CMF, what the **** do you care what Phantom looks like? Seriously, its like border line creepy at this point..
I have known her for over 7 years. Throughout that time she has sent me several hundred pics of her and her family. Its kind of hard to obtain several hundred pictures of an alternate family.
Funny... there is no one I have known for years... who I have never met in person and can only attest to their appearance based on photos they sent me.
It isn't a matter of caring what someone looks like. It is a matter of the motives behind lying about one's appearance on-line.
Typically there are 3 common motives.
1. Someone is of the opposite gender of the person in the photo and they are attempting to see if they can "fool" straight / gay into "falling in love" with them. Someone falls in love and gets hurt.
2. Someone (usually a woman) is trying to entice members of the opposite *** into falling in love... in order to get money out of them. They will use a photo of an attractive woman and they will have some victim story of rape or abuse. They will typically target some less-than-attractive man and win him over as a friend ... then they will confide in him about their victimhood and need of rescue... and the guy will feel for them and end up sending money. Small amounts at first.. then larger and larger. Finally the guy demands they meet face to face and the woman of his dreams goes POOF... or sometimes has someone else post that she has died tragicly.. and the guy either feels like a fool.. or spends years grieving the death of someone who never existed.
3. Someone (again, usually a woman) has some serious self-esteem issues, and other issues as well, and used fake photos in order to fish for compliments. She is screwed up to the point that she actually convinces herself that the compliments are intended toward her even though she knows the people complimenting the photos have no clue what she lookd like. She lives a rich fantasy life and has extraordinary claims about wealth and furtune and being well educated... yet anyone with a highschool diploma can see from her posts that she is neither wealthy nor educated. She initially claims to be happily married
(and usually is married but not very happy) but will be on line all hours of the day and night waiting to reply to anyone who posts... and she will claim she has insomnia and uses her computer as a method of coping with the long and boring nights. She, too, typically has a victim story... only her stories are true to some extent although they are embelished. She also gets involved in on-line relationships, only she actually falls in cyber-love as well. She talks as if she is actually going to meet him some day, yet one can hang their hat on the fact that something mysterious will happen and she just cant make it.
(her dog dies, her child is sick, someone mugged her or raped her again... etc) Her on-line relationships come to an end when the man gives an ultimatum, or when he actually meets her and she makes him feel like **** for not being in-love with this person he is seeing for the first time in his life... while he is expecting the woman he has 300 photos of. Typically he will keep her secret for a time... out of nothing but sympathy. I have even seen those who would swear that really is her in the pics... I know because I met her only to later admit he is lying for her because he felt bad for being so shallow that he couldnt love her regardless of what she looked like. But eventually the truth does come out. Usually when that happens the guy leaves the site out of pure shame... and the woman has a whole new batch of fake pics she begins to claim are the REAL her.
I believe #3 is the case with Phantom.
Why do I believe this? Read the last paragraph again... Look back over her posts and post times... and figure it out for your self.
Why do I care? I don't really care as in I am personally offended. I care as in... I have seen the damage that is done to guys who get caught up in the **** because they want to believe it is true... and it ain't pretty. It should be a crime IMO.
I don't care how many photos someone has sent you. If they don't have the common decency or respect for their self and you to stand face to face with you and look you in the eyes while they are calling you their friend and/or telling you they love you... They are phony... and their words hold no value.
{edit} - About the bible.... I don't personally understand how people can argue about whether or not a *** is the one who did this or that in the bible... until they can show that a *** exists.