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Well, never knew i was gonna make a thread for this but i felt like making one

 

Yesterday my girlfriend asked me if she could come to my house..well sure anytime

I asked her if she wanted to sleep at my place etc..

She was like: i don't know how to tell you..

I asked what's wrong

She said: Well i think i'm no more in love with you, but i don't understand it, i think you're perfect and i always feel great when i'm with you but when i'm at home i don't miss you anymore, i don't feel like i want to go to your place..

 

so i don't understand what's wrong..she wants a break..see if she will miss me when she's alone for a while, but at the same time she says she loves me, and whenever she's with me she feels good..

 

i asked her what the chances were we'd get back together after some time off..she didn't know

so i asked her well what do you want honestly

she said being with me..

 

the night she told me this, she did sleep at my place because i wanted to talk..and eventually we started kissing again etc..

 

so really i have no idea what's wrong..just needed to share it cause i love her alot and i'd do anything to get her back, i really don't want to break-up

 

and well dunno if this is important but she's 18 and i'm almost 19..

 

any help would be appreciated..

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let me get this straight. she likes you, adores you, but she doesn't feel love, about you?

 

that's what I got from what you said at least. and if so, I don't think there's much you can do, unfortunately.

 

but maybe she's just confused about what she feels, that's natural. if you do take a break, she might come to realize fully what it is she feels. which for you hopefully would be that she's in love with you

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let me get this straight. she likes you, adores you, but she doesn't feel love, about you?

 

that's what I got from what you said at least. and if so, I don't think there's much you can do, unfortunately.

 

but maybe she's just confused about what she feels, that's natural. if you do take a break, she might come to realize fully what it is she feels. which for you hopefully would be that she's in love with you

 

yeh that's exactly what i meant..

i told her to take all the time she need, she felt really bad about telling it..

that's also what she said, and i really hope the answer will be positive

she will go to rome(italy) next week for 9 days, so i hope she comes to realize what she really feels

but it's weird you know..she doesn't even understand it herself..

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ahh yeah

she's stuck in a dilemma I guess

I think in that case, she just needs some time and space, but obviously that's tough on you...

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yeah that's what you gotta keep in mind I think. just gotta stay strong while she figures it out

 

glad to help

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and just thought about this..why would she kiss and hold me all the time if she doesn't "love" me:confused:

 

Hm, good point actually. All you can do now is give her some time to "consider" what she really wants. from what i've understood, she thinks you deserve better, convince her that she's the one and not someone else. tell her if i DIDN't care.. I wouldn't have done all the effort to make sure we won't break-up.

GONE

(Thanks everyone for the good memories)

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Hm, good point actually. All you can do now is give her some time to "consider" what she really wants. from what i've understood, she thinks you deserve better, convince her that she's the one and not someone else. tell her if i DIDN't care.. I wouldn't have done all the effort to make sure we won't break-up.

i guess i'll just have to wait..give her some time, the last thing she needs is me right now..

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let me get this straight. she likes you, adores you, but she doesn't feel love, about you?

 

that's what I got from what you said at least. and if so, I don't think there's much you can do, unfortunately.

 

but maybe she's just confused about what she feels, that's natural. if you do take a break, she might come to realize fully what it is she feels. which for you hopefully would be that she's in love with you

Yeah I agree with that, But it happens... That's kinda how my ex was... she went out for me and she was all lies saying that she loved me and all that... But it was just bullshit... :(
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Yeah I agree with that, But it happens... That's kinda how my ex was... she went out for me and she was all lies saying that she loved me and all that... But it was just bullshit... :(

well i truly know that she loves me(or loved..)but i can't stand being without her, i feel like shit, i can't stop thinking about er goddamnit, guess i truly am totally crazy about her, didn't even realize how much i loved her till she broke up with me..

