allies advice.

[Acezorz]

Thanks allie!

 

[allieking]

your welcome, let me know what happens

 

[Acezorz]

Well, I think I know why shes been off with me; apparently at the BBQ when I got drenched with a hosepipe, I said to one of my lady friends to 'take me to my room' or something like that. I didn't mean it in a sexual way or anything like that, I was drunk and all I remember was that I needed to change. My lady friend knew what I meant and thought nothing of it, but my other friends around me laughed as if I'd meant it in another way. I think this might have ****** Gina off.

*** i'm such an idiot, I shouldn't have got drunk in the first place... I need to talk to her, but she's on holiday atm

 

[allieking]

you have time to plan what your gonna say while shes on holiday, or maybe write a letter explaining your behavior. when you say things to people they forget in time but a letter can be read over and over again.

 

[Acezorz]

Yeah..maybe I will write one, it seems a cool idea, thanks allie

 

[allieking]

make sure you write everything you feel, sit quietly and really put your heart into it.

 

[Linkin_lp_park]

Hey Allie,

On page 1 I told you about me and my ex girlfriend

Last week I said to her that i didn't want any hope from her, and since then i haven't got any from her, but now i don't know how she feels about me

Now lately i thought i was getting over her, I stopped missing her, didn't have the need to talk to her and/or see her.

But last wednesday she was at my place, we watched some movies and stuff,

and now I realize i DO miss her again..

You think I should tell her or just let it go?

Thanks

 

[untitled]

if i may:

as i know alot of the situation from you i would say let it go..if she has feelings for you she will come to you again..

 

[allieking]

Hey Allie,
On page 1 I told you about me and my ex girlfriend

Last week I said to her that i didn't want any hope from her, and since then i haven't got any from her, but now i don't know how she feels about me

Now lately i thought i was getting over her, I stopped missing her, didn't have the need to talk to her and/or see her.

But last wednesday she was at my place, we watched some movies and stuff,

and now I realize i DO miss her again..

You think I should tell her or just let it go?

Thanks

i'd tell her. she can't read minds and she doesn't know how you feel. this makes things hard for you when your together. explain how you feel, but explain that you don't want to lose her as a friend. both of you need to get your feelings in the open so you can talk about where you go from here, how you have a friendship without you feeling like you do now.

when you have feelings for someone and you don't let them know it creates an atmosphere between you and she will notice.

 

[Linkin_lp_park]

i'd tell her. she can't read minds and she doesn't know how you feel. this makes things hard for you when your together. explain how you feel, but explain that you don't want to lose her as a friend. both of you need to get your feelings in the open so you can talk about where you go from here, how you have a friendship without you feeling like you do now.
when you have feelings for someone and you don't let them know it creates an atmosphere between you and she will notice.

Yeah but she knows i'm not over her yet..

But since we didn't talk about it for the last week I was wondering what her thoughts are now, 'cause it's going great between us as friends, we have the most fun and all

But i don't know if it's good to talk about it with her now..we broke up a month ago now, and we've had a relationship for 2 years, at our age, that's a really really long time

So i think i let it go for now, and when she comes up to me to talk about anything near that area, i let her know

Thanks allie

 

[allieking]

shes proberbly keeping quiet because she thinks its easier for you not to talk about it. as you say if she wants to talk then let her. you guys sound like you will be friends forever, you have a strong friendship and a bond that can't be broken. the feelings you have will get easier with time and you will find yourself thinking about her as your girlfriend less and as a friend more.

hope it all goes well, i'm here if you need me

 

[Linkin_lp_park]

shes proberbly keeping quiet because she thinks its easier for you not to talk about it. as you say if she wants to talk then let her. you guys sound like you will be friends forever, you have a strong friendship and a bond that can't be broken. the feelings you have will get easier with time and you will find yourself thinking about her as your girlfriend less and as a friend more.
hope it all goes well, i'm here if you need me

Thank you

You're right, we have a bond that can't be broken, we used to fight ALOT, but it always turned out good again..even the last few times when i learned to open my mouth too.

Some people really don't understand why we still talk and see eachother, but i feel right when we're together.

And yeah, the feelings will get less, just let time do it's thing

We always will have a special bond because of all the memories we have, and the time we've shared

 

[allieking]

i'm back from my weekend break, hope everyone is doing ok

 

[Phranka]

Okayy allie, I came here cause you suggested me to.

I don't usually go to advice threads but here it is haha.

So I've been seeing this guy I've met on the internet, living 2 blocks away from me.

we met in real life about 1,5 week after we met on the internet.

we met so fast cause we really got along and he couldn't wait.

after the first date he was surprised at my shyness but he still wanted to try.

after the third date he was a little disappointed and wasn't sure if we should go on

but I talked him out of it and thought of a solution.

after the fourth date he was proud cause I talked more.

since then I was starting to get more used to him.

yesterday went really well, it was the fifth date and we watched a movie. cuddled as usual.

what I'm wondering now is he's touched half my body (nothing explicit) already but

we haven't done anything close to kissing yet. and if we had we probably wouldn't be

in between that friendship-relationship stage yet. and I feel like we've skipped a step xD

I also think one simple kiss can make me more initiative.

but I don't wanna try anything I haven't done myself yet.

how do I get him to this place?

sorry if I sound pathetic

 

[allieking]

you don't sound pathetic hun.

i have been in this situation with andy (yes it happens at my age too). the first time we went out somewhere together it was awkward, we were sat in his car talking and we were getting on great, talking about ourselves. we were talking for about 2 hours and i wanted to kiss him but didn't know how to approach it as he was very shy, then he said "i have a sore lip" to wich i replyed " do you want me to kiss it to make it better" this broke the tension and we kissed.

its hard to be in that place, the in between phase when you want to kiss him but not sure how to approach it. wait till your alone and cuddling, turn to him and say "would you mind if i kissed you" i know its hard when your shy but once you have that first kiss the tension between you two will go and you can be a couple instead of being friends.

also men like women who make the first move, also remember hes proberbly feeling thesame as you.

good luck sweetie xx

 

[Phranka]

thanks allie, I'll see what happens ^^'

 

[allieking]

your welcome sweetie.

hve you told him how you feel? maybe that would ease the tension.

 

[Phranka]

well I'm afraid I'll sound too flattering or bulltalking or something.. and he'll take it as a joke. he's a pretty sarcastic person.

I'm also afraid he doesn't feel the same way.

 

[allieking]

wouldn't you feel better knowing the answer to those questions though rather than worrying about them? relationships are based on trust and communication, you need to talk about how your feeling or it will cause problems. tell him how your feeling but let him know before you tell him that what your going to tell him is serious and not to make a joke out of it.

 

[Phranka]

I'm really bad at that haha. I myself am a person who covers things up with jokes.

and he doesn't compliment me very often or tells me what he thinks about me.

he's more teasy, which I don't mind really.

we'll probably get to that eventually, if he feels more committed himself.