Here's the situation as I see it.
Was I wrong to jump TJ's *** the way I did before I had all the facts? - Yes. I'll admit, I enjoy seeing an egomaniac take a tumble and I willingly added an extra large dose of fuel to this particular fire. I went overboard in my enthusiasm to verbally smack TJ around, and that was a poor decision on my part considering how events played out. I still think he's a world class douchebag and have no desire whatsoever to "kiss and make up", but I shouldn't have been so gung ho to take shots at him in this particular instance before knowing more facts. For that I do apologize.
Was RO wrong to not give credit to the original author in all of his postings? - Yes, and my guess is he would say the same. I will continue to support him 100%. He is my friend.
Was TJ wrong to not give credit to the original author in all of his postings? - Yes....you are not the completely "innocent" victim here, TJ, so don't bother playing the part.
(Believe me when I say that not a single person involved is coming out of this smelling like a rose, including myself. I am not too proud to acknowledge that, either!)
Was eddo wrong to make a comment about Tami? - Not at all. eddo can say whatever he wants to say....
....everyone here can.
I have zero control over what people do or say here, TJ. I don't know what happened to make you think I have every member here and at the Jungle by the short and curlies, but I assure you I do not. The estrogen mafia is a figment of your bruised ego's imagination, just like the GAY *** GAME that no one else was actually playing but you. What you consistently fail to understand is that the people on these boards are intelligent, they are genuine, they are observant, and they are more than capable of making a comment based on their own perceptions without another member bullying or pressuring them into saying it. I influence no one! I have no followers! For the love of ***....get that through your thick skull!
Now, what's really funny is that you complain that I have complete control over the other members and bully them to attack/******** you (that is all in your head, btw....narcissists often suffer from persecution complex). Yet when anyone says something that you don't like, you cry because I'm not jumping to your aid to defend you and admonishing them for their supposed misdeeds.
I mean, what the *** do you want????? You're upset that I have any degree of (alleged) control over members, but also upset because I don't personally take action to control them to your specifications?
I've said it before - There's no pleasing you, and I'm not even going to bother to try ever again....it's a complete waste of my time and energy. No one can meet your demands! *** Himself would be challenged to do so!
And yes, I will always defend my friends, TJ. Blindly? Perhaps...perhaps not. This group has shared so much with one another over the years! Joys, sorrows, heartache, pictures, life victories and so much more. I feel as bonded with them as I can to persons who I've never actually met and there isn't much I wouldn't do for them if asked....because I know they would do the same for me. But there's one person here who I've never made that connection with. One person for whom, after 3+ years of interactions on various sites, I still can't muster up any genuine affinity. That one person would be you....
Because you are a forum troll and have no desire to be anything but.
As I said, I feel no obligation to you in any way, shape or form. Fight your own battles. Support your own causes. Revenge your own butthurt.
I just don't care.
As chi mentioned, she and I have gone toe to toe in the past. I also have with eddo, IWS, MrsK, snaf, mercury, atlantic, RO, Bender and wez.....yet I still consider all of them friends! For the most part, I don't even recall what specific misunderstanding brought most of us to blows in the first place because we don't dwell on it. We don't throw the butthurts of the past into one another's faces on a daily basis because, unlike you, we aren't involved in a drawn out *** for tat ego match royale that goes on for infinity. Every last one of us managed to get past the problem just fine and today are able to interact with one another in a civil and even enjoyable manner.
It amazes me that you still bring up the battle between MrsK and I as if it were your own....as if it had anything whatsoever to do with you. Do you want to know how we resolved it? We both admitted we contributed to the problem, apologies were exchanged, and we agreed not to bring up the topic that brought us to that anger point with one another again....and we haven't for a very long time.
Did you pay attention to that part of the resolution, TJ? - WE AGREED NOT TO BRING UP THE TOPIC THAT BROUGHT US TO THAT ANGER POINT WITH ONE ANOTHER AGAIN.
That's where you fail miserably in truces. Rather than using a disagreement as a stepping stone to grow and then let go, you cling to it with an iron fist and beat your opponent over the head with it relentlessly and indefinitely in order to deflate them and bend them to your will. You refuse to let anything go!
Also you refuse to take any personal responsibility in any problem that you are a part of.....ever.
So what would be the point in trying to befriend you?
There wouldn't be.
You say the members here don't "give you a chance". That is a huge pile of steaming bullsh!t. I, myself, have attempted no less than THREE times to keep the peace since you've been back here and every single time it fails because at the slightest provocation you immediately dig into your bottemless arsenal of past hurts and begin hurling previous accusations and old complaints like hand grenades. How can anyone feel comfortable enough to chat you up when you continuously keep them on the defensive? Perhaps other members may hold the key to the success in dealing with the likes of you....*** bless them if they do, but I do not. And I'm beyond caring to try.
You cry because you aren't being treated fairly, yet you would be the first to shout that "life isn't fair" if the tables were turned.
Did you notice that wez was the first to come to your defense here? I can't help but wonder....would you EVER do the same for him if you felt he had been wronged unnecessarily?
I sincerely doubt it. You only want to see fairness enforced when it benefits you.
Now, I'm not asking anyone to pretend this didn't happen. If any member has a problem with how I handled this exchange, they are more than capable of voicing their displeasure with me in open comments or PMs. I certainly won't ask for nor expect special treatment from anybody and I definitely am not going to attempt to play the victim. I take full ownership for my contributions in this flame fest.
If anyone wants to give me **** for my participation in this, or any feud, they know they are more than welcome to. I think it's safe to say that I realize I need a good kick in the britches once in awhile, and I appreciate constructive criticism when it is offered up with sincerity. Not one person here fears me, TJ. That is simply a fabrication you made up and hide behind when people choose to disagree with you and you need someone/something else to blame for it other than yourself.
And with that being said, let the chips now fall where they may.
