What if you were really rich and you married someone who was not...

[Lethalfind]

What if you had absolutely buckets of cash and you married someone who did not have any money nor a background of money, would you allow that person unlimited access to your money, some access to your money or NO access to your money and why.

 

Every once in awhile you hear of a star who has a spouse with no money who blows a huge sum on something stupid (thats assuming any of that bullshit is true). I've always wondered what real people feel about this issue and what would they do in that circumstance.

 

I have to say that I would limit the access. My spouse doesn't need unlimited access to my money, if he wants to make a big purchase like a car, house vacation then he can talk to me about it. If I were the one married to a weathly man I wouldn't expect unlimited access to his money.

[hopeUslide]

To trust a person enough to marry them, says it all. If one is willing to make that commitment, everything else goes with it. I feel that when I marry, from that point forward, all is shared.

Behind every relationship is an ulterior motive, when that motive is discovered and accepted, all other concerns are moot.

[snafu]

To trust a person enough to marry them, says it all. If one is willing to make that commitment, everything else goes with it. I feel that when I marry, from that point forward, all is shared.

Behind every relationship is an alterior motive, when that motive is discovered and accepted, all other concerns are moot.

 

They this is whats wrong with our society. Why on earth would you marry someone that you can't trust? People need to wake up.

hopeUslide is right.

[eisanbt]

Could just give the boot to marriage in general...

 

Unless you're the religious type I see no reason for it's existance, aside from making people like me say things like this so that inevitable "Wait till you get older, the woman will want it!!".

 

If you're commited to somebody then firget the peper, hell I could legally Marry my Roomate Shaun if I was just after the benefits. If you need the state to handle your relationship then I find something terribly unerving about that.

 

Again, religous folks aside, the general population's enevitable destination of marriage just seems to me another useless destiny/characteristic of our greater, religious-morality based socialization.

 

 

 

 

SOOOOOO, to anwser the question: Sure as hell would share, I woulnd't get involved with somebody if I feel no trust for them. Trust is a VERY essential part of any good relationship wither that be friendship or something more. You pick your friends wisely, the same oughta be true for partners.

[manicmonday]

I did marry someone rich. I had complete access to everything he had. And like wise when I got out of college and made my own money which was a decent sum, he had complete access to that.

 

I would never marry anyone who couldn't trust me and I couldn't trust them. If I felt they were going to blow all my money, then I don't really know them well enough to get married in the first place.

 

If and when I get remarried, he too will can have anything that's mine. But I expect nothing less from him.

[ImWithStupid]

What if you had absolutely buckets of cash and you married someone who did not have any money nor a background of money, would you allow that person unlimited access to your money, some access to your money or NO access to your money and why.

 

Some access. In my opinion you can't trust most people (even someone who you trust with most things) with a large sum of money that they have not had a stake in acquiring.

 

Large amounts of money have strange effects on people.

 

It would actually depend on if I were involved with the person before I came into the money or not.

 

If I was involved with them before the money came, probably. If after the money, probably more of a limited access.

[RoyalOrleans]

Two words: Pre Nup!

[WullieTheRed]

They this is whats wrong with our society. Why on earth would you marry someone that you can't trust? People need to wake up.

hopeUslide is right.

 

Agreed, if you can't trust some bugger with yer money, then why the fook are you marrying them? People just throw themselves into marriage because it's what they've been told to do since they were kids... sometimes I honestly believe that the chick doesn't care who she's marrying, just so long as she has a nice wedding. Personally I believe that's some fucked up shit.

[sixes]

Sometimes I honestly believe that the chick doesn't care who she's marrying, just so long as she has a nice wedding. Personally I believe that's some fucked up shit.

Damn ,Im moving to Scotland! LOL -Allow me to re-word that as if an American were saying it.

"80% of women often do find themselves settling for what they can get ,rather than what they deserve." That is a double PUN people.

[RoyalOrleans]

Damn ,Im moving to Scotland! LOL -Allow me to re-word that as if an American were saying it.

"80% of women often do find themselves settling for what they can get ,rather than what they deserve." That is a double PUN people.

 

My first wife, I settled. My second wife settled on me. And to all my future exwives, you better have deep pockets. I ain't marrying no broke bitch again.

[Lethalfind]

Some access. In my opinion you can't trust most people (even someone who you trust with most things) with a large sum of money that they have not had a stake in acquiring.

