"Self Esteem*

[Breakdown Conspiracy]

Ok now this is just mainly me making a topic for some re-assurance but here i go.

 

Well I dont know how to put it. I kinda feel inferior to my friends, I dont really know why.

I dont have a toned chest like many of them and all I have is a flat stomach with some flab added (Its not asd bad as it really sounds ). Now I dont why it bothers me...I go for runs, and do sit ups, occasionally (which i should do more of) ButI just feel, I duno..not fat..but un-attractive. Like I'm not self-conscious say when I go and swim with friends etc...But I duno its one thing preys on my mind. I dont rally wana have a relationship with a chick atm, but I do have many frnds that are girls, and I do have my eye on few girls Another thing is education, Ive home schooled since I left elementary in 1999, and have just gotten in to the" THE NZ Correspondence school" in the last year and racked up a decent amount of "credits". It is harder though cause i dont have a teacher explaining it too me (I can ring and ask help from the school, but its hard over the phone). Um I guess I feel inferior in this way cause I dont to a physical school and have people to tell me how good/bad I am, or anyone to compare myself too. But I am going to the local "Polytechnic" next year and starting my diploma so I can start fresh from a new qualifications level. Hmm.. Im not sure where this rant is going..but any of you can offer some insight.

Cheers :thumbsup:

[Sygy]

I dont think that you should feel inferior, seeing as you were home-schooled many people would take that as an oppertunity to slack off but its really showing that you did not. Also, school isnt really everything, more importantly is life skills and how you apply them.

 

meh, your fine anyways, your at the age (dun dun dun) where many people are constantly comparing there self to there peers, so i wouldnt really pay that much attention to it!

[MrsBennington-Delson]

honestly I don't know why you should feel unattractive O.o

I can't really speek for other girls but I think a lot of girls like a bit "flab" lol I mean like they don't care if you have a six-pack or something...

I dont think that you should feel inferior, seeing as you were home-schooled many people would take that as an oppertunity to slack off but its really showing that you did not. Also, school isnt really everything, more importantly is life skills and how you apply them.

and I agree with that...

[Black_Angel]

Yeah you're not unattractive! Who cares if you're not incredibly toned or whatever, most girls tend to look at a guys face rather than his body...

 

It's normal to compare yourself to others around you, anyone who says they haven't is lying or really confident in themself.

[Yackiestinger]

I have long hair, 2 months non shaved beard, stomach called Homer (Homer Simpson), sometimes grils tease me like I'm pregnant for 3 months and they wonder when will I gave birth :-P..so what..I can get almost any girl I want...I think it's all about your attitude..I always do things on my own and I don't give a fuck what someone thinks of me... I am who I am.

 

Just listen to Eminem's "the way I am".

 

I think you figure out the rest.

[diana]

I can get almost any girl I want...I think it's all about your attitude.

True...he could even get me...:o:D:D

 

Heh, what can I say...I'm also not satisfied with my body and am too lazy to do much about it...but I'm trying to accept myself anyway...even though I'm not planning of looking like that all my life... So, I guess the point is that you should accept yourself the way you are...and better look into yourself not your body...first work on that...even though I think you're a very nice person...^^

[Yackiestinger]

go to the gym...leave blood, sweat, and tears there and you'll be muscle king

[allieking]

first off hun you don't need to be like your friends, if everyone was the same it would be very boring. i've learned in life that people come in all shapes and sizes and just because your friends have what you think is a perfect body doesn't mean you don't. what matters the most is personality, you could be the best looking guy in the world but with a crap personality no one would like you. if you wanna make yourself look better then go for it but don't feel like your inferior to others just because you don't look like them.

 

on the other subject of school, i always say you can only do as well as you can. i have 3 daughters, the eldest is nearly 13 and is top of the class for everything, then i have a 12 year old who is below average but doing well, then my youngest is 9 and lives in her own world and isn't doing so well but i know they will all do well in life. school is important but you shouldn't make yourself depressed thinking about it. aslong as you say your doing your best thats all you can do and i'm sure you will be successful in everything you do.

