About 4 years ago, my girlfriend of 18 years got pregnant unexpectedly. We never used anything but natural birth control methods, me being careful to remove it from the birth canal, the whole time we were together. When we were young we'd have sex several times a day, everyday. At the time she got pregnant she was taking birth control pills to help regulate her periods and so I was less careful. I knew she was pregnant before she did as I kept asking her if she has gotten her period yet. Finally, after like 2 months I went and got a test kit and sure enough, she was pregnant.
Things had been very bad in our relationship for a long time as she was a very verbally abusive, manipulative, angry person. Her entire family is this way. She watched her older sister have 2 kids to trap men twice over and torture the man and children on a daily basis. Her two brothers used kids to trap women and torture the kids and women on a daily basis.My girlfriend was the same way in many ways, towards me, but I never let her get any legally binding strings attached to me. I stayed because I wanted to, not because I had to. I did love her and understand why she was this way but it got to be too much. I couldn't take any more and ended the relationship 2 years ago.
As for the abortion, we talked about it and both decided that it was the best thing as I knew she would torture the child as well and in the back of her mind, so did she. She hated her sister for what she did to her kids and men, although she didn't see that she did the exact same to me, I assure you, she does now. It was probably the main factor why we both never wanted to have kids together. It would have been a bloody nightmare. We stayed together for another 2 years of hell and to this day, I know the proper decision was made. I wouldn't have lived through a child being used against me in the most evil ways possible.. Not good for any child..
I do sometimes feel really bad about the decision and even cry, but I made my bed and as much as I would have loved to have kids in a happy, healthy household like I grew up in, I didn't make those choices in my pick of a partner and know the proper decision was made.