 

Large amounts of money have strange effects on people.

 

It would actually depend on if I were involved with the person before I came into the money or not.

 

If I was involved with them before the money came, probably. If after the money, probably more of a limited access.

 

I agree with you, large amounts of money change a person, you don't know how that person will react until they have the money in their hands.

While the personal antecdotes are interesting the point is that its a HUGE amount of money, like millions. The kind where you would have the money to have many homes and such. Thats a different level of trust.

[manicmonday]

I agree with you, large amounts of money change a person, you don't know how that person will react until they have the money in their hands.

While the personal antecdotes are interesting the point is that its a HUGE amount of money, like millions. The kind where you would have the money to have many homes and such. Thats a different level of trust.

 

 

I'm talking LARGE sums of money. We had two homes here and one in Jamaica where's he's from. So while you might not think that counts, it was indeed large sums of money. We made six figures a year and that was each seperately not put together. So yep, been there done that. It didn't change me. It changed my lifestyle, it didn't change my personality.

[Lethalfind]

I'm talking LARGE sums of money. We had two homes here and one in Jamaica where's he's from. So while you might not think that counts, it was indeed large sums of money. We made six figures a year and that was each seperately not put together. So yep, been there done that. It didn't change me. It changed my lifestyle, it didn't change my personality.

 

I'm sorry I didn't mean you personally and I didn't realize how it was for you.

I have seen people be changed by it but obviously not all people are.

I have been through a marriage where although I didn't have buckets of money, he relied on me to pay the bills, he married me because he thought I was going to inherit buckets of money.

Not willing to go there again.

[TheJenn88]

I probably wouldn't marry someone who wasn't at least of average income. Generally, someone who meets my expectations (aside from money) would also have the income, or potential to earn an income that they can be dependant on. I wouldn't marry someone who is stupid enough to work at McDonalds. People who work there aren't your Class A intelligent people who will get everything you say to them.

 

I think if you marry someone who meets your expectations, money isn't an issue, because they should be at par with you. I gravitate towards people who are smart, hard working, funny, etc. People like that will tend to also have better jobs that pay more. So at least I don't have to worry

[eisanbt]

Money will only change you if its that importent to you. Its not hard to tell how much somebody values money just by watching them for a few days (let alone the few years that usually preceed marriage).

 

Thing such as wither or not they rely on it a lot for good times (Clubs, Vacations, Fancy Things etc..) And how generous they are with their money when they do have it. Beyond simple things such as these, perhaps you'd be best to marry a socialist, anarchist or communist. (KVH is a swinging bachalor )

[tiredofwhiners]

If you had loads of money why marry? Just do the Richard Geare(sp) Pretty woman thing and just buy the bitches. Sex is a sure thing if she gets to be a pain in the ass, go troll for a new one.

[manicmonday]

If you had loads of money why marry? Just do the Richard Geare(sp) Pretty woman thing and just buy the bitches. Sex is a sure thing if she gets to be a pain in the ass, go troll for a new one.

 

 

But he ended up with the girl at the end. And gave up the chance to make billions so he could salvage a company. Ooops that' doesn't fit what you were trying to say does it???

 

Buy the bitches, well with phrases like that men wonder why they are single or get used:rolleyes:

[Komrade Vostok Hazard]

(KVH is a swinging bachalor )

 

 

I won't have it any other way...

[Vortex]

Easy one...

 

First if I married someone....scratch that....if i could marry someone i wouldnt let them know exactly how much money I had for starters....Then when I could marry them I would set up a joint checking with them...but keep the bulk of my money in my own account they wouldnt have access to and just dump money here and there in the joint account....

 

test the waters....if down the road (couple of years) he seems responsible then i would see about opening up the cash flow.....

[sixes]

Easy one...

 

First if I married someone....scratch that....if i could marry someone i wouldnt let them know exactly how much money I had for starters....Then when I could marry them I would set up a joint checking with them...but keep the bulk of my money in my own account they wouldnt have access to and just dump money here and there in the joint account....

 

test the waters....if down the road (couple of years) he seems responsible then i would see about opening up the cash flow.....

You can Marry someone ,you just have to travel.

 

I can't speak for every woman ,but the one I'm with now I trust with everything. We have no secrets ,and she is a good person. I have no fear or need to worry about money or items.