should talk to some one in your family or some one at your citizan advice bureux they might help.

[Sygy]

I think jojo and josh are right, we got the police involved with him before but they dont do much about 'domestic disputs' here, they will just refere you to Social Services,which isnt great bc then Social Services get invloved with everything and would contact all the colleges which ive applied for. Last time, we got the police over my mum was the one would ended up getting in trouble, bc my dad said that that he was going to 'kill us' and my mum attacked him with my hockey stick.

 

But, maybe if we call the police we should go like a friends house so that we dont have to deal with him going crazy.

[linky20]

It's a really difficult situation, and I'm sorry to hear that...the only thing u can do is go to the police next time he hit u..if he hit ur mom then call police (don't leave her alone with him)...don't call police if he's not there,they wont help-u have to prove to them that he hit u...or just go to the police and talk to them..tell them ur situation and ask them for advice and help...

don't let ur dad win, ur life is important so is ur mom's

 

good luck

[Friðbjörn]

if the police can't handle this then there's something really wrong with the police

social services too.

 

if they can't do shit, then there's basically an open opportunity for guys like your dad to do shit like he does...this is horrifying

[Acezorz]

Okay this guy is out of his mind and deserves nothing less than life imprisonment. If the police arn't doing anything, move to a friends while he's out, and keep calling the police from there, he can't get away with this..

[Peterdea]

damn! if my dad did anything like that i would literaly beat him up with a bat or something.

 

it seriously pisses me off that he acts like that, and i barely know you! I can't think of any solution in my current mood but to retaliate. Show him you arent just gonna let him fuck you and your family up at all.

[Jeezy]

you should deffinately lock him out of your house...and yeah...better call the police...if he really has that much of drugs lying around...then they'll put him in jail

[HaziLPTonz]

i know hitting out prolly wouldnt be the best...but i mean, i think it is time you and your mum stood up to him, attack back or something. or iono...running doesnt usually solve problems, but if it gets worse, i think you and your mum should contemplate fleeing elsewhere so that you are at least away from that monster.