[Breakdown Conspiracy]

I have long hair, 2 months non shaved beard, stomach called Homer (Homer Simpson), sometimes grils tease me like I'm pregnant for 3 months and they wonder when will I gave birth :-P..so what..I can get almost any girl I want...I think it's all about your attitude..I always do things on my own and I don't give a fuck what someone thinks of me... I am who I am.

 

Just listen to Eminem's "the way I am".

 

I think you figure out the rest.

 

go to the gym...leave blood, sweat, and tears there and you'll be muscle king

 

HAHA "Homer". Man the long hair thing is basically what one of my friends is about(its his gunz n roses phase). But yea thanx for that. And yea I have that on y playlist. Oh n fuck the gym too much money. Just go for a run =D

 

EDIT: I dont really want rippling muscles. Cause then ill be a jock. But yea.

[GraDoN]

yup Allie is right you dont need to be like your friends, girls look for guys who are different most of the time

[Yackiestinger]

Guns and roses are gay..tell him that...

[Breakdown Conspiracy]

Guns and roses are gay..tell him that...

 

Hmm you have failed to consider that I may like them too. :-P The Old GnR, not the rubbish new one.

[Yackiestinger]

old can pass..but Axl's voice??...my god!

 

anyway...any progress with esteem?

[Breakdown Conspiracy]

old can pass..but Axl's voice??...my god!

 

anyway...any progress with esteem?

 

HAHA yea but Slash is teh man. Ahh yea im ok now. I was really just wanting to get some opinions.

But im going off fro a run now before I start study. So ill check back l8r.:thumbsup:

[allieking]

yup Allie is right you dont need to be like your friends, girls look for guys who are different most of the time

 

thats right, my andy is a bald ginger guy who doesn't drink or smoke, he hates football and hes a geek!!!!!

 

there you go, diffrent is very attactive.

[ElenaRosemary]

Ok now this is just mainly me making a topic for some re-assurance but here i go.

 

Well I dont know how to put it. I kinda feel inferior to my friends, I dont really know why.

I dont have a toned chest like many of them and all I have is a flat stomach with some flab added (Its not asd bad as it really sounds ). Now I dont why it bothers me...I go for runs, and do sit ups, occasionally (which i should do more of) ButI just feel, I duno..not fat..but un-attractive. Like I'm not self-conscious say when I go and swim with friends etc...But I duno its one thing preys on my mind. I dont rally wana have a relationship with a chick atm, but I do have many frnds that are girls, and I do have my eye on few girls Another thing is education, Ive home schooled since I left elementary in 1999, and have just gotten in to the" THE NZ Correspondence school" in the last year and racked up a decent amount of "credits". It is harder though cause i dont have a teacher explaining it too me (I can ring and ask help from the school, but its hard over the phone). Um I guess I feel inferior in this way cause I dont to a physical school and have people to tell me how good/bad I am, or anyone to compare myself too. But I am going to the local "Polytechnic" next year and starting my diploma so I can start fresh from a new qualifications level. Hmm.. Im not sure where this rant is going..but any of you can offer some insight.

Cheers :thumbsup:

 

It's good making a topic for reassurance.

Anything to make you feel better, y'know?=]

Everyone goes through moments when their self-esteem is low.

I did..like since 2004 until like ending of 2006, I was just crap.

All depressed &bitchy to everyone around.

Because I was displeased with myself &hated everything.

But now, I've learned SO many lessons!

I've learned to forgive, forget, think optimistically &all that.

To always look on the bright side -and kick away the crappy things.

Self-esteem also depends on how you relate with others.

I mean -if you constantly hate on people..

Then you get irritable because of it..and you feel all down.

&angry at everything..then depressed.

Because you think everybody hates you &blah blah blah.

At least that was what it was in my case.

But now -I don't hate. I NEVER hate.

I don't keep grudges -they just weigh you down.

&such a waste of time bothering to linger upon them.

I accept people for who they are.

&now what they have done..or what others say about them.

I mean -judge on what YOU see. None else.

That kind of pisses me off but ((shrugs))

Some people are just a bit narrow-minded, mhm?

Well -this is just my view on self-esteem in general.