Am I Too Mean?

snafu

snafu

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Your punishment is certainly apt, but what's missing is the guilt-trip.
Have you thought about lecturing her incessantly, brow-beating her over and over again, and telling her what a terrible human being (you are worried) she has become, and how incredibly ashamed you are of her?

My mother used guilt and shame to make my sisters and I behave. I'm not sure if it's "right" but it certainly worked.
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Yeah my dad used to say " where did I go wrong". It was worse than any punishment.

 
ImWithStupid

ImWithStupid

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Your punishment is certainly apt, but what's missing is the guilt-trip.
Have you thought about lecturing her incessantly, brow-beating her over and over again, and telling her what a terrible human being (you are worried) she has become, and how incredibly ashamed you are of her?

My mother used guilt and shame to make my sisters and I behave. I'm not sure if it's "right" but it certainly worked.
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That explains alot. :D

 
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emkay64

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OMG! You aren't too mean at all! I think back to how my parents reacted. I would have had a belt applied. Grounding wouldn't have been an option.

I always tell mine that if they lie to me about the little things I can believe them when it comes to the big stuff. After Emily's stealing incident I was completely shocked. She told me lies about where she got stuff and I didn't even question that she was telling me the truth. I told her that my trust was gone....and if she was older so would her freedom.

You are absolutely doing the right thing. Next time though...I'd ask the police to hold her for a few hours :p

 
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