When is a man TOO sensitive?

[emkay64]

Awww Snaf...I'm not saying an emotional moment is out of line. Although flat out, big braying sobs and snot bubbles kinda makes my skin crawl. However, I'm a frosty b tch so it just stands to reason. A tear shed here and there is human, but I don't think I could handle crying over every minute detail.

TJ--I guess it could be subjective. Tuned in...hmmm....

Sensitive to the needs of others. If my man voices concern over let's say a woman coming into work with battle wounds every day and voices he'd like to do something about it. I say he's sensitive. If he comes home and bawls over the plight of the woman...too sensitive.

Sensitive to the needs of children. If my man wants to make a monetarial contribution or volunteer for the make a wish foundation..he's sensitive. If he bawls over every telethon story..too sensitive.

Sensitive to me. If my man sees I got my hair done and he says it looks nice or does anything...grunts his approval or what have you. He's sensitive. If he notices my haircut and cries because he feels that hair feel pain and is lamenting my follicular loss..too sensitive.

These are just for instances...there are hundreds more...but I think you get the jist. I'm not going to split hairs here. It is perfectly acceptable to cry..warranted circumstances dictate. However blubbering uncontrollably, loudly and dramatically I find irritating, uncomfortable and laughable no matter if it's male or female.

 

[timesjoke]

I figured that was what you meant but I was just being sure, I agree with you completely and I have always tried to be that kind of guy who is concerned and attentive enough to be proactive but not to let myself be crippled into inaction or otherwise hampered in my day to day life by emotional weakness.

That is why I spoke of loving the person you see in the mirror, in many ways I think those who are brittle emotionally on external things are also brittle on the inside from personal distress. If your secure in your own skin, and can be proud of who you really are, then you can both love yourself and be loved by someone else in a healthy relationship of equals.

 

[Ahhlee]

I love myself. I'm just cautious about inviting another into my realm of craziness and insatiable *** unless I know he can truly handle it.

Hehe.

 

[ren]

Want to hear something unbelievable? It goes with the sensitivity bit. I haven't been working enough and so I don't have a lot of money. Anyway my car bit the dust and I've been living without one for a few months, bumming rides etc.

Well this male friend (and just a friend) decided he was tired of seen Paige and I live without a car so he bought me a car today. I am overwhelmed. No strings, just kindness. A tear came to my eye. No not the sobbing snot bubbles but I was so moved. I was just grateful when people would take me places. I sure didn't see this. Both he and I are blessed.

 

[emkay64]

Want to hear something unbelievable? It goes with the sensitivity bit. I haven't been working enough and so I don't have a lot of money. Anyway my car bit the dust and I've been living without one for a few months, bumming rides etc. Well this male friend (and just a friend) decided he was tired of seen Paige and I live without a car so he bought me a car today. I am overwhelmed. No strings, just kindness. A tear came to my eye. No not the sobbing snot bubbles but I was so moved. I was just grateful when people would take me places. I sure didn't see this. Both he and I are blessed.

I've had no vehicle for a year and 4 months. I'm starting to go a little crazy living in my mole hole. What's that guys phone number, or name, I see a facebook friend request coming.

 

[timesjoke]

Want to hear something unbelievable? It goes with the sensitivity bit. I haven't been working enough and so I don't have a lot of money. Anyway my car bit the dust and I've been living without one for a few months, bumming rides etc. Well this male friend (and just a friend) decided he was tired of seen Paige and I live without a car so he bought me a car today. I am overwhelmed. No strings, just kindness. A tear came to my eye. No not the sobbing snot bubbles but I was so moved. I was just grateful when people would take me places. I sure didn't see this. Both he and I are blessed.

This is a great story, it is pretty cool to hear real life stories of people doing good things just because it is good.

 

[Chi]

He can still be a man's man and be sensitive IMO.

Yes! Agreed!

 

[Chi]

The last time I cried was on March 17th 1992 around 1800 hours when I fell backwards off a platform, crashed through the weathered OSB, and landed **** first in the rock and sand.
I had a full pack of Marlboros in my back pocket, crushed beyond recognition... along with my coccyx.

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I can't watch a man cry. It's pathetic.

where you been, man?!

 

[atlantic]

Want to hear something unbelievable? It goes with the sensitivity bit. I haven't been working enough and so I don't have a lot of money. Anyway my car bit the dust and I've been living without one for a few months, bumming rides etc. Well this male friend (and just a friend) decided he was tired of seen Paige and I live without a car so he bought me a car today. I am overwhelmed. No strings, just kindness. A tear came to my eye. No not the sobbing snot bubbles but I was so moved. I was just grateful when people would take me places. I sure didn't see this. Both he and I are blessed.

Sweet story; but are you sure there will be no strings attached? I don't trust it.

 

[timesjoke]

Sweet story; but are you sure there will be no strings attached? I don't trust it.

There are still good people in the world Atlantic, only Ren knows for sure how their relationship is formed but I am also sure she can handle it if the guy trys to change it.

Ren, just be sure the car is in your name in case things do change so he can't take it back.

 

[ren]

Sweet story; but are you sure there will be no strings attached? I don't trust it.

Positive, he has a g/f and I've known him most of his life. We just always liked each others personalities He had a rough childhood and I always felt bad about that. I was always amazed that he didn't turn out to be a negative person. Have you ever met anyone that you just like because they are who they are? Well that's pretty much the case.

 

[eddo]

Positive, he has a g/f and I've known him most of his life. We just always liked each others personalities He had a rough childhood and I always felt bad about that. I was always amazed that he didn't turn out to be a negative person. Have you ever met anyone that you just like because they are who they are? Well that's pretty much the case.

you should give him some sweet sweet lovin' as a thank you.

that seems fair to me.

 

[ren]

I do , the platonic kind. Just because your wife/gf is a hooker doesn't mean I am

 

[atlantic]

Positive, he has a g/f and I've known him most of his life. We just always liked each others personalities He had a rough childhood and I always felt bad about that. I was always amazed that he didn't turn out to be a negative person. Have you ever met anyone that you just like because they are who they are? Well that's pretty much the case.

Yeah, guitargis, aka sixes, aka trademark from The Jungle. I would help him out if he needed it and I had it.

 

[Ahhlee]

you should give him some sweet sweet lovin' as a thank you.

that seems fair to me.

Give me a car and see if I finally open up my bedroom window.

 

[eddo]

give me a car and see if i finally open up my bedroom window.

ohhhhh ****!!!!!!

 

[hugo]

I cried once. Word of advice: never attempt to get a ******* from a rattlesnake.