Whats with me and girls?

[Breakdown Conspiracy]

Ok heres the deal.

I have developed a rather strong relationship with a girl called Somi (see journal). And last week she txt me said she went out with a guy, without me knowing, but then thought of me and broke up with him. We aren't going out, we do have strong feelings for each other, but I don't feel like rushing things,

and want to make sure I start University ok (she may going to the same Uni as me in a few years). But when she told me, I kinda felt bad, like I'm being restricting, but subconsciously. I talked about this to her, yet she said don't worry about it, and she didn't like the guy that much anyway.

 

Part two:

Last night she told me last night that shes a virgin, but she's given guys head. In the long run if we go out, that is a plus for me, I guess, but I kind of feel let down. I don't know why though. She is by no means a slut either.. Am I expecting to much from todays generation? I also think she may be annoyed, because I asked her, because she hasn't txt me this morning, yet she rarely doe because shes at school. I think I'm just to paranoid.... And her txt's didn't seem angry or anything, in between "lol's".

 

Your opinions?

[DarknessLover]

I deal with major paranoia, it kills me to deal with seriously. Just relax first of all. And asking her out isn't rushing things. Taking any step forward after is taking it fast, you don't have to go kissing a.s.a.p. Trust me, if she is a good girfriend she will apreciate you don't want to rush it. Plus, if you don't ask now, maybe, she will find someone else? You won't get her? That won't be good will it?

 

~DarknessLover

[Breakdown Conspiracy]

I deal with major paranoia, it kills me to deal with seriously. Just relax first of all. And asking her out isn't rushing things. Taking any step forward after is taking it fast, you don't have to go kissing a.s.a.p. Trust me, if she is a good girfriend she will apreciate you don't want to rush it. Plus, if you don't ask now, maybe, she will find someone else? You won't get her? That won't be good will it?

 

~DarknessLover

 

Thanks for the comment, and sadly your point is true. But all the same we will always remain good friends, unless one of us does something incredibly dumb...

[DarknessLover]

DONT be that one breakdown lol, trust me, girls will tick you off for a LONG time after that.

[MrsBennington-Delson]

i know how that thing with the txt messages feels xD lol

 

Imma try it this way... if you both have very strong feelings for each other that wont go away and if you do that bf/gf thing (thats what i call it) then its more like... well one step more but like in the way that you show other ppl like "look we're in love" etc... idk how to say it... that itself wont change a lot you know... i mean you'd prolly "have to take care" more bout her or somethin but i think you allready do that both since you have strong feelings for each other...

on the other side I (now) get why you think that shes a slut (well not really but idk how to say it in english)... hmm... tho I dont really know what kinda advice to give you on that one...

but all in one I'd say you should try and if you like want more tell her and if you dont tell her too bc if she loves you she'll understand and wait... and at the same time she should do the same

hope you get what i mean

[allieking]

you should be glad shes a virgin, no one wants a girl whos dirty and belive me its nice to know your the first. it sounds like you two need time to sit down and talk about your relationship, your in that in between stagge, where you don't know if your friends or something more. talk about it before she moves on and you lose her forever.

[Breakdown Conspiracy]

i know how that thing with the txt messages feels xD lol

 

Imma try it this way... if you both have very strong feelings for each other that wont go away and if you do that bf/gf thing (thats what i call it) then its more like... well one step more but like in the way that you show other ppl like "look we're in love" etc... idk how to say it... that itself wont change a lot you know... i mean you'd prolly "have to take care" more bout her or somethin but i think you allready do that both since you have strong feelings for each other...

on the other side I (now) get why you think that shes a slut (well not really but idk how to say it in english)... hmm... tho I dont really know what kinda advice to give you on that one...

but all in one I'd say you should try and if you like want more tell her and if you dont tell her too bc if she loves you she'll understand and wait... and at the same time she should do the same

hope you get what i mean

 

Thanks for the input. She has txt me back, and shes not that annoyed, she just went real quiet, cause she thought I was calling her a slut, which is far from what I think of her. She also toldme she's buying me a birthday present 0_o so she obviously doesn't hate me, unless the present is coal or something...

[MrsBennington-Delson]

I'm 100% sure she doesnt hate you... =p

just wait and you'll see you know someone told me once that the thought itself is important not the present

[Breakdown Conspiracy]

you should be glad shes a virgin, no one wants a girl whos dirty and belive me its nice to know your the first. it sounds like you two need time to sit down and talk about your relationship, your in that in between stagge, where you don't know if your friends or something more. talk about it before she moves on and you lose her forever.

Cheers allie. You seriously are the Mother Teresa/Dr Phil of LPF.

[LPHybridSnax]

nobody has had as many ups and downs with girls as me, im young, but i tend to be bipolar when it comes to attracting the opposite sex. I'm average weight (150 lbs. 5'8") not skinny, not fat, by no means "sexy". I'm always told I'm "cute" and I have a "baby face" (until i grew my facial hair out). Now I just said that so you have a feel for what i look like because, dont lie, we all know looks are 90% of first impressions that lead to relationships.

 

Do you two attend the same university? If so it would really help with a relationship.

 

Blow job matter, not a big deal. i mean sure it can piss you off, but believe me, blow jobs mean NOTHING to a girl. it's their way of saying "i like you, but just enough to keep you with me. If this makes you happy and make you want to do things for me, whatever" I have 4 older sisters, believe me i know. and of course there is a small fun factor in it for the girl too, but nothing notable.

 

Don't worry about rushing into things. What i've learned from past mistakes is to play the cards you are dealt. if you have already gotten really close to the girl and she broke up with a guy for you, that means you've waited to play your hand long enough, you don't fold when you have a full house (lol, sorry for all the poker references, but you catch my drift). Basically, what I'm saying is, just like in poker, when you wait and wait and wait for a signal, that usually never comes, you miss out on your chance and lose it all just like that.

[HaziLPTonz]

^well at least u didnt get the same spammer as the parental issues thread

 

that woulda been awkward....

 

anyways...yer i think u should go for it, like hybrid said, its nothing like waiting for sign or bluffs or whtever, u sitback,u lose, at the same time if u go for it, u might lose too....BUT, u might also win...

 

personally id take the 50/50 shot, especially in this case if you 2 have as strong a feelings as you say you do

[Boinkin buttz]

I think your just gay. Either that or you have a small penis. Chicks pick up on that stuff, ya' know!