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well i truly know that she loves me(or loved..)but i can't stand being without her, i feel like shit, i can't stop thinking about er goddamnit, guess i truly am totally crazy about her, didn't even realize how much i loved her till she broke up with me..
Yeah well think positive or at least try to... :) I know it's hard and I guess I'm not really the person to say it but you did everything you could. :)
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Well, things aren't really looking so bad...

How long have you 2 been together?

I can tell from my own experience that after certain time you kinda feel like you're not in love with your bf/gf...it's just something you need to go through...or you do a mistake...like I did when I dumped my bf...I felt sorry after some time...

So, I guess giving her time is a good thing...especially since she says she loves you..she'll realize what she feels and what's the best to do...

I feel like this is gonna end nicely...

Good luck!^^

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Well, things aren't really looking so bad...

How long have you 2 been together?

I can tell from my own experience that after certain time you kinda feel like you're not in love with your bf/gf...it's just something you need to go through...or you do a mistake...like I did when I dumped my bf...I felt sorry after some time...

So, I guess giving her time is a good thing...especially since she says she loves you..she'll realize what she feels and what's the best to do...

I feel like this is gonna end nicely...

Good luck!^^

 

well 4 months and a bit..i know it's not that long but sometimes you just know it feels good..you probably know the feeling

did you get back together with him?

i hope she does indeed realize it..and if not well..nothingi can do right

thanks:)

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Well, things aren't really looking so bad...

How long have you 2 been together?

I can tell from my own experience that after certain time you kinda feel like you're not in love with your bf/gf...it's just something you need to go through...or you do a mistake...like I did when I dumped my bf...I felt sorry after some time...

So, I guess giving her time is a good thing...especially since she says she loves you..she'll realize what she feels and what's the best to do...

I feel like this is gonna end nicely...

Good luck!^^

 

Yeah that's really well said, when you are just together you are all in love and all, you can't stop touching and thinking about eachother, but when your relationship is growing, that all turns to i love you, it just feels more mature then, i'm together with my girl for 1 year and 9 months now, and it is nothing like when we just started, it all changed, maybe she doesn't know that kinda feeling, and it's weird for her, and she doesn't know what to do or how to react

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Yeah that's really well said, when you are just together you are all in love and all, you can't stop touching and thinking about eachother, but when your relationship is growing, that all turns to i love you, it just feels more mature then, i'm together with my girl for 1 year and 9 months now, and it is nothing like when we just started, it all changed, maybe she doesn't know that kinda feeling, and it's weird for her, and she doesn't know what to do or how to react

thats what she said exactly..it's an unknown feeling for her..

 

and well you know how close she and i were..

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thats what she said exactly..it's an unknown feeling for her..

 

and well you know how close she and i were..

 

Yeah what she said came out of nowhere, wat seems like it came out of nowhere to her, and she got scared

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have you ever heard the saying "abscence makes the heart grow fonder" ? maybe she just needs some time away from you to realise you are what she wants. she sounds very confused to me, she needs time to think about things. relationships are very complicated, one day you can feel totally loved and close to someone and the next day it can feel totally the opposite. if at the end of it she decides its over then you have to come to tearms with it and try to move on with your life. maybe if that happens you can try to stay friends with her.

 

i really hope it all wrks out for you and she decides to stay with you.

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have you ever heard the saying "abscence makes the heart grow fonder" ? maybe she just needs some time away from you to realise you are what she wants. she sounds very confused to me, she needs time to think about things. relationships are very complicated, one day you can feel totally loved and close to someone and the next day it can feel totally the opposite. if at the end of it she decides its over then you have to come to tearms with it and try to move on with your life. maybe if that happens you can try to stay friends with her.

 

i really hope it all wrks out for you and she decides to stay with you.

 

yeh i know the saying, let's just hope it works out the same way for her..she is indeed confused..that's for sure, i'll let her read your post..it might help somehow, your post is very well said

i know i have to move on if things don't work out, but that's not the problem atm, now i have to live with the feeling of doubt, that's even harder..

 

thanks alot:)

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